The girl I've been talking to for days online does not know I am trans. We both like each other and have done skype before. I'm scared that if I don't tell her she might know sooner or later and get mad  . But if I do tell her I don't know how she will react . Im honestly scared because we really like each other and she brings a smile to my face. How do I go about telling her that I am trans? Can someone give me an example of how to tell her that Im trans.

the only thing I can say is put yourself in her place and her perspective. How would you want to be treated if you were her/

If you tell her and she takes it badly then, in all honesty, she probably is not the kind of person you really want to know anyway.

You could always start a conversation about trans people and see what she says, if she sounds positive or neutral then just tell her. If she sounds negative or hostile I seriously suggest giving her a wide berth and start looking for someone else to Skype with.

"So there's something I haven't told you about me and I'm hoping it won't make you like me any less. I'm a female to male transgender person. Do you know what that means?" And go from there.

Like Ms. Grace said, if she reacts poorly, she isn't someone you're meant to be with. There's really no easy way to have that conversation, so it's probably best to just be direct.

i agree with what the others said, if she doesn't respond well she probably isn't someone for you. if you WANT to test the waters without coming out, casually mention something LGBT related. i don't usually tell people right off the bat because it's like one or two dates, and we don't hit it off it's like meh, what's the point? so if it does go further, you need to eventually tell her. especially if you plan on meeting, aren't on T, and don't have surgery.

I'd bring up the North Carolina bill.

http://www.thegailygrind.com/2016/03/24/trans-man-destroys-north-carolinas-dangerous-new-anti-lgbt-law-in-one-brilliant-tweet/

If she's like "oh gross a trans guy" then... actually, I wouldn't call it quits quite yet.  Where most people are aware that transwomen exist, I feel like transmen are relatively unknown.  If you bring this to her attention, it may well be the very first time she's hearing about transgender issues outside of Caitlyn Jenner.

If you're ready for some ignorance, you can prepare for the conversation.  Have some talking points ready; for instance things about compassion and trying to see things from others' perspectives, about accepting people who don't fit the norm and taking their experiences seriously.  Perhaps mention that you have transgender friends, and that this is important to "some of the most important people in your life." (that's my favorite phrase, but I'll let you borrow it )

It's important not to lie.  It's really hard to back down from a lie.  Talking about friends and referring to yourself obliquely will make sense to her in the future, and will lessen the perceived violation of trust.  So if she asks if you're trans... be willing to cop to it, but you don't need to come out immediately.  You might hedge a little... "I know it's hard for transgender people to date... how would you respond if I was?"  If she says that she'd freak out... try to build a conceptual path to acceptance.  She'll be freaked out by that, but the uncertainty will keep the door open just a little longer.

It's seen as somewhat irregular for guys to be accepting, much less supporting, of women's rights, gay rights and trans* rights.  My expectation would be for her to be suspicious after that kind of conversation.  Mention it, have a little conversation, and drop it.  After a little wait, talk about transgender issues again.  Depending on how things go in that second conversation, either ghost her or use it to segue into outing yourself.

Thank you all for the response,  I told her yesterday night in a skype call that I am ftm transgender and in the process of transition. I was very nervous but knew I would have to do it no matter what. When I hit send it was a brief silence before she said anything. What felt like seconds, felt like an eternity, because I didn't know how she would response. She finally said something she said somewhere along the lines of, "Jamie I don't see you any different then I would before, If anything I'm glad you told me. Your perfect no matter what and I still see you as the same person you are." She said more but I don't want to go in details. Anyways thank you all for the response it really did help me telling her 

SQUEEEEEE!  <3

Congratulations   


*hugs*

What a wonderful woman she must be! I hope it works out for you.