Do I pass to you guys as a female? the past few months, I've been told by strangers I pass very well and some even were shocked to know I was trans. I've never really been misgendered or told I don't pass for the past several months, so today was a first for me when some people said I don't pass, so I wanted a second opinion. It's weird hearing someone say I look like a guy, and honestly, since I haven't heard it for 4 months I'm on the verge of tears but I need a second opinion. So I'm attaching a few facepics here.

You're getting there!  I'd say you pass from about 6 feet away, but I think I can see some stubble beside your chin.  You should try to deal with that a bit better, because it's about your only givaway as far as I can tell...

Nice hair!

Quote from: PrincessCrystal on September 28, 2016, 02:54:55 PM
You're getting there!  I'd say you pass from about 6 feet away, but I think I can see some stubble beside your chin.  You should try to deal with that a bit better, because it's about your only givaway as far as I can tell...

Nice hair!

Aww thank you I love my hari. and the stubble isn't usually visible after I shave. I've been trying to get laser done. But honestly, those pictures were taken about a day after I shaved, but I'm definetely working on getting rid of the stupid shadow.

In my opinion at first glance I would say yes, closer inspection  I would say your getting very close

Quote from: Kevinwg on September 28, 2016, 06:45:04 PM
In my opinion at first glance I would say yes, closer inspection  I would say your getting very close

Guess just give it a few more months  for the closer inspection part

If I viewed your pictures without preconceptions, I'm pretty sure I would see a cisgender female.

Quote from: autumn08 on September 29, 2016, 04:16:29 AM
If I viewed your pictures without preconceptions, I'm pretty sure I would see a cisgender female.

That's good!! And maybe I just need to stop saying I'm trans right out the door then lol. But I don't want to be deceptive either

Honey you look like a woman to me

Quote from: Brianna Deanna on September 29, 2016, 03:31:38 PM
Honey you look like a woman to me

*Hugs* yay thank you <3

Quote from: link5019 on September 29, 2016, 10:27:02 AM
That's good!! And maybe I just need to stop saying I'm trans right out the door then lol. But I don't want to be deceptive either

Only your lovers and your health care providers need to know you are trans (and not even lovers necessarily, depends on your relationship). You have a medical condition and you are not being deceptive by not disclosing, you are protecting your privacy. Do people with diabetes have to disclose that to everyone they meet? Of course not. They may have to tell supervisors because of needing a break to eat or something like that, but they don't have to wear a badge for the whole world.

I'm out, and that's my choice, but if you pass and being trans isn't the center of your identity, you are not being a bad person by keeping that fact to yourself with casual acquaintances and strangers. Would they tell you they were missing a testicle or had PCOS when you first met? Probably not, right?

PS: some cis people pride themselves on being able to clock trans people, as if it makes them more discerning or something and so by outing yourself you're giving them the chance to ego-trip about how clever they are. Needless to say, this is not how friends ought to treat each other. They've shown their ass around you, what you do next is up to you. 

Quote from: AnxietyDisord3r on September 30, 2016, 09:39:23 AM
Only your lovers and your health care providers need to know you are trans (and not even lovers necessarily, depends on your relationship). You have a medical condition and you are not being deceptive by not disclosing, you are protecting your privacy. Do people with diabetes have to disclose that to everyone they meet? Of course not. They may have to tell supervisors because of needing a break to eat or something like that, but they don't have to wear a badge for the whole world.

I'm out, and that's my choice, but if you pass and being trans isn't the center of your identity, you are not being a bad person by keeping that fact to yourself with casual acquaintances and strangers. Would they tell you they were missing a testicle or had PCOS when you first met? Probably not, right?

PS: some cis people pride themselves on being able to clock trans people, as if it makes them more discerning or something and so by outing yourself you're giving them the chance to ego-trip about how clever they are. Needless to say, this is not how friends ought to treat each other. They've shown their ass around you, what you do next is up to you. 

that makes a lot of sense. Guess I shouldn't out myself then to random strangers, though at the same time it's like I've been training myself to be up front so people don't get upset when I say it later on.

yeah i think you pass hun "hug"

Quote from: shaunna on October 01, 2016, 07:23:15 AM
yeah i think you pass hun "hug"

Hugs thank you ^_^ it seems like I was worried over nothing

I wish I could help , but my computer is messed up and all I get of pictures are the negative images. I will say your outline looks fine. You look black and gray though.

I still don't understand how people can say "Yes, you pass." from a couple of pictures.. There's more to it than just appearance. Do you move right? Do you talk right? These are both things that need to be taken in to consideration..

Do you pass? I cant say, I don't know you in person.

Are you content with passing or would you prefer to be respected for your decision to be the best you, you can be? Passing to me is just as much a lie as my former life. I don't think I will ever pass per se. But I can be the best me any day of the week whether I wear a dress or a pair of Levi's. I am also a lot older than you so you are in it for the long haul.  Good luck..

Quote from: kelly_aus on October 02, 2016, 04:30:02 PM
I still don't understand how people can say "Yes, you pass." from a couple of pictures.. There's more to it than just appearance. Do you move right? Do you talk right? These are both things that need to be taken in to consideration..

Do you pass? I cant say, I don't know you in person.

lol yes I talk right, and move right, I eat right, etc. People who know me, know me as this cute, shy, and a bit nerdy girl. I've never been clocked in public where ever I go. Shoping - female, going out to eat - female, just walking around downtown - female.

Quote from: DawnOday on October 02, 2016, 07:15:11 PM
Are you content with passing or would you prefer to be respected for your decision to be the best you, you can be? Passing to me is just as much a lie as my former life. I don't think I will ever pass per se. But I can be the best me any day of the week whether I wear a dress or a pair of Levi's. I am also a lot older than you so you are in it for the long haul.  Good luck..

I feel that passing isn't a lie for me. I'm a woman. I may have been AMAB, but I'm transitioning to be myself, to be the woman I am. So to pass as a woman isn't a lie to me, because it's who I am, and others being able to see that. People in everyday life don't need to know I'm trans, but those that do know, respect my decision. I don't want people to respect my decision to become a woman, I want them to respect that I am embracing that I am a woman. Passing may not be the most important thing to transition, but for me, it's nice to actually pass for a woman and not get clocked. And if I tell people I'm trans, then that means I trust them enough to not blab to the world.

Quote from: link5019 on October 03, 2016, 03:47:50 AM
I don't want people to respect my decision to become a woman, I want them to respect that I am embracing that I am a woman.

Exactly.

Bottom line is not if you look or pass as a female but how you feel about your self. Looks aren't everything. I'm not trying to be cold. Have you seen some of the natural born women...Shivers. You look great, but how do you feel?? While i'm still male on the outside i do feel like i'm becoming a female and that has made me feel better on the inside.