Quote from: TC on June 05, 2016, 03:04:43 PMI understand and respect that you want harmony in the workplace but by dropping this you have tacitly reinforced bigotry in your workplace. I know we all can't be Joan of Arc but if you at least get HR to record a complaint it will help you, when You have to deal with the player ground bully again. Sorry to be so negatively prophetic

I tend to agree. Nonetheless I have complete respect for Steph, these situations can cause serious anxiety.

  Update on situation at work.  There has not been another incident so that's good. However we found out this week that my company is going to close the site I work at after July. Now I need to find work in an industry were almost everyone in this area knows me as well as the guy I had issues with. I am somewhat concerned that I will have difficulty finding employment now. People know what I can do technically but from what I have found about 1/3 of people have some negativity toward trans people. All it takes is one person in the hiring chain to feel uncomfortable about trans people and you probably will not get hired.  This guy is well connected with people in the industry, I do know most of them as well, but in the past I was very quiet and reclusive. I avoided doing anything with them away from work it was usually guy stuff  I had no real interest in and only had enough knowledge about for small talk at work, It was too stressful to keep up the appearance of being one of the guys. I am thinking of just getting out of this line of work, I do have some strong allies but I am  not sure that will be enough.
Another thing that sucks about this as the day before this announcement I talked with my health care provider about my coverage for GCS and was told the surgery would only cost me 600 dollars, don't  think I can get that done in a month and a half.
Steph

Quote from: Stevie on June 10, 2016, 02:48:07 PM
  Update on situation at work.  There has not been another incident so that's good. However we found out this week that my company is going to close the site I work at after July. Now I need to find work in an industry were almost everyone in this area knows me as well as the guy I had issues with. I am somewhat concerned that I will have difficulty finding employment now. People know what I can do technically but from what I have found about 1/3 of people have some negativity toward trans people. All it takes is one person in the hiring chain to feel uncomfortable about trans people and you probably will not get hired.  This guy is well connected with people in the industry, I do know most of them as well, but in the past I was very quiet and reclusive. I avoided doing anything with them away from work it was usually guy stuff  I had no real interest in and only had enough knowledge about for small talk at work, It was too stressful to keep up the appearance of being one of the guys. I am thinking of just getting out of this line of work, I do have some strong allies but I am  not sure that will be enough.
Another thing that sucks about this as the day before this announcement I talked with my health care provider about my coverage for GCS and was told the surgery would only cost me 600 dollars, don't I can get that done in a month and a half.
Steph

Hi Steph,
Employment is always about attributes. It seems you do your job really well and have great history. In my humble opinion, you will find work anywhere   Just make sure you leave the hang up of being trans at home and be the confident woman you are when presenting at interviews. You go girl. We believe in YOU.


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