Sorry if this is stupid but I got no where to say this at so I decided to say it here. It's not fair no matter how I look or dress. I can bind,Cut my hair,wear mens clothes,Hide curves,ect. But it doesn't save me from guys honking there car horns down the highway when I'm simply just taking a walk. Men stare at me everywhere and talk about sex and ->-bleeped-<- like that. I don't even have to talk to anyone to show my feminine voice. I look that feminine in the face its not fair, I've NEVER once in my life been called a boy on "Accident" the only time I do is if I beg a person to do. But it sucks cause theres always like "Birth name..WHOOPS SORRY PETER I MEAN!" My face and my voice just gives everything away. This isn't fair after all this I don't even own a binder so I used Gauze bandage. It worked well and I dressed up fancy today and went with my mom to a winery. Right when I walked in the Wine Taste Tester barista said "Welcome Ladies!" God dammit.. I wore a button up white shirt and slacks and it hid every single curve. But no..my face gives it away. Sorry about this..I should stop shouldn't I?

That happens to almost all of us and it isn't fun. The face can be somewhat altered with hair and we can work with the voice. The goal would be to make you appear as a young boy. how effective it would be, I am not sure. The good news is that Testosterone is very effective in altering your face and your voice.

Often life isn't fair and some of us have to deal with a larger burden than others. Some people are born rich and never have to want anything. Others like use are given difficult problems to overcome and it strengthens our character by overcoming these problems. I owe a great deal to being transsexual because I suspect I wouldn't have become half the person I am today without it.

Quote from: Dena on May 22, 2016, 10:50:57 PM
That happens to almost all of us and it isn't fun. The face can be somewhat altered with hair and we can work with the voice. The goal would be to make you appear as a young boy. how effective it would be, I am not sure. The good news is that Testosterone is very effective in altering your face and your voice.

Often life isn't fair and some of us have to deal with a larger burden than others. Some people are born rich and never have to want anything. Others like use are given difficult problems to overcome and it strengthens our character by overcoming these problems. I owe a great deal to being transsexual because I suspect I wouldn't have become half the person I am today without it.

True. Anything I can do to look masculine?

Hair is always the primary thing to work with. You want to go with shorter styles but if your face is a real issue, you may want somewhat of a bowl cut to cover part of your face. Let your eyebrows be natural and possible a hat or sun glasses of the proper style would help cover some of your features. You are going for a plain look so stay ways from anything stylish or thats a fad. Look at the males around you and take clues from them. Also observe how them move and how they place their feet. Body language can give you away just as fast as your appearances. My primary example of this was when I was in therapy, it was far to common to have a MTF come in a dress for the first time and the first thing they did after sitting down was to spread their legs. That posture is acceptable and expected from a male but a proper woman wouldn't do it. I am giving you a link to a hair site so you can look for a style that might work with your face. Make sure you don't select the style because of the male face as it will look different on you than it does on the model.
http://www.hairfinder.com/

the haircut and body language will help. you can get your haircut short, yes, but is it a masculine haircut made for your face shape? because i know when i wanted my hair shorter pre-t, etc. they would try to "feminine" up masculine haircuts, even though i didn't want that and it bugged me. same with body language. watch how guys around you walk, etc. usually arms out further, no swaying of hips, etc. try to copy them. even standing..i know it's more "feminine" to stand with your hands on your hips or like leaning to one side. it's the little things, honestly.

i know misgendering sucks, but it happens to all of us at one point or another. hell, i have been on T for two years and have facial hair and someone saw my mom and i walk into a store and said "hey ladies!" i was like but..facial hair??? deep voice??? flat chest??? sometimes it just happens. i think when you're further in your transition, it won't bug you so much but i can definitely see how it can now.

Body language matters a lot. I started working on it by literally imagining men that I admire, actors, characters from movies or tv-shows, and trying to emulate their posture and walk. For walking, I generally use someone with a similar height to myself and build like my dad, as I am almost a clone of him minus the unfortunate birth defect that has me on this forum. Given T, I assume my build will be similar. That usually means people like young William Shatner.
It is effective enough that my own family (that I live with and am not out to at all) use the correct pronouns by accident, and strangers often get it right as well, even when I'm "en femme".

It's also important to notice how direct you are.  When I presented as female I was usually considered to be either very social or a jerk by strangers.  I didn't know why then, but now I pay more attention to people's behavior and I noticed that women tend to avoid eye contact, let others talk, drop their eyes a lot, look away, etc when dealing with strangers.  I did NOT do these things and so people either thought I was the most social person ever, that I was hitting on them, or that I was rude.  Not saying that women should do these things, btw, I am just pointing out that you may be doing them without noticing and it is giving strangers an extra boost of "female alert" in their heads.  Try to be direct with people, look them in the eye, etc.