when i first started coming out, and went to the club, boys just hated me. my look was all wrong. to them, i was just a boy in girly clothes. my bra had nothing in it. i was pre-HRT, and my smell was all wrong, too.

having come through those difficult early days, i guess now when men pay attention to me, i'm a little cynical. sometimes i'm thinking, "oh now you wanna look at me, you bastard, when i was just invisible before."

after i get old, i'll be invisible again. i have no illusions about that.

so it makes no sense for me to be driven to be as sexy as possible, within the limits of my own personal taste, of course, but if my jeans are not as tight as they should be, it annoys me no end. i want boys to look at my butt when i walk past. i want them to smile at me and take pleasure in looking at me. some of the girls look at me with aching lust in their eyes, and i like to see that, too. lots of cisgendered girls might say that's being objectified. but i'm like, go ahead, take a look, objectify me! just don't let me be invisible.

-ellie

It is not the look but what is inside that counts.

Quote from: lisagurl on January 26, 2008, 04:22:20 PM
It is not the look but what is inside that counts.

i can accept that from you.
anyone else i would say, but my booty! i want really tight jeans on my booty!

*ell gives lisagurl another hug, and squishes her ears, again.*

I love you Ell.
i got a hot dress today!
I'm so happy!
-Sara

im so jealous of you girls.... everything that i own is fem but right now i just look emo.... which is kinda ok with me, but i cant wait to  be able to turn heads in a good way.  oooo and a sexy dress! yes!

ell, i dont think it means that you are a hussy. its just nice to get returns from all your hard work.

www.forever21.com

Sara

I figure that if your pretty enough to be a hussy go for it.  Heres to hussys where ever they are.


Audrey

Quote from: lisagurl on January 26, 2008, 04:22:20 PM
It is not the look but what is inside that counts.

That is ultimately the most important thing in anyone's life!

However, the feeling you get when you get 'that look' from a handsome hunk is simply beyond price! It means all the pain and years of heartache you have suffered being trapped in the wrong body have been gloriously overturned.

Looking like you sound to look, Ell, it means your transformation has been a striking success and you can wrap the men round your little finger.

No, you're not a hussy it almost sounds like you're the kind of girl women want to be! What better example is there of feminine success?

My Little Mother - a hussy!
I'm deeply offended.

You're a sweet girl and men should look at you. (haven't seen you) But for your personality alone, men want you. Your looks would just be the icing on the cake.

Quote from: Sarah on January 26, 2008, 06:01:00 PM
www.forever21.com

Sara

thanks sara. that is a great link

Quote from: ell on January 26, 2008, 02:58:48 PM
after i get old, i'll be invisible again. i have no illusions about that.

-ellie

Don't write your future self off so easily. Older women are way more attractive than younger women for a lot of guys. I personally prefer a woman who isn't 6 months out of teenage hell and knows who she is.

Dennis

Quote from: Davinia on January 26, 2008, 06:03:59 PM

Quote from: lisagurl on January 26, 2008, 04:22:20 PM
It is not the look but what is inside that counts.

That is ultimately the most important thing in anyone's life!

No, you're not a hussy it almost sounds like you're the kind of girl women want to be! What better example is there of feminine success?

i'm going to have to think about what you're saying here (thanks). and no, i'm not a striking success. the tides have only turned a little, and i'm far from being a femme fatale. only a few weeks ago, i got laughed at by some guys in the supermarket...

-ellie

unfortunately the world doesn't work the "it's on the inside that counts" way.
it's looks first and then possibly: "oh, you're clued up as well as pretty."-  shame.

Quote from: ell on January 26, 2008, 07:10:56 PMonly a few weeks ago, i got laughed at by some guys in the supermarket...

Let me at em!

Quote from: Renate on January 26, 2008, 08:40:00 PM
Personally, I'm glad that I'm an old hag.
I'd find it oppressive guys salivating over my derierre just because I'm wearing jeans that fit.

Renate

I don't mind being checked out, but it's not my intention. I prefer to dress cute than sexy. I hate 'sexy dresses' (the great majority of 'em), though I wear rather tight pants myself. I'm not someone who goes clubbing though.

Call me an aristocrat, or a princess (not the bitchy kind ) cause that's how I feel I guess. Only matters to me if someone finds my inside attractive before they even know what my outside looks like. That way I know it's not as shallow thinking. I'm out for a long term relationship - have always been, even though when I was a kid or pre-teen or teen I knew something was too off to even look for someone. My ideals there, have not changed.

a lot of girls i know have the same attitude, I'd reckon that you're okay as long as you are in control of your self image, flaunting it would be fun.

Not at all.  I like to show my attributes too. Nothing wrong with that.