If I start counting from my first experience dressing properly it took 40 years.

NEVER, lol...that shame even follows me now...12 yrs after I first started transitioning.

I still get a little weird out in public once in a while , but for the most part its quite comfortable.

I have never felt embarassed about wearing the proper clothes ever since I started coming out.  I do feel nervous and am extra vigilant when I am out and about in case a hater takes exception to my existence.  But not embarassed.  I dress well and look good.

Quote from: KathyLauren on December 26, 2016, 01:15:59 PM
I have never felt embarassed about wearing the proper clothes ever since I started coming out.  I do feel nervous and am extra vigilant when I am out and about in case a hater takes exception to my existence.  But not embarassed.  I dress well and look good.

good for you. I try to look the best I can, but I remember one day I was really sick and didn't do too well and got outside and realized it and had a terrible time freaking out to my self.

For me it's mostly gone already, been on HRT for overseas a year now and passing since summer. Goes quite well!

Also, I'm noticing my memories changing, all aligning themselves to my proper presentation

For me it was simple nervousness, and it went away after a few weeks. Remember you are a woman, and anyone who feels otherwise has a problem, not you.

A little self-conscious the first few times maybe but never embarrassed.

The only time I have been embarrassed was one using a pedestrian crossing through six lanes of traffic and the wind caught my flowing skirt revealing my undies to all.

People hooted!

Actually I wasn't embarrassed - I loved it

No RLE so when I had my srs, ffs etc I saw myself as a female tg the moment I left the hospital. Never have felt embarrassed. Oops yes , when one of my boobs popped out on the dance floor . lol

In my home, never felt embarrassed.  The first time even felt.....euphoric, exciting, wonderful.  Haven't gone outside yet, still look to much like a guy for that.

In the beginning yes.. well not embarrassed but more nervous. I remember the first time I went out in public dressed as a woman it was a very nervous experience, but also exhilarating.


Now many years later.. Its just normal for me, i cant imagine wearing anything but woman's clothes as I have being full time for over 5 years. I feel very comfortable.

I think what is important to remember dress to your age.. and take note what other women your age wear. Trans woman often make the mistake by dressing too slutty in public or like they going to a ball.. dressing to the extreme will get unwanted attention.

I'd say I was more scared than embarrassed, but it last for a few months during the stage when I got misgendered no matter how I presented. Once I stuck to only girl mode, it became so natural, it didn't even occur to me to worry anymore. It was only when I got the odd sideways look that I remembered how I was dressed.

I can't say that I have ever felt embarrassed by clothes. Especially if they feel so good and fit well.

Like many here, I wasn't embarrassed, but fearful.  I was most concerned about being pointed out and attacked, verbally or physically.  Think "Invasion of the Body Snatchers", when all the pod people simultaneously face someone, point at them, and hiss.



I love the clothing.  It feels right.  The pod people scare the heck out of me.


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I never felt embarrassed wearing girls clothes if thats your question. I felt embarrassed as a little boy,wearing boys clothes in public because it didn't feel like me and i'd rather wear one of the dresses that I had where I would only wear at home that my mom bought me. I started wearing girls clothes at 14 before I transitioned at 15. Just felt more natural, obviously. The only thing I felt self conscious about was wearing leggings and swim suits  because even with the tightest tuck, there's still a slight bulge especially if you wear the leggings for 2+ hours. But now after having srs, leggings are all I wear and no longer embarrassed to wear them.

I grew up in girl clothes more often than boy clothes. Never been embarrassed except a few times when it was windy and I forgot panties!

Again, one of those topics I find interesting.  I am soooo wanting to go out as Paula, but I am scared to death just thinking about it!  I know not a soul will judge me at the monthly support group, but why am I so scared when the time comes?  I have attended several meetings and I know there is no pressure, but I just cannot seem to get over that hurdle!  New Years Resolution I think!!

I've been dressing the way I do for as long as I can remember. High School, I felt was probably my shining moment, my figure was the best it was ever going to be, (36, 28, 42)  I went to classes in my boy clothes or girl clothes without a care in the world, and for the most part, nobody else cared either. I was just allowed to exist.

Adulthood was the crushing blow to all that. Suddenly I had to stop being myself, and 'blend in.' Lest I be an 'unemployed failure with no children.' (As my family puts it.)

My therapist explained to me once that a lot of individuals flock to the 'goth' subculture as a sneaky way of cheating their way into presenting more feminine under the radar. There never used to be anything 'under the radar' about me growing up, that came with adulthood. I'm firm in my stance that the way I dress or do my makeup or anything else isn't going to change the minute I have the right body.

I do need more excercize though, and... maybe a diet. 

Quote from: PaulaLee on December 27, 2016, 04:13:29 PM
Again, one of those topics I find interesting.  I am soooo wanting to go out as Paula, but I am scared to death just thinking about it!  I know not a soul will judge me at the monthly support group, but why am I so scared when the time comes?  I have attended several meetings and I know there is no pressure, but I just cannot seem to get over that hurdle!  New Years Resolution I think!!

20 seconds of courage. It really does work. Put yourself in a position where you can't change your mind.