Hi, my name is Caroline and have plucked up enough to try this message board.

In recent times things have blown up big time so now I living on my own quite lonley but happy to be living full time female although i have yet to go for consouling on this.

Caroline

Caroline,
Welcome to Susan's Place, You have come to a very simpathetic and friendly place. There are great indivduals with much wisdom here. The Chat lines can help in the lonely part maybe as well as reading and enjoying exchange on many view and topices. So Jump in and share where ever you like.

I'm Leah's SO. Leah and I both have posted Intros a while back. So I won't go into all of that now. Just wanted to welcome you.

Smiles,
Peggiann

Hi Peggiann

Thanks for your welcome, right now I can sure use some new friends.

Looking forward to chatting to you again.

Caroline

Hi Caroline,
Glad to meet you.
Tell us more about yourself.

Jillieann

Hi Caroline!  Welcome!

Living full time before counselling is something I haven't heard much about.  I guess you just "jumped in with both feet!"  Susan's is a great place to learn about TG issues and I hope it benefits you as much as it has helped me.  I really got alot from reading the Wiki and library and surfing through the links.  But the best part is the wonderful group of human beings that frequent the place.  You'll get a lot of support and understanding here.

I'll be looking forward to reading more from you in the future and I am happy to again say,

WELCOME!
helen

Hi to both Helen & Jilliann

Yes I did jump in the deep end although it was not planned that way.

I have known I was female since I was 4, just took time for me to come to terms with this.

When I was totally honest with my wife all hell broke loose, so here I am a single girl looking to make her way in the world.

I have only one friend left everybody else has dumped me in the most unkind way, but one friend I have known for 20 years has been so sweet to me.

Will sure like to get to know you both better.

Caroline

Hi Caroline, Welcom here. I am new as well trying to sort things out. Been thinking heavely of making the transition but wasnt shure where to start. Hopefuly this site will help and I hope it helps you.

Love being female
Owen

Hi Caroline,

Looking for friends, well you've come to the right place. Susan's is one of the friendliest places for those from the TS family. Provided that people are nice to us we rturn the favour.

I think you'll find Susan's to be very helpful particularly as you seem to be in need of people who understand to talk to. Our members here are from across the spectrum and more than happy to provide a shoulder or ear whichever is required.

I have had experiences like yours and although not living out I have had some less than happy experiences so I do understand where you are. I hope to get to know you and look forward to reading your posts.

BTW is the Oz as in downunder?

Shelley

Hi Shelley

Thanks for your kind thoughts, it would be nice to share our experiences and help each other.

As I am new do some of the girls email each other direct, as there are some personal issues that you may not want for general view.

Yours

Caroline

Hi Carol,

If there is something you wish to discuss in a less open forum this can be achieved using Personal Messags (PM). You cannot however, send PM's until you have posted fifteen messages. The same is true for the little images that sit under some members names to the left of a posted message.

Some members also use Instant Messaging and if you look at our profiles you'll see that some of us have the addresses in them.

P.s. you didn't answer my question. Are you from downunder. Looking at the time of your post I suspect so as most of our nortern hemisphere friends are asleep.

Shelley

Hi Shelley

Yes I am from Australia.

I need to build a suport network, if its from overseas thats ok.

Yours
Caroline

Hi Caroline,

QuoteHi Carol,

Sorry about the misnaming. Wasn't paying attention. There are a few of us from down this end of the world but most from up there. Don't get me wrong they are lovely people they just sleep during our evenings. Well most of them anyway.

Shelley

Hi Shelley

Are you from Australia as well?

I really could use some one to talk with, email that is.

Caroline

Hello Carol,

I'm so glad that you've plucked up the courage to post here.  I believe that you are the "same" Carol...?  You certainly did jump in with both feet didn't you but it's not the end of the world but look at it as the start of a new one.  As you've discovered there are a couple of "Ozzies" here at Susan's, Shelley who you have already met, and Rana, comes to mind.  There may be others and I'm sorry if their names have slipped my mind.

Enjoy your stay here and I'm sure that we will chat later.

Steph

Quote from: CarolC Oz Girl on February 18, 2006, 04:46:05 AM...
I really could use some one to talk with, email that is.
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If I person lists their email in their profile then you are free to contact them as you choose. The same with the IM programs.

I believe you should be able to see a little envelope icon just under the post count and avatar picture&text, which is an easy way to see if the person publishes their email (which is not a requirement).

Regardless, you are very welcome to join in on the conversations.

hey Caroline   good to meet you

Is always great to meet another person from Oz   I am glad you have found Susans, it is a wonderful & supportive place to visit.

I am really sorry to hear about your marriage - one of those rotten cases of damned if you do and damned if you don't

One good thing that came out of all the awfulness - you know you have one good friend IRL.  That has got to be more precious than diamonds.  Here you will find heaps of them   and ones that know exactly the pain you are experiencing .

When you read the postings you will see that your situation is not uncommon - thou in your case the effect was more stark than for others here.  If I could offer any advice it would be to go for counselling,  it helped me heaps and in all sorts of ways.

I hope we hear more from you and if you want, you are always most welcome to message me (when you are able) or email me

regards
rana

Hi Caroline,
I can understand your hurt. I told my wife recently that I was a TG (Transgender), CD (Cross Dresser) and had GID (Gender Indentifation Disorder). She seem to except it at first , but now she is not intrested in talking about it (I won't bring up the subject) and she said she is fine because she is in denial. She is seeing a thearps. So even though I still living with my wife she is not acccepting me at this time. My wife has been my best friend and I have lost her. I hoping over time she will want to know me but that may never happen.
Sorry about that, I'm a little more negitive than usually tonight.

I will be more that happy to answer any email that you want to send me. I really enjoy talking with people who except you for who you are.


Jillieann

Hi Jilliann

I feel for you,  and can say I share your pain, I still love my wife, but I cannot love her as a husband as I am clearly female, she told me she does not want to be my best girlfriend.

Its time for me to move on, I hope one day to be in a loving with a great guy who accepts a a woman.

I will surely email you.

Love

Caroline
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Hi Caroline,

Try to keep your chin up. Unless you have finalized in a divorce then there may still be hope that she may have a change of heart. There are many thing she is feeling right now as I'm sure are you. There are some really great love prevailed stories here on Susan's and maybe yours can be one of them also. How long where you together? Are the children invovled? If I might ask with out appearing to nosey.  Once you have a chance for therapy and maybe she also could go to therapy then you could keep communications going better. Until then I would urge you to email her sharing links from here at Susan's for the Significant Other's the view and learn from. You might even print them off for her and mail them or drop them by. It was this education on the issues that helped others who came to seek help, with those love prevailed stories have a more positive outcome.

I remember one time when I had to get Leah attention drastically I paid $10.00 for overnight male and registered it. So she had to sign for it. For me to go to such lengths, Leah knew what ever I sent in that envelope was important and she needed to read it.

Yes ,maybe I'll see you in the posts. Personal Message or email myself or Leah on when you'd like to chat and we'll meet you there. we are night owls sometimes too.

Smiles,
Peggiann

Hi Peggiann

Thanks for your support, we have been married for 19 years, no kids.

Will email you for sure

Love

Caroline
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