Are there any ways to deal with genital dysphoria? I've read on here that some people pretend it's not theirs, but I can't trick myself into that for even a second so it doesn't help. Who even knows how long it will be until I can get SRS. I really hope there are some tips to make it not so bad in the interim.

I tuck full time and just ignore it as for SRS in California you have to be on HRT for 12 months and live full time as the gender you're correcting to. You also must have a letter from two different licensed mental health professionals with a diagnosis of GID.  I'm not sure if different states have different requirements or not. Then you can get on the SRS waiting list which very in duration.


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I'm able to tuck flat for I can't pull it between my legs like a lot do. I pretend it's a enlarged clit when having sex.

I was one of those pretenders.  It is also considered "dissociation" as I would imagine a different reality wherein my penis was inside of me during intercourse.  It was one way to cope temporarily but ultimately led to crying and despair when reality resumed.

I cannot tell you exactly why but now considering myself a female with a toy works for me.  My biggest hurdle was accepting myself as transgender and i keep working but feel successful about that.  I also can think of my genitals as an enlarged clitoris as shrinkage has been good for me.  Years of HRT and transition have helped me think a lot less about it at all and I don't miss that past a bit.

Still it can be hard to accept the nude in the mirror as the positive changes still leave a dangling participle   (for my english teacher)

Is this something you can share with a therapist or friends who are trans?

Hi sweetie,

I find that close fitting underwear is essential, to try to minimise movement, and positioning can help too - if you can tuck, then that can help. Just take care to not be too tight as chafing is sore... and another discomfort there is unpleasant.

For me, that is enough to reduce the sensations to a point where it's mostly dormant, and doesn't remind me that it's there too much during the day, unless I'm moving around a lot - but there's no way I can ignore it. I found my way, purely by experiment, over many years, in the time before I had words to describe what I was feeling.

Take care

Sno