Quote from: sigsi on June 28, 2016, 03:02:43 AM
On a side note Emily, I like your profile picture. It's one of my favorite Pokémon.

Thank you Espeon is my favorite Pokemon

Got turned down for a telemarketing job due to the fact I was fired from my last job I had I'm pretty sure that's a sign that I'm blacklisted from employment

Can I ask do you want to work or looking for social welfare to take care of you. I'm sorry I'm rough but it's because of the yrs in the trenches slugging it out and surviving. When I was 3 my dad made a boy out of me,I endured regular haircuts so severe to make me look like a boy,clothes became jeans and t shirts,never had many male friends,became a bullies nightmare,I figures since I had to be male I would make life rough on male's trying to keep up with this cripple. When I turned 17 and it had been a yr since my dad died I had enough and grew my hair out,last time it was short was the short time I was in the military.  I've never say around trying to get people to pity me because I was a cripple,instead employees hated working for me because I expected them to keep up and never found one who could. I've been fired and rehired from a few jobs,i've quit jobs and got begged to come back. You need to go to counseling and figure what you want out of life and go achieve it. I was told I would never make being a trucker and retired with around 1.5 million miles in 7 yrs with one accident I was told I would be in a wheel chair at 40 I'm still walking at 50.  I know one size doesn't fit all but you need to get out and enjoy life not hide from it.

Um yeah I would like to work otherwise I wouldn't be job searching and filling out applications everyday

Thought maybe a pep talk would help; if this doesn't feel free to say get lost . As I mentioned before I had very average high school grades; got a job and was fired from it and after a year of looking I found another job (left that due to anxiety and depression). I live in a small suburban town close to a large city; so work is kinda scarce for somebody with no work experience; but as I've proven it's possible.  You just have to keep sending out application after application even though it seems pointless. Maybe try volunteering to padded out your cv.

You could also look into CBT therapy. I've been seeing a therapist for the last month due to my social anxiety and though skeptical at first; it's helped build my confidence and make me look at my anxiety in ways I hadn't before. Just a thought.

Hope at least today is a good day for you

cool avatar Emily, better than before. Make the rest like that too.

I don't know how to translate ''lâche pas!''

http://www.learn-english-today.com/idioms/idiom-categories/ambition-determination/ambition-determ3.html

means all that

have a nice day

think the one I prefer is paddle your own canoe

or just... you can do it, yea, you can

Quote from: EmilyRyan on June 29, 2016, 12:25:29 AM
Got turned down for a telemarketing job due to the fact I was fired from my last job I had I'm pretty sure that's a sign that I'm blacklisted from employment

Hi Emily

I am out of work at the moment too. How did the telemarketing interviewer get to know you had been fired? In this day and age you shouldn't always be honest, don't lie because you will forget what you've said, just expand a little on the reasoning behind leaving your previous employer. I have interviewed lots of people for many jobs over the years and rest assured I didn't waste my time inviting in someone who I knew wouldn't get the job. I've been stitched up recently by a senior director and I was dismissed for no reason at all. Over in the UK an employer can dismiss you easily up to 2 years of employment if they don't like you for any reason. So the reason I am telling potential new employers is that the business has undertaken major restructuring and a number of people have lost their positions across every department. Which is true but its not the reason I got dismissed and up to now this has been working.
Look into your interview and CV techniques and figure out whats not working.
Good luck.

Didn't get a chance for an interview actually. On the application I was filling out it wanted me to state why I left my previous employer and of course I wanted to be honest to avoid the consequences of being found out for not being honest. Then I get an email saying I wasn't qualified because of the fact I got fired from my previous employer. So now as I continue my quest I wonder if this is what's truly keeping me from getting a job especially if I was turned down for a job like a telemarketer.

Never feel like getting a job is hopeless. I'm sure there are people who've been fired from a dozen jobs that are still able to find new employment. There are plenty of people with felonies who are still able to find new employment. As hard as it is you have to be positive when searching for a job.

I know you want to be honest but you also have to look out for yourself. Always spin things in a positive manner. Never mention previous employment problems unless you have to. If you absolutely must acknowledge being fired from a previous job, instead soften it with something like "let go". Or maybe you mutually agreed to part ways. Anything other than fired. Every little thing helps.

I'm thinking about a dog named Lucky. Lucky was a good dog and when I lost him this is the ad I placed. Lost Dog Three legs, one eye, missing right ear, broken tail, recently castrated Answered to the name Lucky.

I hope you see the irony of my story as it is very similar to the one you are telling. I don't believe you are that person. You need to put on your big person pants and stop all this woe is me attitude, At the job site you have about 6 seconds to make a first impression before they find reasons to reject you. Posture, attitude, dress, communication, your AA degree, don't put it down. That's an accomplishment. Ability to assimilate with the work force are all things they are looking for. This shows you are alert, motivated and someone with the enthusiasm to contribute to the profitability of the company. Believe me, it is all about the Benjamins . I can't tell you the number of interviews I did as a Department Manager at a retail store, where the candidate comes in with shorts and a sweatshirt, tattoo's around their neck, a downer attitude. Heck that doesn't even take 6 seconds.

You need to rebuild yourself. Be proud of yourself and what you are able to do. Accentuate the positive, avoid the negative. Be truthful but saying you're seeking a job where I have more opportunity would not be a lie would it? Saying you are willing to take classes,learn new challenges. My nephew flunked 10 driving tests. Guess what job he has now? Truck Driver. Whew. My son is very good with computers and he thought he would like a career in animation and game development. He chose to be a pool and spa installer in fact he worked on the Seahawk coaches pool, which led to his current job as an electrician. Use your computer.  If you can use Google and learn other databases such as Nexis, advertise yourself as a internet researcher working from home. It is doable but you need to put in the hard work before hand.

I'm sorry for being harsh, but I want you to have the opportunity to succeed and the only way I could think of getting across to you that life is hard work, is for you to embrace it by not wanting to be like Lucky. Then worry about your gender problems as people here have told me, self confidence is one of the most important traits you need to "pass". Good luck Em.

Quote from: Semira on June 29, 2016, 02:23:44 PM
I know you want to be honest but you also have to look out for yourself. Always spin things in a positive manner. Never mention previous employment problems unless you have to. If you absolutely must acknowledge being fired from a previous job, instead soften it with something like "let go". Or maybe you mutually agreed to part ways. Anything other than fired. Every little thing helps.

Semira is absolutely right. I always had the same problem of being too honnest, or not enthusiastic enough (it showed I didn't like the job)...
you have to build yourself up, make it up, construct yourself... it's like a show, life is like a show... difficult task for someone on ASD.

I understand everyone wants to help, but I think Emily understood by now she has to remain positive.

maybe time to change...

maybe time to close this thread and move on to something more positive

Quote from: Soli on June 29, 2016, 05:05:45 PM
Semira is absolutely right. I always had the same problem of being too honnest, or not enthusiastic enough (it showed I didn't like the job)...
you have to build yourself up, make it up, construct yourself... it's like a show, life is like a show... difficult task for someone on ASD.

I understand everyone wants to help, but I think Emily understood by now she has to remain positive.

maybe time to change...

maybe time to close this thread and move on to something more positive

I so agree with you. When I'm in doubt and I feel paralized, being told what I should do again again and sometimes agressively is really not what I need, makes me feel worse. I know people are mostly well intended but a kind word, something funny, ''I'm with you'', ''If you need me'', etc would help me much more than any counseling based on your own (long) story, we're all different. Anyway, been wanting to say this for a while, just didn't know how. Bon, on lâche pas la patate là là. Tourlou Soli, Rose.  Take care Emily.

Quote from: Roses and Songs on June 29, 2016, 07:20:23 PM
I so agree with you. When I'm in doubt and I feel paralized, being told what I should do again again and sometimes agressively is really not what I need, makes me feel worse. I know people are mostly well intended but a kind word, something funny, ''I'm with you'', ''If you need me'', etc would help me much more than any counseling based on your own (long) story, we're all different. Anyway, been wanting to say this for a while, just didn't know how. Bon, on lâche pas la patate là là. Tourlou Soli, Rose.  Take care Emily.

Exactement, on lâche pas la patate!

well I'm glad you feel the same, Rose, I wasn't sure either if I should post that, but yeah... transition is also closing some threads. And starting new paths
excuse mon mauvais anglais 

Am actually thinking about immigrating to Canada maybe employers there will be more understanding as I'm getting rejection emails almost daily most of them saying I'm too unqualified and the jobs I'm applying for are usually ones that require no experience. Pretty sure I'm blacklisted here in the U.S. no employer, not lowes, home depot, kroger, mcdonalds, burger king, temp agencies, telemarketers/call centers, data entry, and clericals want to hire me.

Keep trying everyone tells me well I am trying and nothing's working I still can't get a job. I need other options what am I actually supposed to do since I can't get a job??

Quote from: EmilyRyan on July 01, 2016, 11:00:16 PM
Am actually thinking about immigrating to Canada maybe employers there will be more understanding as I'm getting rejection emails almost daily most of them saying I'm too unqualified and the jobs I'm applying for are usually ones that require no experience. Pretty sure I'm blacklisted here in the U.S. no employer, not lowes, home depot, kroger, mcdonalds, burger king, temp agencies, telemarketers/call centers, data entry, and clericals want to hire me.

Keep trying everyone tells me well I am trying and nothing's working I still can't get a job. I need other options what am I actually supposed to do since I can't get a job??

I really wish I could help, all I can see for right now is to continue trying, who knows, it takes only one willing to try you and your life is back on track. Of course everything is easier here and it could be an interesting project for you but it's something that takes time so... Have you talked to your parents, maybe you should tell them in advance and give them time to calm down before august. Anyway, take care and good luck. Rose.

Quote from: EmilyRyan on July 01, 2016, 11:00:16 PM
Keep trying everyone tells me well I am trying and nothing's working I still can't get a job. I need other options what am I actually supposed to do since I can't get a job??

Note: I didn't get to read each and every post here yet, so if any of these were already brought up, apologies.

I haven't been able to leave the house for a good while, but these were a few suggestions my dad and grandparents brought up to me when I was looking for a job.
1) A tempt agency. They don't seem to be too horrible if you don't mind being assigned random jobs here and there.
2) If you are creative or handy in any way, and then there are potential online stores with Etsy and Ebay, etc.
3) Small random job/favors here and there. Babysitting or lawn mowing/raking/shoveling (depending on the time of year) for example.
4) If you could manage to get places, volunteer work could help. Sometimes if potential employers see that you are actually doing stuff to help people, it can change their viewpoint of you / make you more appealing to hire.

Again, I haven't done these at this point in my life. This is just what I've gathered from researching and other's advice over the years. Best of luck.

I also have a mild diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder. I feel like I'm in the exact same place as Emily here. I don't have any reliable transportation either and I live in a smaller city. I never been hired, but I'm starting to do volunteer work. There is something else going on with me too.

hey I finally found out how to buddy you back 

there are no other options, Emily, you can work and you will, just like I did after being in the same situation you are. Maybe not in Tennessee

plz end this negative thread and start in new

your life too

tell your parents you want out of Tennessee and want to handle your life yourself, don't have to tell them about hrt or trans issue, just being yourself, not possible here in Tennessee. Can't drive, need public transportation. City...

Don't ever tell anyone you have been fired. Ever.

yes you have to lie, ASDs can hardly lie but that's how society of humans function. Make believe.

You have to construct yourself, and your defeats and lack of success you must forget and scratch from the list. In your head too. For it keeps you in a negative and destructive mood.

You need to start a new page and believe you can do it, make a list of what you want to and can do (and again, no negative side, yes you can).

plz end this thread  the title is depressing and it's too long, too complicated

start in new, make it simple and clear, not complicated, and see life positively: you are young... you will still be in 10 years. That's a lot.

you can't quit now

Lâche pas, t'es capable !

Quote from: sigsi on July 02, 2016, 01:18:08 AM
Note: I didn't get to read each and every post here yet, so if any of these were already brought up, apologies.

I haven't been able to leave the house for a good while, but these were a few suggestions my dad and grandparents brought up to me when I was looking for a job.
1) A tempt agency. They don't seem to be too horrible if you don't mind being assigned random jobs here and there.
2) If you are creative or handy in any way, and then there are potential online stores with Etsy and Ebay, etc.
3) Small random job/favors here and there. Babysitting or lawn mowing/raking/shoveling (depending on the time of year) for example.
4) If you could manage to get places, volunteer work could help. Sometimes if potential employers see that you are actually doing stuff to help people, it can change their viewpoint of you / make you more appealing to hire.

Again, I haven't done these at this point in my life. This is just what I've gathered from researching and other's advice over the years. Best of luck.

Yeah I've tried the temp agency in my town several times they have a screening process you have to go through before they give you a job to do but every time they always tell me I'm not qualified for any of the work they have lined up. I think volunteer work is my best bet just wish the need to have an income wasn't an issue.

Quote from: redhot1 on July 02, 2016, 06:07:07 AM
I also have a mild diagnosis of autism spectrum disorder. I feel like I'm in the exact same place as Emily here. I don't have any reliable transportation either and I live in a smaller city. I never been hired, but I'm starting to do volunteer work. There is something else going on with me too.

I really need to get a diagnosis done to see if that's what really wrong with me. I remember seeing a post you made before you and I are a lot alike. Yeah I'm beginning to think volunteer work might be the only suitable thing I'm capable of doing can't be hard to screw up there right??

Quote from: Soli on July 02, 2016, 11:50:43 AM
hey I finally found out how to buddy you back 

there are no other options, Emily, you can work and you will, just like I did after being in the same situation you are. Maybe not in Tennessee

plz end this negative thread and start in new

your life too

tell your parents you want out of Tennessee and want to handle your life yourself, don't have to tell them about hrt or trans issue, just being yourself, not possible here in Tennessee. Can't drive, need public transportation. City...

Don't ever tell anyone you have been fired. Ever.

yes you have to lie, ASDs can hardly lie but that's how society of humans function. Make believe.

You have to construct yourself, and your defeats and lack of success you must forget and scratch from the list. In your head too. For it keeps you in a negative and destructive mood.

You need to start a new page and believe you can do it, make a list of what you want to and can do (and again, no negative side, yes you can).

plz end this thread  the title is depressing and it's too long, too complicated

start in new, make it simple and clear, not complicated, and see life positively: you are young... you will still be in 10 years. That's a lot.

you can't quit now

Lâche pas, t'es capable !

You're right I'm going to end this thread now