I used to wrench on cars, and did all my own vehicle maintenance on our cars. I have a little 2000 Miata that I have kept in great shape.
Since coming out, though, I've lost access to my garage space and some tools, having moved to a small condo. The HOA prohibits working on cars in the shared garage space, probably wise since I've seen how some shade tree mechanics treated their property. That means I can't really work on cars any more.
This in turn has made me stop back and think about why I did that. The cost savings? Maybe, although I could afford to have things serviced professionally. Lack of trust in my fellow man might have a part, as I've been ripped off in the distant past by pro mechanics and garages. Being a manly man doing manly things? Yeah, that's in there too, although I was driving a Miata, not generally considered a macho vehicle.
I find that I really am losing interest in doing this, and even owning the Miata. I can't really drive with the top down for fear of losing my hair (I wear wigs), as well as a chronic skin cancer issue. I can't wrench on it any more, for reasons I gave previously, plus my aging and loss of upper body strength with HRT would make that harder on me.
I probably should do the rational thing and trade it in for some econobox. Goddess, that feels like surrendering, though.