hi everyone,

actually i had a chat with a [handsome] boy on messaging and i almost liked him.we had talked 3 days and i got attracted to him.
today he asked why my voice is not girlish and i told him that i m trans. he was shocked .he could'nt belive i m a trans as i m completely female in my profile pic. but we had little discussion with us reg transgender and sexual life. i nearly broke out since it was my first experience and i started liked him although he said i m still ur frnd i think he will not treat me as a girl like he used to.maybe he will not talk at all i can't say

i cried and feeling degraded.had i commited mistake telling me all truth about me or it was just him who feel uneasy.i can't figure it

this was my first attraction so i felt very bad. i know its just very short relationship of three days but i liked him

just confused

Give it time!  He probably liked you, and might still.  This can be a surprise, and guys who are actually prepared for that kind of surprise are very rare.  Some guys are willing to give it a shot, but can't handle it long-term.  Some will run away immediately.  Some will stick around.  As a transwoman, you'll find yourself taking the role of psychologist, sex therapist and civil rights educator, in almost every relationship you have with cisgender men for the rest of your life.

I'm sorry to hear he is treating you this way, unfortunately it is a very common problem for transitioned trans people looking for an intimate partner. Hopefully you won't encounter it ever again but it is a reality. Keep in mind some people will lose interest or drop someone over very trivial things anyway. If that's his attitude towards you for being trans then you're better off without him no matter how much you like him.

It's always best to be honest about yourself because sooner or latter people will find out.Even if your post op and didn't need to tell it's better in my opinion to be upfront with that kind of thing.

There are an awful lot of people that don't see as a fully-dateable member of our gender. I run into that a lot. I wish I had a good answer for you, but I'm not sure what to do about it either.

Hugs. The right person is out there (at least that's what I'm telling myself.)

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hi everyone,

actually i had a chat with a [handsome] boy on messaging and i almost liked him.we had talked 3 days and i got attracted to him.
today he asked why my voice is not girlish and i told him that i m trans. he was shocked .he could'nt belive i m a trans as i m completely female in my profile pic. but we had little discussion with us reg transgender and sexual life. i nearly broke out since it was my first experience and i started liked him although he said i m still ur frnd i think he will not treat me as a girl like he used to.maybe he will not talk at all i can't say

i cried and feeling degraded.had i commited mistake telling me all truth about me or it was just him who feel uneasy.i can't figure it

this was my first attraction so i felt very bad. i know its just very short relationship of three days but i liked him

just confused

Give him some time and he may come around it may take a little while for him to process everything.
I have a lot of Cis gendered friends and him saying he'll still be your friend is a very good thing and it means
he is willing to listen. So i wouldn't throw anything out just yet its very possible he will need time but if he is a good guy he will treat you just the same as any other person. I can't say if it'll work out but it sounds from what you're saying he was open enough to say he is your friend and accept you and that's a good sign.
However, if it doesn't work out he isn't for you but don't give up there are many people in this world for everyone.
You didn't make a mistake telling him the truth in fact that shows a lot of confidence and courage on your part
I wish you luck either way!  but again, that was courageous.

I'm the significant other, the wife. From the point of view as a heterosexual woman. I would stop talking to you if I found out you are the same sex as me.

I want a man that is a natural-born male I'm a straight woman.
A straight man wants an natural born woman they are straight.

Be honest and straightforward if you are looking for love, how you feel you should have been and what you actually were born with make a hugh difference. You won't get your feelings hurt as much if you are on the up and up the truth is the only right path in any relationship.

Dating is tough no matter who you are.  But trust me, you will feel worse in the long run if you try to build a relationship on lies.  I know that honesty hurts, but sometimes the rose of friendship blooms on the ashes of the pain.

You are young, and I have found that young folks are far more open minded about gender than older folks are. 

Learn to enjoy the process of meeting people and getting to know them, and do not place too much value on expectations.  Appreciate what comes, not what is hoped for.  If there are disappointments, do not take them personally.

Have faith.  Sooner or later you will meet someone who will love you for what is in your heart.