Just another data point:

I consider myself female-presenting non-binary.  (Well, I'll be "female-presenting" once I get further along in my transition.)

As I've said in probably too many posts already, I don't "identify as" any gender.  For me, gender only exists as something I have to navigate when dealing with other people, and I cannot understand what it means to "identify as male" or "identify as female."  When I'm by myself and don't have to worry about anybody seeing me, I'm just me.

However, I've decided that, since I have to (and want to) interact with other members of my species, and there are basically two protocols: "male" and "female", I much prefer the "female" protocol.  Not to mention that I would much prefer looking female than male.  (Almost certainly due to cultural brainwashing, but it's easier to modify my body than to modify six decades of brainwashing.)  Yes, this means I also want SRS.

Right now, I think a big part of my preference for living as a woman is due to the fact that the male socialization I suffered traumatized me to the point that I have a life-long aversion to anything masculine or male.  You could even say I'm something of a misandrist, although I try not to let my prejudices influence how I treat people.

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SJ and Asche, your posts were super interesting. It doesn't matter I can't fully understand non-binary people, what matters is that I acknowledge your pain and I find it as real as mine or as the one of other binary transsexuals. We might be different but we all have things in common after all

Thank you for sharing such interesting perspectives.

Quote from: Asche on May 04, 2016, 10:55:10 AM
Right now, I think a big part of my preference for living as a woman is due to the fact that the male socialization I suffered traumatized me to the point that I have a life-long aversion to anything masculine or male.  You could even say I'm something of a misandrist, although I try not to let my prejudices influence how I treat people.

It's pretty funny I also realize I'm something of a misandrist (although I try to fight my biases). But I contribute it to being jealous of men and their bodies and their social status, and always wanting to have been born male. I have moments when I resent cis men for not realizing how lucky and privileged they are. So it's very confusing then to want to be one.

In my humble view of the world I believe everyone is more or less non-binary - I think it's probably more rare that someone resides at the extreme end of the gender spectrum. Seems we don't always separate between gender and sex when we discuss non-binary issues.

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Another exotic hybrid here... I was assigned male, and when I started transitioning I briefly identified as female.  It became clear that I wasn't going to fit any better as female than male... I struggled to define myself for the longest time, and I've found peace in not identifying at all.  I'm me.  I look like a transwoman -- I dress femme 95% of the time.  But then I walk, talk, and largely act like a man.

I see myself as being tall, handsome, and brainy-looking.  I love the shape of my body, and all of its parts.  Oh, and I've got red hair, too... so I've got that unattainably exotic thing turned up to 11.  Good thing I'm married, or nobody could get through my ego enough to date me.