Quote from: Raye on June 19, 2016, 05:42:50 AM
I've heard of the Vine Hill place and was about to tell ya as far as I know there is only one IC doc there. However she apparently is not taking anymore patients. Was good for you because I'm sure alot of us know how expensive this stuff is all here. Therapy, HRT, tests, check ups, insurance, and other things all adds up over time. That's why I had worked 85 hours a week with two jobs. And not because I was looking to get out of my last roommate situations. Yeah Fairview is a pretty decent and quiet town cops here know I'm trans a bit and they make sure no one bothers me. Because my last roommate was a complete dbag. Looking for work there best I can give is perseverance. Keep on applying and calling those places a day later after applying to say the interested in there position. And that you are a very hard worker. And be sure to call back at least a couple times a week to let them know your interested still and quite available. I have a bit of Charisma and I'm very friendly as well an interesting person in general. I realize some people aren't as much, but I've had some really bad luck believe me on this one. So I'm sure what ever bad juju has you down you'll get through this. FTMax left home at 17 and I left home at 19 seems to be a trend. I'm 6 years older and  still learning new things everyday. Regarding TVals I can't say I know them at all. I'm not as available all the time as much as I like to. Don't give up I think we all have faith in you Emily!!!

(Huuuggzzz)

Not taking new patients?? WHY!?? What am I supposed to do now?? I can't afford to see an Endo or to relocate somewhere else. *sigh* Whats the point of being upset I'll just go on and pretend to be happy like I always do. 

Quote from: EmilyRyan on June 19, 2016, 02:04:36 PM
Not taking new patients?? WHY!?? What am I supposed to do now?? I can't afford to see an Endo or to relocate somewhere else. *sigh* Whats the point of being upset I'll just go on and pretend to be happy like I always do.

Emily, please. We want to help you. I want to ask you something but I hope you won't get irritated by it. You said you have an associate's degree? Perhaps you should return to school and go for a bachelor's? I think it's heartbreaking when any graduate with amazing credentials as yours are prohibited from work but life is a process and sometimes we have to try doing the same thing over and over and over until we get it right.

You sound so passionate in getting your life on track, as I do. Emily, I am in the same boat as you. You aren't the only one. I don't even have a college degree. I have a highschool diploma and that's it. I keep filling out applications, at least once a day. Fill out multiple positions for the same employer. You gotta try something. It is better to be in activity than in apathy. Ok? Please. You can do this. I know you can!

I might have 86 Credits, but I never finished my schooling I'd like to go back eventually, but now I just can't till I work on myself. I just got out of a seriously bad relationship with this guy. And I've had nightmares ever since. We all have things to overcome. You solve one problem after another and move onto the next. That's what life is all about solving problems after another and coping with what you have gained from solving them.

There are other docs, but I don't know how they will have similar treatment if they are also taking Transgender Patients as well... I agree though it doesn't hurt to hold off plans or at least work on getting a decent job. I wasn't joking about working 85 hours a week. Yes it friggen sucked, but that's what I did to at least get myself established into the system from Point A to Point B, C is currently a WIP. But I know I'll get there and I know you will get there as well. I've dealt with my own depression and demons myself I didn't take any handouts or assistance, and support from others. And even though I still turned out alright it was something that I regret from my 19 YO Mind. But it was also best for me because I didn't want to be around the negativity from my family. They would have accepted me as is if I came out at 8 when I knew about it. But you can't undo the past. What you can do is prevent the terrible future you may be undergoing. Talk with your parents just hear their side as much as you don't want to. If they can't accept you as is at least still try to return and make something of yourself. It is so much more satisfying to make them watch you get up on your own two feet. And to become the woman who we all know you to be. Believe me it really is they will change their ways eventually my mother is starting as well. I've began to speak with her quite often now since I've came out and made her watch me pick myself up from my own two hands and feet. I know it sucks, but you really don't want to go down the path I went under. And I hate to say this, but the military wasn't my best course of action. Sure I'm now blacked off the record for good being who I am, but it will come back to bite you in the butt. There's too much negativity that I was barely able to surpass and succeed at, but once someone found out about the hormones I was outed. Yes it's a lot differently now, but they still have a lot of ways to go. Just try finding yourself a decent job at home or find a way to get assistance for schooling. Even my friend Karl is thinking of getting out and not renewing his service for another some years. And he's a dedicated soldier, but I won't go into depth for what he does. That's on his confidentiality report to discuss in 20 years, as I won't discuss anything I've done. I won't even discuss anything about myself personally, but I will say this think with a clear mind before you do something terrible you know you will regret.

Quote from: King Phoenix on June 19, 2016, 06:16:54 PM
Emily, please. We want to help you. I want to ask you something but I hope you won't get irritated by it. You said you have an associate's degree? Perhaps you should return to school and go for a bachelor's? I think it's heartbreaking when any graduate with amazing credentials as yours are prohibited from work but life is a process and sometimes we have to try doing the same thing over and over and over until we get it right.

You sound so passionate in getting your life on track, as I do. Emily, I am in the same boat as you. You aren't the only one. I don't even have a college degree. I have a highschool diploma and that's it. I keep filling out applications, at least once a day. Fill out multiple positions for the same employer. You gotta try something. It is better to be in activity than in apathy. Ok? Please. You can do this. I know you can!

College for me has been rocky I first started out getting a bachelor's degree at a four year college but after two semesters I failed out due to the difficulty of some of the courses even daily tutoring wasn't helping. So I settled for an associates degree at my community college which I look back on as one my best (if not only) decisions I made in my life so far. Then I decided back in the fall to get a teaching degree which in course ended up failing two of the three basic education courses require to get into the program. Hate to say but I think a two year is the best I'm gonna get. Will say though if I had it my way I would go for a bachelors in history but who will hire a history major in this job market?? Most majors suited for the job market require to be very good at maths which I'm not heck I failed pre-algebra in high school.

Quote from: Raye on June 19, 2016, 09:40:41 PM
I might have 86 Credits, but I never finished my schooling I'd like to go back eventually, but now I just can't till I work on myself. I just got out of a seriously bad relationship with this guy. And I've had nightmares ever since. We all have things to overcome. You solve one problem after another and move onto the next. That's what life is all about solving problems after another and coping with what you have gained from solving them.

There are other docs, but I don't know how they will have similar treatment if they are also taking Transgender Patients as well... I agree though it doesn't hurt to hold off plans or at least work on getting a decent job. I wasn't joking about working 85 hours a week. Yes it friggen sucked, but that's what I did to at least get myself established into the system from Point A to Point B, C is currently a WIP. But I know I'll get there and I know you will get there as well. I've dealt with my own depression and demons myself I didn't take any handouts or assistance, and support from others. And even though I still turned out alright it was something that I regret from my 19 YO Mind. But it was also best for me because I didn't want to be around the negativity from my family. They would have accepted me as is if I came out at 8 when I knew about it. But you can't undo the past. What you can do is prevent the terrible future you may be undergoing. Talk with your parents just hear their side as much as you don't want to. If they can't accept you as is at least still try to return and make something of yourself. It is so much more satisfying to make them watch you get up on your own two feet. And to become the woman who we all know you to be. Believe me it really is they will change their ways eventually my mother is starting as well. I've began to speak with her quite often now since I've came out and made her watch me pick myself up from my own two hands and feet. I know it sucks, but you really don't want to go down the path I went under. And I hate to say this, but the military wasn't my best course of action. Sure I'm now blacked off the record for good being who I am, but it will come back to bite you in the butt. There's too much negativity that I was barely able to surpass and succeed at, but once someone found out about the hormones I was outed. Yes it's a lot differently now, but they still have a lot of ways to go. Just try finding yourself a decent job at home or find a way to get assistance for schooling. Even my friend Karl is thinking of getting out and not renewing his service for another some years. And he's a dedicated soldier, but I won't go into depth for what he does. That's on his confidentiality report to discuss in 20 years, as I won't discuss anything I've done. I won't even discuss anything about myself personally, but I will say this think with a clear mind before you do something terrible you know you will regret.

Best bet for me now is to try Planned Parenthood for all I know their sliding scale might be more generous anyway since they're more geared toward helping the low income. Just wish I had a way to move out it's getting more unbearable living with parents who have these huge expectations that I can't live up to. Really wish I had a place to go I do have friends but none are in position to house me till I get on my feet plus I don't want to be a burden. Also I'm at a point where I don't know what to do about becoming employable I still think I don't have any other options left besides living under a highway bridge for the rest of my life.

My social disability - my Asperger's has made it hard for me to connect with people, focus, and learn overall. But I do make do with what I have. It has gotten a lot better since I put myself out there to get better with my communication skills. I'm still rough around the edges. So I'm seriously sorry if I might have offended people on multiple occasions, but even my partner knows I'm not perfect. Not everyone is perfect nor can we has humans reach perfection in anyway. I would try Planned Parenthood, but still recommend looking for work and being persistent about it. Like I said I'm currently looking for a second part time job as well I may not be able to work 85 hours a week anymore, but I can certainly work at least near 60. I've talked it over with my landlord and she said it shouldn't throw me out of the current % for the housing situation I'm currently in. And she understands a bit of what I'm going through. Everyone here understands what you are going through. I've failed Intermediate Algebra twice, and passed College Algebra once. When I go back I'm hoping to complete Calculus I + II on my first try. I'm really good at pulling out last second moves ahead of schedule to alter my grades by studying really hard, regurgitating that information, + I take up Extra Credit whenever it is given out. In fact, If things went the way they would I would have had a B+, but I lost my vehicle and that dropped my grade significantly. My professor was very sympathetic with my situation and allowed me to just waiver the grade diminishing. She was surprised I was able to learn so much without a lecture I still managed to pas with a C+. LOL not the best grade, but had I not taken up doing 3 tests and the final exam the same day I would have failed. There wasn't a moment in my mind that I would fail this course at all. And I managed to come out just as fine. I've had difficulties learning, but I learn to overcome them from shear persistence of trial and error. That's one of the sad things all engineers have to go through at some point. And I put my skills to the table when working at my plant sites. Of course I had to teach myself calculus a bit to get to where I was, but I still have a long ways to go, which is why I intend to complete my BAS + AAS Degrees. I do not wish to work for Wal-Mart the rest of my life now. But they do help with my college costs a bit.

Quote from: Raye on June 20, 2016, 02:39:06 PM
My social disability - my Asperger's has made it hard for me to connect with people, focus, and learn overall. But I do make do with what I have. It has gotten a lot better since I put myself out there to get better with my communication skills. I'm still rough around the edges. So I'm seriously sorry if I might have offended people on multiple occasions, but even my partner knows I'm not perfect. Not everyone is perfect nor can we has humans reach perfection in anyway. I would try Planned Parenthood, but still recommend looking for work and being persistent about it. Like I said I'm currently looking for a second part time job as well I may not be able to work 85 hours a week anymore, but I can certainly work at least near 60. I've talked it over with my landlord and she said it shouldn't throw me out of the current % for the housing situation I'm currently in. And she understands a bit of what I'm going through. Everyone here understands what you are going through. I've failed Intermediate Algebra twice, and passed College Algebra once. When I go back I'm hoping to complete Calculus I + II on my first try. I'm really good at pulling out last second moves ahead of schedule to alter my grades by studying really hard, regurgitating that information, + I take up Extra Credit whenever it is given out. In fact, If things went the way they would I would have had a B+, but I lost my vehicle and that dropped my grade significantly. My professor was very sympathetic with my situation and allowed me to just waiver the grade diminishing. She was surprised I was able to learn so much without a lecture I still managed to pas with a C+. LOL not the best grade, but had I not taken up doing 3 tests and the final exam the same day I would have failed. There wasn't a moment in my mind that I would fail this course at all. And I managed to come out just as fine. I've had difficulties learning, but I learn to overcome them from shear persistence of trial and error. That's one of the sad things all engineers have to go through at some point. And I put my skills to the table when working at my plant sites. Of course I had to teach myself calculus a bit to get to where I was, but I still have a long ways to go, which is why I intend to complete my BAS + AAS Degrees. I do not wish to work for Wal-Mart the rest of my life now. But they do help with my college costs a bit.

Awesome that you passed College Algebra I took that once and failed it. Last year I was taking Intro to Biology and managed to get a C despite failing nearly every exam luckily I did well enough on the class work/labs, did extra credit, and scored a 91 on the final. History and Geography are my strong points  

Sorries if that is been answered already as I did not read through all the responses.


Do as much research as you can. I am about to get cleared for HRT even though I have state welfare insurance and I live in Maryland. A while back my therapist had said something in passing about Obamacare covering some transition related stuff, so look into it as there may be laws against insurance preventing you getting care. I am not versed on the particulars, so be warned.   Try to get your foot in the door and talk to a therapist. Be as honest as possible and if they see it's a life or death sort of thing you might get help.

If things get really bad for you, please know that you may be able to check yourself into a hospital's psych ward. It's not like You'll be admitted for years, more like a few days. While you are there you'll meet with docs, social workers and others who could point you in the right direction with respect to getting care as a trans* person in TN. Make sure you research the hospital you go to. As a general rule (I stress that)  hospitals in more affluent areas will be better.

Some readings


http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2014/08/25/obamacare-now-pays-for-gender-reassignment.html


http://obamacarefacts.com/questions/is-there-transgender-health-coverage/

Just wish there was a law forcing health insurance to actually be "more affordable".

There is and it's called the Affordable Care Act. Before it was passed my insurance was $400 a month. Now it's $600 a month with a $3500 deductible and no trans coverage. Remember that the promise was my insurance would go down $2,500 a year.

Quote from: Dena on June 21, 2016, 12:39:54 AM
There is and it's called the Affordable Care Act. Before it was passed my insurance was $400 a month. Now it's $600 a month with a $3500 deductible and no trans coverage. Remember that the promise was my insurance would go down $2,500 a month.

Were you for the affordable care act or against ?


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Quote from: EmilyRyan on June 20, 2016, 10:00:17 PM
Just wish there was a law forcing health insurance to actually be "more affordable".

I know you're having difficulty with finding a job, but if you looked for a union job with negotiated health coverage that would take care of two problems.

Be careful what you wish for with laws though. Politicians mean well but often just make things worse. I have no health insurance because I can't afford health insurance. And now I am penalized further for not purchasing something I don't have the money to purchase.

Quote from: Semira on June 21, 2016, 12:59:23 AM
I know you're having difficulty with finding a job, but if you looked for a union job with negotiated health coverage that would take care of two problems.

Be careful what you wish for with laws though. Politicians mean well but often just make things worse. I have no health insurance because I can't afford health insurance. And now I am penalized further for not purchasing something I don't have the money to purchase.

That freaking sucks


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Quote from: TinaVane on June 21, 2016, 12:48:08 AM
Were you for the affordable care act or against ?


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I was against it because I knew what would happen. You can't dump that many people into the system without somebody paying for it and if the new people aren't paying for it, guess who does. The bill was 2000 pages long before the regulators got to it and it barely got through congress. In a few months I go on Social Security and then the fun starts all over again.

I wish you the best of luck Dena that's pretty hard.

Personally, I'm a bit biased towards unions. Primarily because I'm trained at what I do all ready. And then a fresh off the boat kid comes in and does my job for not only more money, but little or no experience. I've seen this time in and time out in the plant sites I've worked at/for. But for those who really need it can be a blessing and a curse at the same time.

Quote from: Semira on June 21, 2016, 12:59:23 AM
I know you're having difficulty with finding a job, but if you looked for a union job with negotiated health coverage that would take care of two problems.

Whenever I find positions open for a union job it seems like every one of them wants "through the roof" experience just for an entry level position compared to non-union jobs

Might depend on the Union. In PA I would be able to get a union job such as a state liquor store but the hours are minimal. If your living at home though, that's not too bad. Also my partners daughter got a job with the education department basically calling people about student loans. That have a high turnover rate so you can advance quickly. Obviously it's a crap job but it's a start.

Also Tennessee is doing everything in its power to do away with unions 

Sorry. I do hope you find something soon. I know something will come along and you'll find your direction.
I'll keep thinking good thoughts for you. I hope you try the same.
Hugs

Quote from: StevieC9 on June 21, 2016, 10:37:11 PM
Sorry. I do hope you find something soon. I know something will come along and you'll find your direction.
I'll keep thinking good thoughts for you. I hope you try the same.
Hugs

I mean I love to land a union job if it meant having good benefits heck I've applied to Kroger the most just the fact they're union though they rejected my application probably about a 100 times by now. One would think getting hired at a grocery would be easy

I think it's the fact I been fired from the two jobs that I did work at.