First of all, good luck at your appointment! I'm sorry to hear that you're in pain, especially pain without a clear diagnosis. You've asked a very important question. I hope you eventually get the great doctor you deserve.
I'll give my two cents based on my experiences with Lupron. I'm a transman roughly the same age as you and I took Lupron before my eventual hysterectomy, to combat pain caused by uterine fibroids and endometriosis. I was taking a standard dose of testosterone when I took Lupron.
Lupron is what I would consider a "hardcore" medication – one that doesn't treat your body lightly and shouldn't be taken without understanding exactly what you're getting into. The bottom line is that Lupron doesn't simply mimic surgical menopause: it can have very different side effects. And side effects caused by Lupron do not necessarily go away when you stop taking Lupron. It may take months for them to go away.
When I compare my experience with Lupron-induced menopause vs. surgical menopause, I would say that typical menopausal symptoms like hot flashes, night sweats, brain fog, joint pain and body aches, etc. were similar in both cases. Well, the aches and pains were more severe with Lupron, which seems to be a common complaint.
However,
and this is a huge however, the psychological side effects of Lupron were
far more severe than anything I experienced from surgical menopause. Before taking Lupron, I had mild to moderate general anxiety. Post-surgical menopause, I have slightly higher levels of anxiety than I used to.
Lupron itself was an absolute horrorshow. Taking Lupron prompted severe anxiety, including weeks of near constant panic attacks, depression, and full-blown mania. These derailed my life and took months to start to dissipate after the Lupron wore off. It was a terrifying experience.
If you have any history of anxiety, depression, or other mood disorders, I would advise against Lupron. Even if you don't, I would advise you to be careful if you do end up taking Lupron. Be vigilant about identifying possible mood symptoms and, if possible, alert your friends or family members so that they can keep an eye out for changes as well.
I highly recommend giving these blog posts a once-over:
http://mooshinindy.com/2010/06/06/lupron-just-say-oh-hell-no/http://mooshinindy.com/2009/12/06/the-ugly-lupron-truth/I think we're both too new to send PMs, but I'm happy to answer any other questions you have. And if you feel comfortable posting your location, I might be able to recommend a doctor to you. Take care!