Hi,

I used to think that I am alone but now after searching on net I came to know that there are others like me. Other humans, man who like feminine attire more. I don't know to express myself. I am born male but I think I have mind of woman. I like cross-dressing, I actually feel more comfortable, more of myself in feminine clothes. I am not gay but I fantasize about men and women both. I live with family so I can't explore myself. However, I am very close to my cousin and I had told her that I am girl inside, and she had gladly accepted and even call me her little sister I want to explore myself, but as I live with family I can't. I want to share things with others but I had noone to share with. Of coarse I am close to my sis but still I am not comfortable what if she gets annoyed. Its hurting me inside that I can't be myself. Any suggestions what should I do?

Regards,
Riya aka Sneha

Quote from: sweetriya on April 13, 2016, 09:46:35 AM
Hi,

I used to think that I am alone but now after searching on net I came to know that there are others like me. Other humans, man who like feminine attire more. I don't know to express myself. I am born male but I think I have mind of woman. I like cross-dressing, I actually feel more comfortable, more of myself in feminine clothes. I am not gay but I fantasize about men and women both. I live with family so I can't explore myself. However, I am very close to my cousin and I had told her that I am girl inside, and she had gladly accepted and even call me her little sister I want to explore myself, but as I live with family I can't. I want to share things with others but I had noone to share with. Of coarse I am close to my sis but still I am not comfortable what if she gets annoyed. Its hurting me inside that I can't be myself. Any suggestions what should I do?

Regards,
Riya aka Sneha

Hi Riya,
Its a tough road trying to find a way to be who you are inside.
You are lucky to already have the support of someone and as time goes by you will find others to confide in and help support your journey.
I am unsure of your age but if its early on in your life sooner than later is a good time to come out to your family.
Only you will know when the right time would be and it is a really big step but once done your life will be fantastic and you can be the real you.
I am like you and prefer the look and feel of female styled clothing and wish I could wear full time. Some of us were not fortunate enough to be able to come out and our needs have been hidden for so long that coming out can do too much damage to the lives around us.
Good luck with finding your moment and I hope your family can be accepting.
Cheers
Sue

Riya, Sue and others,

Hi, I certainly identify with your thoughts and feelings.  I am so new though I really don't know what I want.  How would I know the answers I am not even sure what the questions might be.    But I am absorbing a lot of information and things to ponder when I am not here reading.  So for now I will try to be comfortable in the skin I am in.  I know I am riding a pink cloud and it may not last so I am riding my pink while it is new and fun.

hugz,

Josefa

Quote from: sweetriya on April 13, 2016, 09:46:35 AM
Hi,

I used to think that I am alone but now after searching on net I came to know that there are others like me. Other humans, man who like feminine attire more. I don't know to express myself. I am born male but I think I have mind of woman. I like cross-dressing, I actually feel more comfortable, more of myself in feminine clothes. I am not gay but I fantasize about men and women both. I live with family so I can't explore myself. However, I am very close to my cousin and I had told her that I am girl inside, and she had gladly accepted and even call me her little sister I want to explore myself, but as I live with family I can't. I want to share things with others but I had noone to share with. Of coarse I am close to my sis but still I am not comfortable what if she gets annoyed. Its hurting me inside that I can't be myself. Any suggestions what should I do?

Regards,
Riya aka Sneha

Yes. It is very typical among m2f transgder people. Whatever you choose, it will be a long journey. It will not be easy at all, but sometimes may bring some happiness and satisfaction.

And, above all, you are quite normal.

barbie~~

Here at the links are a few resouces that could help you:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,194986.msg1737439.html#msg1737439

There are studies showing there is a biological connection to being trans.
There are differences in brains of women and men so a mismatch is possible.
There are even substances known to cause a higher rate of transgender people.

Its a process fixed before birth, so its nobodys fault, not an upbringing or whatever.
And its nothing to be ashamed about.
It simply is, its a way people are. Its how people really feel, and transgender people have been around in all cultures.
Depending on severity there is a spectrum, from i.e. people with androgynous outfit to full transition.
The usual solution is to adapt the body to how people feel.

I'd say try a few easy reversible things, and see how they make you feel ...
changes to hair and clothing style...
hair can be kept in a ponytail in guy mode ...
second hand stores can be a good source for clothes ...


*hugs*

Thank you everyone for your support and suggestions.