prior to discovering the globalized drop in anxiety that transitioning has given me, i didn't realize i was really trans. i knew i had some kind of gender dysphoria, but couldn't pinpoint exactly what it was. a large part of the problem was that:
A: i was attracted to women.
B: my gender dysphoria hadn't gotten to the point where my subconscious self had started to push through yet.
C: i hadn't even thought i was anything but metro or effeminate. ("but i like girls")

i started trying myself out by admitting, firstly, that i was at the very least not 100% male. that led to "well, maybe i'm bi gendered/two spirit."

that worked for a bit, but eventually its led me to today where i'm discovering that, if anything, i dont identify as male at all anymore, am still on the fence as to whether or not i call myself "she", but the sense of peace and self confidence grows every time i go out in public looking as mega cute as possible and i know my makeup is perf and my outfit makes my hips look bomb.

this feel is so new to me that i'll sometimes say i'm "trans-ishkinda' or "trans-somethingidkanymore"

aside from all that, the other conclusion of logical following is that if i consider myself female, yet am still attracted to women, that makes me a lesbian, which intrigues me, as i've always felt predominately psycho/sexual/romantically attracted to non-hetero females prior-knowledge of their sexual preference. *shrug* something about their mannerisms or look or attitude, or god knows what else. i've never dated a cis/hetero girl, never dated a dude, but always been with "non-standard" women.

currently i'm lucky enough to be dating an amazing human being, who's bio female but id's as neither/both/fluid and seems to be digging me alright, despite that she's told me she id's as lesbian herself, and the whole "built in strap-on" is weird to her sometimes, but she says i'm adorable and loves doing my nails for me, or playing with makeup together, and has been super supportive of this whole thing, so i feel super lucky. i know a lot of non-standards have issues with relationships, and i'm no exception. just blessed.   

an interesting thing i've noticed in this relationship is that when i met this person, i ID'd as "andro/genderfluid." after feeling free and allowed to experiment with my own identity, im finding i ID as female, and the more i ID as female, the less i see my gf as a bi female and more of a lesbian. all social nomenclature, sure, but fascinating subjective experience nonetheless.

im no longer sure where i was going, but im trying not to feel like a special snowflake. any others out there who discovered a change in sexual preference labelling/personal identity/subjective experience of partner's identity?

idk. i went from hetero-metrosexual to gynosexual-genderfluid to lesiban MTF and i know i'm not the only person who's been confused about it and wanna hear about it. this is a thing, right? i'm not that kind of crazy :/

Two things you have to consider is gender identity and sexual preference.
Sexual preference is who you want to go to bed with.
Gender identity is who you want to go to bed as.

Once you decide on gender identity, it will tell you what your body should be. Sexual preference will not enter into the decision. Sexual preference will only tell you if you will be heterosexual, Gay, Bi or Asexual. We have many MTFs on the site who remain with their wife and both are still very happy. I have heard of FTMs who remain with their husband and are happy as well. You will also hear stories of both entering a heterosexual relationship after their transition.

In sort, there is nothing unusual about what you describe and the only warning is to be sure about your gender identity. After you you know that, you can figure the rest out.

Here's a YouTube channel that talks about the TransLesbian community,

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCEh6LHIz55XXeIDfhRwGytQ

Chapter one of #TransLesbian series,

I personally believe that gender identity is not just a two sides puzzle but a scale. Exploring your gender identity is definitely the first step to be clearer on where you stand and where you want to be. It is also slightly fluid in the sense that you will identify differently in various situations. The confusion over where you stand is common, however just take your time and enjoy being with your partner. You will see where you prefer to stand in time.

You will do fine, not worry