Hey guys, i could be starting t within a month- after waiting over a year.
My question is how to break it to my work place
keep in mind i know its trival in the grand scheme of things
but im a manager at a fast work store, ive worked here for over 5 years
how do i tell them. i dont want ruin my chance of being further promoted cause i love this job so much but i cant not be on T

I just sent an email to my manager saying I'm transgender and want to start changing my name and pronouns to this and that. My manager then sent an email round to my coworkers and that was it. I took a week off work though so the coming out was less awkward. So yeah just send an email. Seeing as you've worked there for 5 yrs I'm sure they'll be accepting.

Thats a neat idea Elis...Im thinking of officially coming out when I get my legal name changed, that way I will have to confront my manager and therefore probably have to give a reason as to why I made such a strange change...

I too hope it doesnt affect my chances of staying hired/getting new jobs but the company I work for presently should have rules against discrimination so if all else fails I think Im safe for the time being

I'm the highest ranking person in my office aside from the owner. I told him in person that I was transitioning, what all that would entail, and what kind of timeline we were looking at for all the initial stuff I had setup (T, top surgery, name change, etc.). He took care of telling everyone that didn't know, updating my e-mail address, etc. I told all my clients that I was changing my name. Didn't mention anything beyond that, and there haven't been any issues.

I had no problems with mine either. Most people were very excepting and excited for me while some people still continued to call me her,she and my birth name. I ended up transferring to another district and moving after my top surgery. I just needed a change of scenery and some of the people I met prior to my transition work in the district I'm in now but, they are all completely cool and excepting. Haven't had any hiccups

I work for an agency that cares for the intellectually and developmentally disabled,  so it might be a factor,  but everyone just got the news and moved on. I went on medical leave after telling my boss and I haven't heard a single thing, aside from polite inquiries about when I'm coming back. So, I've had a great experience. The leave probably helped in terms of people getting used to it. I just told my direct supervisor and he (a Japanese guy from Tokyo,  usually a conservative group) wished me well on recovery and that was that.  I'm having a harder time with family and old friends than with my employers.

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Hey Noah,

Sadly, once you start T and the physical changes become imminent you might be able to progress in the company more quickly than you would have as a female :/ Which is sad in that, misogyny is still a very real and terrible thing, but ultimately good for you lol. I'm a firm believer in having important conversations face to face. Look your manager in the eye and exude confidence. If you appear uncomfortable or lacking in confidence about what you're saying, people are likely to sense that, see it as a weakness/sorespot, and then treat you accordingly. But if you're confident, they will most likely take it in stride and respect you. That's true for a lot of things, not just having to come out at work.

I was unemployed when I started T and was three months in whrn I found work. So luckily for me, my voice had already begun to drop and my face looked a little more masculine. I also live stealth and don't tell any new people I meet about this. When I was pre/early T I passed very well and no one ever gave me a second look (until I told them my age lol). Now that I'm 3+ years in, no one has a clue. You'll get there buddy. Be confident in yourself. You are worth just as much as everyone else in this world. I hope this was a little helpful. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

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