Well I don't know exactly what is going on and if my sexuality is actually changing. How many of had the process of having been attracted to females only when you where male. Then starting hormones and feeling it shift towards bisexuality and now it feels if it shifted to males only. 

My sexual fantasies is like me female with a male in it  Being pre-op obviously but it changed I was never the type of guy that had that typical I am going to take advantage of that girl thing. But it sort of changed majorly for me and the idea of being female in my fantasies with a man really turns me on.

I am not like in normal men when I see a hot girl al my biological alarms go off. If I stand in front of the magazine counter my eyes drift towards the male models. Woman are invisible to me. How does this work can my sexuality be that fluit?

Sorry but you really need to sort out your sexuality for yourself. Yes some people do have fluid sexualities, and there are plenty of trans people who either gradually or suddenly find themselves with different sexual orientations during or after the process of transition. Sexual preference and attraction is a personal thing. This is just an observation and may have no basis in reality or fact but I notice that, for mtf people, once the testosterone has been reduced significantly the clamour in the head around sex and sex and more sex is significantly reduced, which allows one to potentially have a different or modified approach to sexual interests and desires. I know that for myself even though I remain attracted to women it is nothing like it used to be and I even find some men "interesting". Rather than letting that freak me out or confuse me I'm just gonna roll with it.

I always been bi , but since being on estrogen  any concerns about a naked man next to me has flown out the window.

Your avatar pic is really nice .

Well I'd say don't overthink.

As MTF its possible you craved feminine parts and tried to go against some male parts.
Being on hormones can allow you to get more settled and at ease with parts of you.

Just feel what comes naturally to you ... I'd say.

And realize its called sexual attraction.
There is also romantic attraction.
Men and women usually are different in relationships... so it can be a difference if you are together with a man or a woman.
There are a few people who simply cannot relate to men on a relationship level but consider themselves bisexual.
Others like very much to be together with men.

I'd say just enjoy what you feel ...


*hugs*

I'll take a shot, you're queer!   I am and always have been.  With more than enough experience I know for myself that mutual attraction and a loving bond is more important than my partners gender.

Having been here for a few years and working intensely with trans groups I have seen trans women who swear they have zero attraction for guys and then turn completely around.

Much like our ability to deny and repress our gender identity we are also capable of denying our fluid sexual orientation.  Check out Stephanie's latest thread about it.

Really tho please don't worry about attractions and labels.  I hope you can focus more on how you feel, and you know you feel moved by....?

There are still people who believe that gender and orientation are immutable and unchanging.  I feel like there is plenty of anecdotal experience to question that assumption.  A fav bumper sticker=We're queer we're here, get used to it.

I was always attracted to guys through high school and college.  And I still am after transition.  But now I find myself attracted to women, too.

A lot of stuff changes during gender transition, and it's difficult to predict beforehand how things will end up.  I'm reminded of what the flight attendants say as the plane is landing: "Be careful in opening the overhead bins - contents may have shifted in flight."

If memory serves, you married your high school sweetheart.  If you want to figure out your sexuality without actually having sex with a number of people (that may be more fun, who knows?) then you should ask yourself just how much of you marrying your wife and having a child with her was part of someone else's vision for your life rather than your own.

In other words, when you were a small child, did your parents spoon feed you the idea that you were going go grow up to be a man, marry a woman, and have children and live happily ever after?  My parents sure did that with me.

Or were you and your wife kind of the "campus couple" in high school?  That pretty young forever joined at the hip couple that all the single students envied because you had a head start on that get married and have children thing?

If either of these things is true, then your sexuality may have been subsumed to the self esteem effects of successfully living a life according to other people's expectations.

And now that you and your wife are separated and other people's expectations have evaporated, you own your own heart and mind and things are changing.

HRT did not change my sexuality. It did change me in that I am out as trans and that I like guys. Perhaps dealing with my reality allowed me to free myself finally.

For me, I was bisexual pre-HRT but with more attraction to women. I had sexual relationships with both women and men pre-HRT but more often with women.

Post-HRT I have experienced a significant shift. I am still bisexual but now with MUCH more attraction to men. I have had sexual relationships with quite a few men post-HRT. And I am still pre-op for the moment at least.

Among my hundreds of trans friends, some have changed sexuality dramatically as I have. Others of my friends have gone the opposite direction -- meaning pre-HRT attracted to men and post-HRT attracted to women although this might apply to fewer of my trans female friends. And many of my trans female friends have had no change at all to sexuality upon transitioning to womanhood -- meaning, if they were attracted men pre-HRT it is stayed as attraction to men post-HRT and if it was attraction to women pre-HRT it is has stayed attraction to men post-HRT.

Some of my trans female friends tell me they cannot imagine how a trans girl would be attracted to anyone but men. My Pageant friends have sometimes said this to me. Other trans female have said to me that it is absolutely grosteque that I feel attracted to men and look at me with a bit of disgust.

It is up different for each person.

Making it even more interesting is potential attraction to other full-time trans girls. I myself have sexual relationships with other trans-girls when I have been post-HRT. xx

Awesome guys I just wanted to know what the experience was around it for other people.

Hahaha, "help me figure out my sexuality" sounds like an awesome pickup line.  You should use it!

In my mind, there's only one way to figure out one's sexuality: if it looks fun, give it a shot!

I was at an LGBT mental health conference a few weeks ago and a trans woman gave a great answer for anyone struggling with their sexuality "society is obsessed with putting us in boxes, if you don't like the boxes on offer then make your own & screw the lid on tight"

I'm wondering myself. I'm more attracted to women but have no fantasies in that direction. I'm definitely turned off towards men at the moment.

As to who is sexually attracted to ME -- it is definitely MEN now, overwhelmingly, online especially but also in person. I have dated in real life some of the men who were initially attracted to me online. It's great to be a girl for this aspect.

I thought I was bi my entire adult life until I started my hormones, now I find the only feminine body I need in my bed is mine!

Now I consider myself a straight female, but it's all labels isn't it? Sexuality matters to the media and the public consciousness, forget the labels, be you and see who you are attracted to in the future!

Really the only one who can tell for sure what your sexuality is is you. Being pre-hrt I personally would welcome bisexuality with open arms but i dont know how i would feel if it shifted completely.

A friend of mine told me that about three months into HRT she was startled to realize while she was walking through the mall, she was checking out men.  She said her wife was practically laying on the sofa laughing when she told that.

Personally, I don't expect any changes in the next few months of HRT since when I was 13, I had a crush on the boy next door and the girl across the street at the same time.  Now after all these years married to Miss Dee, it won't matter anyway.  She takes a real dim view of me dating anyone. Just as I take a dim view of her going out with a boyfriend.  But thankfully she's admitted she used to check out the same girls in bikinis at the beach I was checking out.  So me transitioning to female is a little bit of a bonus to her.  She can finally check out real ass and boobs.

This is something I have struggled with in trying to come to terms with my own sexuality. Almost all of my sexual fantasies for years have involved me fantasizing about being in the female position sexually. I've really struggled to understand this, since I've never been attracted to men. I think in terms of the mechanics of sex, I'm attracted to the idea of being with a man, but when I think of intimacy, the idea of being with a man is really a turn off. I love the feminine body, & don't find the muscular male body structure to be attractive at all. Seems this is different for everyone.

I'm totally attracted to men since I completed my transition many years ago, I'm now married to a man nearly 6 years, I too Adchop, love my feminine body and so does my husband, I love the intimacy with his male muscular strong body that takes a leading role and takes care of me in our relationship, a strong man that accepts me as a woman, the way he looks at me, the way a man looks at a woman, I could never be intimate with another woman, women friends are great for girly stuff, but intimacy only with a strong man.