Quote from: alienbodybuilder on July 18, 2016, 02:02:03 PM
When you first started to realize you were transgender did you often think that it was "just a phase" to yourself and doubt/second guess yourself at first because you didn't want to deal with all the trouble related to being transgender

When I was younger and didn't know what trans was, I thought that if I ignored it long enough it would go away. By 14 dysphoria hit, and I knew I needed to somehow get rid of what was *up there* but had no idea top surgery existed. I had a brief idea what trans was and thought maybe I was a guy, but that didn't feel like it fit. It wasn't until about 17 that I realized what a non-binary gender was, and it clicked right away.

So to answer (in multiple parts )...
When I first started experiencing dysphoria and didn't know about non-binary trans, yes I thought it was a phase and second guessed myself.
When I realized I was trans, I didn't do either.
And both before and after I didn't want to "deal with all the trouble" the dysphoria created and ignored it for as long as I could.
For reference, I'm 22 now.

Quote from: Asche on July 19, 2016, 03:30:04 PM
It has never occurred to me to see it as "just a phase."  The roots go too deep and too far back.  I'm not sure exactly where my transition will take me, but I know I won't ever go back to where I was.

I hate the phrase "just a phase."  Mainly the "just."  It suggests that a thing is valueless and meaningless in the long run, and I don't think that something one engages in wholeheartedly can be meaningless, even if one gives it up after a time.  We engage in them because they fulfill a need and help us to become what we need to become.  If we refuse to pursue something because we're afraid it's "just a phase," we impoverish ourselves.

I'm talking about being in a state of denial about being trans temporarily.

Quote from: sigsi on July 19, 2016, 07:39:44 PM

When I was younger and didn't know what trans was, I thought that if I ignored it long enough it would go away. By 14 dysphoria hit, and I knew I needed to somehow get rid of what was *up there* but had no idea top surgery existed. I had a brief idea what trans was and thought maybe I was a guy, but that didn't feel like it fit. It wasn't until about 17 that I realized what a non-binary gender was, and it clicked right away.

So to answer (in multiple parts )...
When I first started experiencing dysphoria and didn't know about non-binary trans, yes I thought it was a phase and second guessed myself.
When I realized I was trans, I didn't do either.
And both before and after I didn't want to "deal with all the trouble" the dysphoria created and ignored it for as long as I could.
For reference, I'm 22 now.

I can definitely relate to the breast dysphoria. I'm a binary male though.

I definitely don't want to deal with the hassle of being transgender but for some reason I've never been good at denying facts. Anxiety, depression, dissatisfaction, sex problems, gender discomfort... they were all just facts in my life that there was no sidestepping. I could kind of "get on with life" around them for a while, but if it had been denial, I'm sure I could have tricked myself into feeling happier or less discontent for a while, and that I could never do.