Since I started HRT I have found a new addiction... Susan's Place. I spend hours and hours here. I read a large amount of the posts that seems like they may apply to me. I skip those that do not and try to skip those that annoy me lest I express my opinion and incur the wrath of the moderators and admins.
  I do enjoy the thoughts, incites, and advice I see here. But as I said I spend hours and hours here. From the time I wake to  the time I go to bed I am checking the unread posts and going through them. So I feel it would be better for me and probably better for Susan's if I try to dial it back some. I don't know how successful I'll be at it as I have an addictive personality as proven through drugs, alcohol, and online gaming (my World of Warcraft time has been severely impacted by Susan's) but I will be trying.

  That said I will surely be lurking nearby.

  Hugs,
     Jeanette

Aw, Jeanette.

And there's me just getting to know you, don't be too much of a stranger.
But you gotta do what you gotta do to get things done girl. We all need balance in our lives.

Peace and love and all that good stuff,

shy

I think that the commitment and nearly obsessive focus we experience is understandable when it is the very core of our identity in the balance.  Especially the acute decisions and knowledge we need to begin transition can seem to absorb our lives.  Good for you for seeking a balance.

Real life experience and getting outdoors can be therapeutic and offer fresh perspectives and fun.  Enjoy yourself and we will see you around.

    I surrender!! My wanting to dial it back has failed. I'd say miserably but I am anything but miserable about it. I've discovered I am so caught up in all thing trans that I am inexorably drawn back here to Susan's Place. I love it here.

    So I give up. I'm back for better or worse, for whatever time it takes to get my fix from all of you.

Hugs,
    Jeanette

I thinks it natural for your susan's time to fluctuate depending on where your transition is at.  At times I hardly ever got on and at other times I got on a lot.  I found it a godsend to escape here after the Presidential election. I couldn't go near a news site for months afterwards.

I'm on here seemingly too often as well, but it's the only place I have to dump my trans thoughts, and doing so is really helping me explore myself and come to terms with why and how I want to transition, even just signing up was an exercise in admitting it to myself and convincing myself it's OK. Without this I'd just be dumping it on my female friend that I told, and she would oblige, but I wouldn't ask that of her anyway.

Quote from: JeanetteLW on February 25, 2017, 12:16:01 PM
   
    So I give up. I'm back for better or worse, for whatever time it takes to get my fix from all of you.

Hugs,
    Jeanette

...and we missed you...

Quote from: Daniellekai on February 25, 2017, 10:34:10 PM
I'm on here seemingly too often as well, but it's the only place I have to dump my trans thoughts, and doing so is really helping me explore myself and come to terms with why and how I want to transition, even just signing up was an exercise in admitting it to myself and convincing myself it's OK. Without this I'd just be dumping it on my female friend that I told, and she would oblige, but I wouldn't ask that of her anyway.

  I think I may do much the same Danielle, This is a wonderful place to come and become a part of. I respond where I feel I have something to offer, greet the new people to make them feel welcome, and share my insecurities with you all and gain the support I need,  In my case I don't have anyone but you all to talk to about me. No one yet and I have very few IRL friends to begin with.  I know sad huh? LOL

Quote from: ElizabethK on February 25, 2017, 11:28:24 PM
...and we missed you...

I was hardly gone Liz But it's sweet of you to say so, Thank you

   Hugs,
    Jeanette

This place addictive?

I've only made 22,000 posts, you have a long way to go

Quote from: Cindy on February 25, 2017, 11:43:17 PM
This place addictive?

I've only made 22,000 posts, you have a long way to go

  Yes Cindy, You and all of you wonderful people that keep me entertained, that hold my hand, that lend me their advice and their hearts are Addictive !! And you even have me paying for it. (money well spent)

Love ya all,
  Jeanette

I get it. When I'm not checking this forum, I'm watching gay or trans movies/TV shows on Netflix. I feel lonely when I'm not.
I have plenty of Thai and Filipino mixed gender friends here in southern Thailand, both transwomen and transmen, but here it's not taken seriously. People don't make any issue of it, just get on with their lives, seldom/never discuss it.

Not much help when you want to talk about it, but in a way, I suppose, maybe they don't experience dysphoria.

I don't ever bring it up because they seem oblivious to it.

US transpeople seem extra self-aware because of the Christian bias against it.

I have been on the site 3 months shy of two years. I have made over 9,000 posts and 11 people have a higher post count. In that time I have spent 253 days on the site and only 6 other people have spent more time. I had my voice surgery two months after joining the site so I no longer have a need for the information contained on the site. Think I need to get a life? At least my typing speed has greatly improved.

I must be a slacker.  I've only got 65 days on the forum in two years.  When I first joined this place it was critical to my mental health.  It helped a lot.  It still helps but mostly I just enjoy reading the posts, replying where I have something useful to say, and learning to restrain my tendency to become strongly opinionated at times.  Since I do all my forum interaction on my phone and it's always with me it's really not a time burden to scroll through the messages several times a day.


It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not.
André Gide, Autumn Leaves