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This Is The Last Straw!

Started by Tristyn, June 23, 2016, 02:09:58 PM

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Tristyn

Ever since returning from the psych ward about a week ago, I've struggled to get along with my dad without getting sarcastic or even mumbling behind his back when he usually pisses me off by constantly reminding me of any mistakes that I make, even a mistake as small as dropping a freakin' coin on the floor as if that cannot be remedied simply by picking it up.

The last straw was when he called the cops on me last night; because he figured out I used the dryer while he wasn't home last night. This is crazy. No, he is crazy. Something is wrong when you feel like you have to get die-hard angry at your adult child for using your dryer when you are not home to the point where I am severely threatened to be removed from the home. Why would a parent call the police on their adult kid for using a freakin' dryer?! I got so mad, we argued, I cried and screamed and he just yelled, "Get out of my house! I'm taking you to a shelter!"

I refused to just give in. I told him that as long as he is my payee representative of my SSI, I am not going anywhere. So what does this nut job do; he calls the police on me! I had to explain to the patient officers that my dad called them because I used his dryer when he wasn't home, that I refused to leave because I have no where else to go, and he is my payee. So now an aunt on my mom's side, will be buying me a ticket to fly a plane back to Detroit.

Sick of this bull->-bleeped-<- here with my dad. Detroit is crappier now than ever, but I would rather be there able to wash clothes when I want, cook with the oven when I want and open the windows in one of my aunts' homes! I'm outta here. My dad is so pathetic, he had to cut off my access to the internet, but I can take my laptop to dialysis and use it there. Gotta lug around this awkwardly shaped cooling pad, but hell, better than nuthin'. He will regret this too, cause he only had two kids; now it's just one. Who will care for him when his is way to old to care for himself?
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Kelly Girl

Congratulations !
Your Free to be your genuine self , and can use a dryer and stove now :-)
If someone ain't with ya , there against ya , never forget that.
Good luck in the Motor City !
I dumped both my blood parents bye the way , your not alone .
I have a very loving Mom and Dad I hyjacked from my Wife :-)
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Kylo

Quote from: King Phoenix on June 23, 2016, 02:09:58 PMWho will care for him when his is way to old to care for himself?

In my experience even the most horrible people can suddenly try to play nice when they get old and feeble and then find it puzzling that nobody wants anything to do with them.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Ms Grace

You have a great plan for escape. Time to move on with your life and leave that toxic man behind.
Grace
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Transition 1.0 (Julie): HRT 1989-91
Self-denial: 1991-2013
Transition 2.0 (Grace): HRT June 24 2013
Full-time: March 24, 2014 :D
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CarlyMcx

Both my parents are in their eighties and in very poor health.  They did not love me when I was growing up.  Even my wife noticed without any prompting from me that they always treated my younger brother and sister far better than they treated me.

I did everything I could to be the man they wanted me to be for fifty years -- and they still did not love me. 

They were the kind of people who lived a pretend life, pretending to be nice people to the world and hiding the dysfunction at home.

So let them have their illusion.  They will go to their graves without ever knowing the real me.
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stephaniec

good for you move on and be free.
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Colleen M

Quote from: King Phoenix on June 23, 2016, 02:09:58 PM
I told him that as long as he is my payee representative of my SSI, I am not going anywhere.

Some reading you might want to consider:

https://secure.ssa.gov/poms.nsf/lnx/0203910040

Especially:  "A claimant may revoke the appointment of a representative at any time."
When in doubt, ignore the moral judgments of anybody who engages in cannibalism.
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Peep

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EmilyRyan

Soo glad you got out of there hope your living situation is a lot better with your aunt.

Now just need to make my escape soon before August comes around.

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Elis

Great to hear; good luck in detroit :)
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no_one

Glad to hear you are out of there, oh and BTW Detroit is great city I work there and love it.
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JenniferLopezgomez

Indeed -- as others have said here you have taken a major step towards your happiness.

I feel happy for you my friend that you have been able to escape both the psych ward as well as him.

Live your life happy.

I sure am myself much happier in my life.

Go for your happiness!

Jennifer xx
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kylie1

i have relatives near Detroit.  Royal Oak and Ferndale have a very large friendly LGBT atmosphere.  Check it out when you get there.
Xx
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Tristyn

Hi everyone and thank you for all of your replies. Just a little update on my living situation:

After really thinking this through, I realized that I don't want to throw myself into Detroit. No offense to anyone here who loves that place, but I really don't. I would rather go to a nicer area in Michigan, but not Detroit. I know what Detroit is like. I have lived there during my teenage years and it wasn't pretty.

I heard that it is worse now than ever. One of my aunts even moved out of Detroit because one person was being murdered on her block once a week! I don't ever want to really go back there to live. Until my aunt can figure out a safer area for me to go to, I have no choice but to remain here with my father. However, I will be moving out of his house into an assisted living facility very soon, then from there I want to transition over to subsidized housing and cut off my dad.

For now, I have to play by his rules. They are nonsensical and unfair, but I have to keep the peace until my ALF social worker can find a new place for me to live where I can finally have the freedom to enter the kitchen without being chewed out for it!
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autumn08

I'm sorry you're going through a difficult time, Phoenix, and I hope your social worker places you in a new living situation soon. Keep persevering and when you can, let us know how you are.
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Tristyn

Quote from: autumn08 on July 02, 2016, 11:11:49 AM
I'm sorry you're going through a difficult time, Phoenix, and I hope your social worker places you in a new living situation soon. Keep persevering and when you can, let us know how you are.

Thank you so much, Autumn, for your concern and encouraging words. I will do my best just to hang in there and see where this all goes. I'm praying that my social worker does find a place soon, but a decent one, preferably with a private room; I have so many valuables, like videogames and I like to have my own personal space.
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FreakOfNature

Wow, that sounds very troublesome. Does his behavior have anything to do with his unacceptable of you being trans?
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Tristyn

Quote from: FreakOfNature on July 04, 2016, 05:01:39 PM
Wow, that sounds very troublesome. Does his behavior have anything to do with his unacceptable of you being trans?

I don't think it does. He has been a butthole since childhood. Really. I kid you not. But, I think my trans identity has caused him to feel the need to amplify his buttholish ways of life. I think he will be all by himself very soon.
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Kylo

There's a light at the end of the tunnel either way. Sounds best to wait to get a place where you are. I had a friend in Detroit, they moved too.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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