Hello!

So i finally got myself to call a therapist to get an appointment but unfortunately i have to wait several months for it now. Is there anything i can do while waiting for my appointment (and HRT further in the future)?

I have a pretty high weight, so one step could be losing weight while waiting. But is there something else to do except for simply waiting?

Thanks for answers! 

You could have a look here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,186111.msg1656959.html#msg1656959


*hugs*

Continue having fun dressing up and stuff; I know you do that, I read your other thread for a bit of background.

For weight, I mean, what really matters is if you're healthy.  HRT moves fat and changes some muscles, so as long as you're in good shape you'll do fine ❤❤

If there's any more out-omg you can do, maybe it should come to that.  Remember though, "being transgender is like being pregnant; at some point, it doesn't have to be announced anymore" (someone said that here a couple weeks ago, kudos to you).

Many *hugs* xoxo

Do whatever makes you feel good.

I think if you're seriously overweight it might stop you getting HRT. Hopefully that's a good motivation to get it down.

Get in the habit of drinking tons of water lol 

Facial hair removal. It's never to early to start that and there is nothing like getting up in the morning and not needing to shave.

Everything that requires time is good to get going while you have the wait for HRT. Hair removal is a must as soon as possible because it takes time. Also losing weight can be more difficult on HRT so if you need to lose any now maybe easier than later. Start working on your wardrobe and anything else you need to. Every little thing you can do before HRT will help you out later. Hugs
Mariah

Great suggestions so far... just wanted to add that voice training was a huge part of my transition, and this seems to be a part of the process that's often left until after some women go full-time. 

Of course it's up to you when you start working on your voice, but I can tell you that because I started training very early, my voice is taking me a long way (ie. it's helping me pass as female very consistently), regardless of what I look like physically at this stage.

Quote from: starting_anew on March 02, 2016, 06:07:27 PM
Great suggestions so far... just wanted to add that voice training was a huge part of my transition, and this seems to be a part of the process that's often left until after some women go full-time. 

Of course it's up to you when you start working on your voice, but I can tell you that because I started training very early, my voice is taking me a long way (ie. it's helping me pass as female very consistently), regardless of what I look like physically at this stage.

Many people say voice training is  one of the hardest things.

Well imo it simply takes consistency ... a few minutes a day, over months... don't overstrain your voice ... just stop ... especially in the beginning...


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As others say,

Hair removal, if you plan to, must be started as soon as possible. This may takes several years to get the results you want

Voice training, it can be a short or long journey depending on your starting voice but it's never too early to begin.

Try different clothes, learn what fits you right and whats not and remember : skirts and dresses don't fit anyone including cis girls. You will learn which color and type of clothes to hide what you wanna hide and emphasis your great points.

If you wanna lose weight, it's a good idea to start now but keep it slow as you don't wanna create body imbalances before stating hrt. Better than losing weight itself you may try to change your lifestyle slowly like eating habits, adding sports or any physical activities to your routine and an activity that help you change your mind.

Any kind of physical activities will help you stay away from depressive feeling and let you enjoy your transition better cause at start it's peak and valley.

You can also analyse your family/friends/coworkers this way youll have an easier integration afterward cause you'll know how to prepare them and how to reduce the shock it may cause to some of them. It's good to know better peoples around us anyway

Oooh and try to learn the limit between feminin and too much. It's up to you if you wanna be too much, but many trans seem not to realize how extreme they are. If you go this way, at least know it

Now, keep it up. You're only a few months away from what you want.

I am in similar boat. Though it's been nearly six months since coming out, my transition for MTF has been a lesson in patience. I would echo many of the comments that suggest facial hair removal, it can be incredibly rewarding and makes shaving decidedly easier. I would also echo your own suggestion about losing weight now before HRT when it may be easier. Beyond that, play around with clothes and make-up, but don't invest too much in a new wardrobe if you are planning on losing a significant amount of weight. I made this mistake with a few items I treated myself to right after I came out and now they are HUGE. All that said, I feel your pain and frustration. I am still two months out before I can begin HRT. Here in California we are fortunate in that we are an informed consent state and don't require letters to begin hormone therapy, but as I am seeking treatment at the LA LGBT Center it has taken months and months and seemingly endless months to get approved for treatment and schedule my informed consent appointment. May 3rd though. So close, yet so far. Try not to lose hope. It will come. Lastly, have you tried getting your nails done or eyebrows thinned and shaped? These small things can do wonders for your spirits.   

Quote from: SheaEllen on March 03, 2016, 12:06:30 AM
Beyond that, play around with clothes and make-up, but don't invest too much in a new wardrobe ...

Thats why many people use second hand clothes ... since size is likely to change somewhat in any case ... like with fat redistribution etc ...


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