I'm 5 years on T, 23 and super disappointed with my results.

I have thick body hair but scarcely any on my face. I've steadily got fatter and am now obese. My chest surgery is negated by my weight gain. My face is still feminine and babyish. I have no self esteem, motivation, passion or will to live. My depression and anxiety along with body image issues control my life. I don't feel anything. I feel like a corpse.

I probably am just one of the ones that can't be saved. Genetics have condemned me.

Why do I bother.

Hey;

I feel the same way. My body is still not exactly how I want it to look and I still don't have any facial hair. I feel numb basically all the time. If it helps a lot of trans people feel the same way after transitioning. It's a process to feel happy or at least comfortable; same as a cis person. Have you tried therapy? Or maybe something like volunteering to try and give your life some meaning? I'm going to volunteer for an LGBT charity soon which I hope will help.

What helps me from completing losing my mind and going completely into the depression black hole is by thinking that at least T has helped me being able to cope better. When I think back to how my brain was like pre T I think thank god at least I no longer feel like that again.

Just know you are not alone. Take life one step at a time. Try therapy or maybe calling an LGBT helpline.

Hi Logan,  sorry you've not had the changes you hoped for. It's true that many cismen don't have much facial hair,  at 23 I only needed to shave 2-3 times a week,  it has (sadly in my case)  slowly continued to thicken over the years. There are options like beard transplants if it's a big concern for you. I'm guessing your T is in a good range, worth talking with your endo? Re.  the weight,  I can only suggest hitting the gym,  it'll take time,  but extra muscle bulk and some cardiovascular will help,  along with a high protein,  high fibre,  low carb diet.

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Weight loss is absolutely within your control; what you put in your mouth is absolutely within your control. Weight gain makes male faces more feminine. Lose the weight and your face will look better. Being fat means there will be more estrogen in your system offsetting any T. Lose the weight.

There are all kinds of methods said to encourage facial hair growth, have you tried them? DHT, microneedling, face massage to increase blood flow, various chemical applications etc.

You have to work to get what you want in life.

When I went through an episode with an underactive thyroid for a year, my weight shot up ridiculously. But even with something like that, it's not impossible to fix. You have to be disciplined.

Quote from: Kylo on April 17, 2017, 08:33:56 AM
Weight loss is absolutely within your control; what you put in your mouth is absolutely within your control. Weight gain makes male faces more feminine. Lose the weight and your face will look better. Being fat means there will be more estrogen in your system offsetting any T. Lose the weight.

There are all kinds of methods said to encourage facial hair growth, have you tried them? DHT, microneedling, face massage to increase blood flow, various chemical applications etc.

You have to work to get what you want in life.

When I went through an episode with an underactive thyroid for a year, my weight shot up ridiculously. But even with something like that, it's not impossible to fix. You have to be disciplined.

i agree with this. the more you lose weight, the better you will feel overall. when i started losing weight, i liked how my body and face ended up looking. even though my facial hair still isn't that great, being leaner definitely helps with how i look. i also still have a baby face but that is just generally genetics but being leaner definitely helps it. losing weight is hard but starting with eating healthy is more than half the battle. get on that and then start working out (even going on walks) and you will eventually lean out the more you go forward with exercising, etc. don't give up.

If you are feeling suicidal and are in danger of harming yourself, please contact a suicide prevention lifeline:

https://www.lifeline.org.au/
https://www.suicidecallbackservice.org.au/

Dysphoria is tough, there are many days where I'm still struggling with my own self image and esteem. I feel like I still have a very masculine body, and that my face doesn't pass. I really feel your pain. But our lives are worth living. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

My uncle has a baby face as well, but no one questions him as a man. He was also overweight and was able to lose the weight. I agree with the other guys on here, you can change your weight and that can help with your self esteem. You are in control of where your life goes, and how you hold yourself.

Are you sure it isnt just an exaggerrated self image you can never attain that's keeping you down? Do you pass as male on a general basis or is your weight and lack of facial hair keeping you from reading male? You arent always going to be the perfect image of somebody else in your head, only the masculinized version of who you are, at times a lot of trans men, AND cis men, do have to learn to accept things which they cannot change about their body, maybe even learn to like it. Many men do not have facial hair and that's okay, many men are a little on the chubby side and within healthy maintenance of it that's fine, too.

There are a lot of things we can change, and we have many, many chances to try and change. Again and again. There is no timeframe or end to how many times you can keep trying, or keep going. Suicidal ideations is a hard thing to be hit with, and I'm sorry your life has been hit so bad, no matter what it's all on you where to go from here, you do have control, and the limits are in your head. You can make some pretty radical decisions in life if you want to. Perhaps try switching your focus to other things you enjoy in life while continuing to fight and struggle forward, it may ease of the tension and strain.

I dont know how much it helps if youre dwelling in a useless space and are hopeless, but a lot of people out there do understand how it feels. I hope it helps to let people know all that inner turmoil inside of you. Good luck, dude.