Hey,

I'm just a little bit curious if somebody experienced the same. My parents and my grandparents believe that I look 100% manly and that i will never pass. I did a breast augmentation 3 weeks before and now i got a D cup and the only thing my grandmother said that many man have breast, I still lock like a boy and because of that she just can't say she to me. The Problem is just that i always get addressed as a young lady or she from everybody that didn't know me before my transition. It just feels so frustrating because I get the feeling that they live in a fantasy world in which I keep looking like before my transition.

My Grandfather even tried to arrange a date with a girl and said that his "grandson" (me) would like to meet here. This was so embarrassing and they outed me as trans without even realising it because in their eyes I am a boy. I am together with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years and they still think they can make me interested in girls. I told them like 6 years ago that i never in my life will have a girlfriend but they just keep ignoring it. It really frustrates me and they just treat me like a stupid little child.

So did anybody else had similar experiences and do you have a solution for me ?

I think the question is , Who are you transirioning for , yourself or someone else.

Honestly, in my view, family has a harder time seeing it because in their eyes, what defines someone looking as male is what they've grown up with. My parents won't call me or see me as female until I look more feminine in their eyes which may never happen. I've gotten ma'amed several times, and only being two months into my transition, but my parents refuses to acknowledge those instances. It seems you like they aren't and haven't ever really been accepting, and somewhere in their minds, they expect you or want you to just be what they want, despite the fact it is asking for something you're not! They are trying to, at least with the example your grandmother gave, trying to convince you that, "Hey a lot of guys look this way sooooooo you still look like a guy." It's really them trying to rationalize and convince themselves of something that's not true. My parents are kind of doing the same thing to me. The only thing you can really honestly do is put your foot down and tell them how you're feeling and how they are making you feel, or slowly cut contact with them. It sounds like they don't want to change, and sometimes that happens. I wish they could see you for the amazing woman you are, and hopefully they will. I'm personally still going through this with my parents so I don't really have a solution that's a end all be all for you, so I can only give you my opinion. Also, your transition is about you, don't let them get you down or make you feel bad about your decision. I hope that helps ^_^

Tell them they don't have to see you as female to use your pronouns, it's just polite and will help to stop other people being confused. There's not much else you can do if they're determined to ignore your transition.

People who know that I'm trans (doctors) and my family don't see how I could pass as male, but strangers often refer to me as mate or pal (we don't do sir/ ma'am in Scotland, you're pal or you're hen or love lol) and I stopped using womens' bathrooms because I was getting challenged (which no one in my family believes even happened). I think it's just a combination of the changes I've made being slow(ish), and basic denial.

Yes, some in my family expressed that opinion many times with me. They got over it for the most part. I know there are a couple that still can't get past it, even after thirty plus years.

My family seems to mostly just see a guy in a dress, but anybody that didn't know me genders me female. Times like this, I realize why people leave it all behind and start fresh.

I have the same issue. Even though I pass all the time my family are going to keep referring to me as "she" even though I pass all the time as male. My mother didn't even believe my voice would pass but it definitely does. When someone has viewed you one way your entire life it's hard for them to see you any differently.