I find these sort of questions extremely difficult. You need to define what you mean by 'passing'.
Many transwomen say the don't pass because of their personal perspective. "I look in a mirror and see a guy in a dress" But that is irrelevant. How are you/they accepted in normal society. I deliberately say normal society and not the encounters with bigots and jerks; EVERYONE no matter their gender or whatever ends up having to deal with jerks. Because that is what jerks do.
Do I pass - no idea. But I meet random people, I am treated as a normal woman, I have normal relationships with men that I choose to have relationships with, be they one night stands or relationships.
I teach a bunch of students and they ask questions and tell people they had a lecture from me: Cindy. Not the transgender teacher Cindy.
I don't go around psychoanalysing the response I get from the usual encounters with people or long term friendships.
If I did I suspect that there is an attitudinal issue with me rather than an an acceptance issue from others.
In many ways I find these threads a bit like the growing up issues of pubertal girls. Does he love me? Am I pretty? Why am I not accepted by the group at school. Oh I wish I had bigger boobs, a pretty face, long legs etc etc etc.
Teenagers grow out of it and start to accept themselves and those who don't start to have long term issues.
OK there is societal pressure on women to 'look good' 'be perfect' 'be awesome lovers' 'be great partners' etc etc etc again.
But successful women who love their lives, relationships, whatever get over it and accept themselves for who they are. Normal women.
Maybe we should reflect why some of us have a difficulty in our self acceptance?
Oh I'll add something: Bathroom laws. OK they are ridiculous but look at the newspapers. The issue being reported is when ciswomen are getting barred from female toilets. Why? Because ciswomen don't pass? Or because the jerks (see above) have no idea what constitutes a woman.
