I'm 42! But don't feel "younger".... 

Hello all,I'm 47 now and I've missed the boat for any transitioning because of ill health,back when I was younger and fitter there was nothing about ftm and no internet access to find out more I also lived in a small Welsh town where everyone was so narrow minded and I had hell because they thought I was gay. I would love to be able to take testosterone but it could make me very ill or worse. It's nice to see a group chat about the older transmen because all I see are the youngsters,may it continue.


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Quote from: Markymarcbolan on August 17, 2016, 02:13:41 PM
Hello all,I'm 47 now and I've missed the boat for any transitioning because of ill health,back when I was younger and fitter there was nothing about ftm and no internet access to find out more I also lived in a small Welsh town where everyone was so narrow minded and I had hell because they thought I was gay. I would love to be able to take testosterone but it could make me very ill or worse. It's nice to see a group chat about the older transmen because all I see are the youngsters,may it continue.


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sorry to interrupt guys.

I want to welcome Markymarcbolan to the site. It is a supportive people of all ages and areas. I hope you find what you are looking for here.

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With warmth,

Joanna

Thank you very much,it's very nice to be in a place where I can be myself and be understood and also help others if need be.I have read your rules and totally agree with them.


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I don't want to make assumptions about the research you have done and consultations you have had. However, do make absolutely sure that your health is actually a barrier if you want to take T. On Susan's and in real life, I have run into a handful of guys who were worried that their current state of health (sometimes mental health) would prevent them from starting T. As far as I know, only a couple have actually been unable to start due to health problems. My buddy was told that his high blood pressure was a problem, but he wound up starting T after all. Another guy I used to know had some pretty severe mental health issues, and he kept on trying and is furry as a bear now. And several FTMs have started threads here on the site and discussed their challenges; maybe you can look up the threads.

I hope that this site is helpful to you. Also, have you looked at the non-transitioning board?

Thank you for your reply Arch,sadly I have multiple illnesses including mental health that I have to take a lot of strong medication for and taking testosterone would severely put my life in jeopardy. I will definitely look at the non-transitioning board as that sounds right for me,I am new here and I'm just learning my way around so thank you for your advice.


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It is possible that some of your "multiple illness" states are due to Estrogen. That was certainly true in my case. I had "allergy symptoms" that weren't. Mysterious itching, migraines, mental fog. I'm still on psych meds but hopefully lowering my dose this week. The stuff I'm taking now doesn't interact with the hormones at all. (It's called Latuda. It's new, you might want to ask about it.)

I know we get told all the times that taking hormones will kill us yet oddly hormones aren't killing cis people left and right. Color me skeptical.

Thank you for your reply,I will certainly look that up.


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I had a number of nonlethal health problems that cleared up or dramatically improved after I started T:
Eczema--Completely gone (and it has plagued me since infancy!)
Certain fabric allergies--Gone
Chronic injuries (wrist, ankle)--Much improved
Food sensitivities and gut problems--Much improved
Depression--MUCH improved, but some of that effect could be due to transition generally

Of course, a few things have gotten worse or stayed the same. For example, my bad cholesterol is higher, but it's still safe. And I still have a sleep disorder and problems with anxiety.

Still, you live in your body and have consulted with medical professionals. Best to tread lightly. Even if you cannot go on T, we know who you are.

Thank you,that's very kind of you,I have diabetes and my liver is irritated also my kidneys have to be monitored regularly,high blood pressure and cholesterol and severe anxiety attacks,I take a lot of medication that keeps it all safely under control at the moment.


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Wow, you have a lot going on. My buddy had high blood pressure and is bipolar, but he was able to transition. And I know a lot of guys whose emotional problems--depression, anxiety, anger management--have improved drastically. Cholesterol, on the other hand, is likely to go up. And most FTMs' doctors are concerned about liver function and run tests periodically to make sure that everything is okay. Existing liver issues might be exacerbated. And diabetes and kidney problems, yikes.

You have a tougher road than most of us, that's for sure.

Hi to all, sorry but I have trouble understanding how to post and tagging is beyond me. So please bare with me.
i am 56 I identify as male. I am so far not transitioning, wish I had understood more about the signs when I was younger. Not sure where to post to actually talk things out without getting blasted for my thoughts like I did on another site. This is my first time posting so any links to the proper area would be a help. Thanks.

Hello PhillipsDream,you sound like you are in the same boat as I am,the non-transitioning board is where I was advised to look,hope this helps.


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Quote from: PhillipsDream on August 22, 2016, 05:04:32 PM
Hi to all, sorry but I have trouble understanding how to post and tagging is beyond me. So please bare with me.
i am 56 I identify as male. I am so far not transitioning, wish I had understood more about the signs when I was younger. Not sure where to post to actually talk things out without getting blasted for my thoughts like I did on another site. This is my first time posting so any links to the proper area would be a help. Thanks.

We are pretty heavily moderated on this site and attacking another member isn't permitted. If it happens to you, hit the report to moderator button on the post and a moderator will step in. Most of the time we clean posts like that up before they are seen but sometimes we are slow or miss one.We attempt to find the life where you are comfortable. This could be binary, non binary or non transitioning. Its for you to decide and we will do our best to help you answer your questions. If you post in the wrong area, a moderator will move it to the correct area. Most people make a few mistakes like that before they learn the layout of the site.

Thank you Markymarcbolan and Dena info is much appreciated !

Welcome to the site, Phillipsdream. I like this site because not everyone is 15 and the constant talk about "Mommy took my binders away". I hope you will find a community here. Some of us are late bloomers and we need support and friendship too.

Hi Anxiety Glad to meet ya!

Just a shout out to those of us on the other side of 40, and 50... and soon, 60!

Hi all,I can understand why a lot of us older gentleman didn't transition as things were a lot different in many ways back in our younger days when we would have been in our prime to have done so. I am pleased for the younger generation who are now getting started earlier and with far more support than we ever had or knew about,things have moved on so much since then in most aspects,I just feel sad that I can't do it now but I do take advantage of some of today's technology that help me with my dysphoria,I'm not meaning to sound rude but there wasn't even such a thing as a Mr Limpy back in our days and the old rolled up sock just didn't do it for me at all haha! I really am "the self made man" as they call it but it helps me to get by and I still do most of the things that a cis man does and live my life as naturally as I can. I am now menopausal so I don't get anymore Red Devils once a month and that's great and helps me even more,one thing Mother Nature has got right for once in my case. I am so pleased to be able to talk to you chaps in the knowledge that i am understood and it gives me comfort and if I can help another I sure will.


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Yes it would have been nice to be born now in a generation that has way more information and tolerance than in years past. And more products to help, Though I still wish they could just grow what we needed on us and be done with it. Maybe one day.