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Does your outside appearance effect how you feel on the inside?

Started by highlight, June 30, 2016, 05:32:36 PM

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Jalynn

Thanks for sharing. There really does sound like some sad things about it that I never thought of. So far think I would be okay with it though.
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alex82

Quote from: Jalynn on July 02, 2016, 11:29:45 AM
Thanks for sharing. There really does sound like some sad things about it that I never thought of. So far think I would be okay with it though.

As long as you are ok then it is ok.

Just don't slam a door on yourself in a hurry because that can never work out well. I've read a couple of people on here say they burned the lot and came to regret it.

I read people saying things like they threw out all of their clothes, and I understand why, but it makes me feel sad - the times they had in those clothes were their times. Strangely, I don't even need to - I always shopped in both departments, and the vast majority of the male clothes are unisex anyway - things like slim jeans, cashmere sweaters, even jackets where I just needed the buttons moved over.

I'm lucky in a way that I never needed to buy lots of very male items for work - I worked mainly in the media where that's not really necessary, as a language tutor (likewise), as a fashion PR (the opposite, if anything). I actually quite like male shirts, and think they look good on women. With jeans and heels, it's pretty safe to keep wearing them.

The few things that I do have that are absolutely unable to be translated across, I'm having real problems with. Some of them were gifts, many of them are expensive. So neither fall into the 'comfortable getting rid' category. My watches are unisex, my rings belong to my grandmother and mother - and luckily didn't even need resized. I have a ridiculous collection of perfumes - some of which are male, and I like the smell of them so they're going nowhere.

But presentation was always important to me. I'm happy to go to the local newsagent in my dressing gown or a tracksuit, but other than that, I always did like to look quite tailored and 'done', including make up. For years I've been choosing the shorter hairstyles from the female examples in my stylists books. I'm now happy to let it grow out, but only to tie it up and back in that slightly messy, dirty blonde way some women really suit.

I have no desire for pink nails like talons for instance. Just a clear coat of varnish - that suits me. I bought an amazing dark camel coloured trench coat today, so I can't wait for autumn. There's a pair of olive green suede stilettos that Steve Madden is launching next month that that coat will great with.

I also bought an exercise bike for the house, because if HRT so much as gives me the merest hint of a fat arse, I'll be on that thing for two hours a night.
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Jalynn

My work is blue collar. Just going to continue wearing t shirts but now wear a spandex work out type shirt because chest is looking different. I did get rid of guy underwear except like 2 pairs for when I go to laser but even forget that a couple times. Usually wore jeans but have switched to light track pants because I really like leggings. Havent had a hair cut in about a yr now and finally getting some length. Best and most exciting part for me right now is I am getting to see temple hair come back. I am just going to continue taking hrt and see how far the changes go. Might always be like a guy at work. Recently there was a trans girl at work and it really seemed okay for her.
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2cherry

Sometimes I do, sometimes not. It depends... when I'm too serious, it is... when I'm in don't care mode, It isn't. I can make myself feel like I don't care, and then I truly don't care. I think it hinges on desire, and my objective. If I am looking for a partner, I feel appearance matters most. When I'm happy single, I don't care.

Nowadays I just think: nobody cares anyways. If I see someone outside, I don't care about them. So why should they care about me? it's freeing to realize that nobody gives... if you're pretty, they be jealous. If your ugly, they feel pretty. If you're common, they don't care and leave you alone. So yeah... what's it all for... the older I get, the more I realize that the only person that can make you happy, is you yourself.


1977: Born.
2009: HRT
2012: RLE
2014: SRS
2016: FFS
2017: rejoicing

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cymoril

Absolutely!!!  I just had breast augmentation surgery on June 28, and I feel very much more happy.  I love my breasts.  Not only that,  but they feel right.  I don't know how to describe it, but having breast surgery just feels so right for me.  Honestly, I feel empowered.  I am so very happy :D
Don't really know what to write here...  So I'll just write a little about myself.  For conciseness, I am a 48 y/o pre-op transsexual who's in a wheelchair.  I'm wheelchair bound due to AVN(avascular necrosis) which took three and a half inches from my right femur and I acquired due to HIV.  I got infected by the first man I was ever with.  So, after spending 40+ years in Texas and getting three felonies, I decided to move to San Francisco.
  I got here in 2010 and continued to drug myself until something happened...  I don't remember exactly what happened, but I do know I did something to ease my pain, which didn't help and I ended up in the ER.  After that, mind you I could still walk, barely, I was diagnosed with avascular necrosis.  Immediately I was sent to a hospital in really bad shape.  I was addicted to a copious amount of drugs and weighed less than 90lbs.  I was near death.  I spent two and a half years in hospital, quit drugs, got my own place and am doing quite well.
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Da

I definitely feel different based on what I'm wearing.   I'm not at the point of going out fully dressed as a woman,  but getting closer.   I definitely feel better when I'm at home though,  when I think I look good.
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barbie

Quote from: cymoril on July 03, 2016, 01:02:33 AM
Absolutely!!!  I just had breast augmentation surgery on June 28, and I feel very much more happy.  I love my breasts.  Not only that,  but they feel right.  I don't know how to describe it, but having breast surgery just feels so right for me.  Honestly, I feel empowered.  I am so very happy :D

Wow! Good to hear that you feel empowered.

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wendylove

Yes in more ways than one. When Wendy comes out and dresses up she feels great right up to the point she looks in the mirror and she see's a man dressed in womens clothes, then that happy feeling quickly goes away. Wendy tends to dress up and never look in the mirror then she feels great. When I am dressed up as a man its the same feeling when I look in the mirror, I just feel rubbish at seeing a man looking back. At the end of the day until I  have had a considerable amount of surgery and HRT which totally eliminates the male exterior then I will never feel good on the outside unless I never look at my reflection, I just hate being in a male shell. Yes i'm totally messed up. :(
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AnxietyDisord3r

Quote from: Semira on July 01, 2016, 10:10:55 PM
In a way, I'm kind of the opposite. My outward appearance is generally a reflection of how I feel on the inside. I usually feel lousy on the inside and that causes me to be very apathetic about my outward appearance. I'll go out looking awful and I often don't care. I imagine if I felt better about myself, I would then work to improve my appearance.

Yeah, this is how it works for me too. Feel good, then want to look good. Feel awful, don't care about my appearance.
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alex82

Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on July 04, 2016, 02:41:32 PM
Yeah, this is how it works for me too. Feel good, then want to look good. Feel awful, don't care about my appearance.

That works more for my house. Feel great, it's immaculate. Feel stressed, there's stuff everywhere. Feel depressed, it looks terrible and the Hoover is where I abandoned it to just go to bed.
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