I grew up frequently being accused of being gay. I definitely feel the "men are gross" thing and have no interest in or attraction to masculinity at all. Figuring out that I was a lesbian woman was a little extra difficult, because I had never heard of someone being born as a straight male and then transitioning into a lesbian female. Had I known it was possible, I would have been aware of myself sooner. It does make sense that in a lot of my past romantic relationships I was referred to as "the girl in the relationship" even when I was presenting as male.
I recently determined that even though I am attracted to women, I am actually asexual.