Hey everyone. I am taking a break from working on our toilet which seems to have a gasket crack or something. I am writing here to ponder ideas. I have been at it (transition) for the last little bit. It has been going overall great. Today was another great day (aside from the toilet). But I am pondering stuff. I am curious as to what I should do work wise. The idea of the Military as re-entered my mind (would hope to be a meterologist tech.). I have been thinking I could join in a few years after surgery so I can blend in better instead of being the girl with a penis. You know how awkward it is to shower naked with multiple people, now imagine that with having male genitals in a female shower room. Not a comforting idea what so ever. I have been thinking maybe I could just join now and keep living as a woman up until the day I go to basic training. I have been told too that the Canadian Forces also will all trans people to join if they already had the surgery or join as their birth gender until basic is over then after that make the change. Here the thing

The pros: Would have a steady pay check and a career before my 24th birthday, would probably get posted to my teenage hometown of Quinte West Ontario (CFB Trenton), would do something that is an intrest of me, would get both srs and post secondary education paid for and the Canadian military is among the most LGBT friendly of armed forces in the world. Case in point 0 tolerence policys for harrasment from anyone and allowing LBG to serve since 1992 and T to serve since 1998

The Cons: Would litterly have  to go back to man living for 3 full months and a few months ago when I tried to be a dude I couldnt make it a day without crying or needing a beer. That and the fact I really really like living as myself and learning about myself, my likes, my intrests more then ever.

The next city we are moving to is Brandon in Manitoba. It does have a lot of factory jobs and I think a Costco may be built in the coming years so that is good for someone with no post secondary or red seal apprenticships. I guess my question is what would be the wisest move??

Hugs-Ashley

Let me know if you need help with the toilet.


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Hahah nope, but I gotta get it done soon!! I gotta start work at 4! 

This is tough. It sounds like you are really interested in a military career but would have to risk your mental health in order to achieve it.  The decision is entirely yours of course. I can tell you where I was at your age tho.  Being the child of a WW II vet I dreamed from an early age of being in the Army.  And military service is and has always been a path to success in American life for working class kids.  But after suffering thru a 4 year all boys high school experience I knew I would never survive the military boy's club culture.  Things are different now of course, but I suspect not that much.  There was no transgender back then but I knew that I had same sex attraction issues that would doom any chance of my survival in the military at the time.  The way I see it it's just part of the gay tax/trans tax that was levied and paid in full. So I directed my energy elsewhere.

Quote from: Jane Emily on April 15, 2017, 03:22:02 PM
This is tough. It sounds like you are really interested in a military career but would have to risk your mental health in order to achieve it.  The decision is entirely yours of course. I can tell you where I was at your age tho.  Being the child of a WW II vet I dreamed from an early age of being in the Army.  And military service is and has always been a path to success in American life for working class kids.  But after suffering thru a 4 year all boys high school experience I knew I would never survive the military boy's club culture.  Things are different now of course, but I suspect not that much.  There was no transgender back then but I knew that I had same sex attraction issues that would doom any chance of my survival in the military at the time.  The way I see it it's just part of the gay tax/trans tax that was levied and paid in full. So I directed my energy elsewhere.

Makes sense and thank you for your input. My thing is, unlike a lot of people here my auto-pilot/robot face was that of being a typical ''man''. I didnt like it, however it was my form of being on auto pilot and just doing as expected. I survived doing so for 20 years until it became too much. My issue is with my new found freedom of being a woman I am unsure I could go back, not even for 3 months.

To be honest I am unsure why i made this post. I know I am happier as female and wouldnt not compemplate going back unless it would beneift me for finances and ONLY for a super short time. But 3 months feels like an enternity. I would know, back before I did this living a day without  feminizing in some way was a heart breaker.

Quote from: SailorMars1994 on April 15, 2017, 08:22:02 PM
My issue is with my new found freedom of being a woman I am unsure I could go back, not even for 3 months.

Not sure I could handle that either. Maybe in a scenario where if it were the only option, i.e. if I were in a situation where I had to go back to living as a man or face some very unpleasant fate. I could do it. Knowing I had to do it to survive.  But that's about the only scenario where I could handle it.

While a military career is a good option for someone who wants to learn a skilled trade, it can be a hard road.  Basic training is one of the hardest things you will ever do in your life, both mentally and physically. 

I know how hard it hit you to go back to being a guy the last time.  To add that to the stress of Basic would be horrible. 

You would do well in the military, and I think you would enjoy being a meteorologist, but it sounds like you need to be fully you before you take that step.

Quote from: KathyLauren on April 16, 2017, 07:08:37 AM
While a military career is a good option for someone who wants to learn a skilled trade, it can be a hard road.  Basic training is one of the hardest things you will ever do in your life, both mentally and physically. 

I know how hard it hit you to go back to being a guy the last time.  To add that to the stress of Basic would be horrible. 

You would do well in the military, and I think you would enjoy being a meteorologist, but it sounds like you need to be fully you before you take that step.

I think you are totally right. I think I need to work on me first before I can serve my country <3