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OMG My Mother Just Destroyed Me (in a good way)...

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AlyssaJ

June 27, 2017, 09:02:09 PM
My birthday was this past week.  Unfortunately my parents were out of town at a wedding so tonight they took me out for a belated birthday dinner.  After we ordered, my mom slid an envelope across the table to me, it was blank but I correctly assumed it was my card.  My mom is very into crafts and one of her hobbies is making greeting cards, so like so often is this case, the card inside the envelope was a one of a kind made just for me.

When I read the card, I couldn't hold back, I just started bawling right there in the restaurant.  Here's what it said inside:

QuoteAlyssa,
This birthday is not just another year,
It's a celebration of you my dear,
You may not look the same as before,
But we love you the same and maybe more.
It's a celebration of 40 yrs, and finally becoming
The person you were meant to be,
A loving and caring woman for everyone to see.
You are a strong and courageous woman,
And we know the journey is hard; we are with you all the way,
So celebrate you in a very special way on this your 40th birthday.
Happy first Birthday Alyssa.

Love,
Mom & Dad
"I want to put myself out there, I want to make connections, I want to learn and if someone can get something out of my experience, I'm OK with that, too." - Laura Jane Grace

What's it like to transition at mid-life?  http://transitionat40.com/
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natalie.ashlyne

#1
June 27, 2017, 09:22:22 PM
Aww that is so sweet you have very cool parents that is awesome
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MissKairi

#2
June 27, 2017, 09:42:03 PM
and now i want to cry!
the whole "youre our daughter no matter what" so sweet!!
Let's see where this journey takes me.
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Lady Sarah

#3
June 27, 2017, 10:33:26 PM
Alyssa, you are indeed blessed with great parents. I have seen that a great many here do not have relations with their parents anymore. Some that do, have poor relations. I could feel myself starting to tear up reading what the card said, and I have a great relationship with my mother.  Hold your parents dear, and never let go.
started HRT: July 13, 1991
orchi: December 23, 1994
trach shave: November, 1998
married: August 16, 2015
Back surgery: October 20, 2016
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Artesia

#4
June 27, 2017, 10:36:03 PM
Dang it...now I'm crying.  It's beautiful, you can feel the love flowing through her words.
All the worlds a joke, and the people, merely punchlines

September 13, 2016 HRT start date
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Paige

#5
June 27, 2017, 10:48:44 PM
Wow Alyssa, you have amazing parents. 

Paige :)
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Another Nikki

#6
June 27, 2017, 11:13:10 PM
wow, absolutely beautiful.  i can only imagine what that acceptance from your parents means.
"What you know, you can't explain, but you feel it. You've felt it your entire life—that there is something wrong. You don't know what it is, but it's there like a splinter in your mind, driving you mad. It is this feeling that has brought you to me."
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josie76

#7
June 27, 2017, 11:58:02 PM
Now I'm crying too!  :) That is so wonderful how completely they accept you! Her note is so beautiful.
04/26/2018 bi-lateral orchiectomy

A lifetime of depression and repressed emotions is nothing more than existence. I for one want to live now not just exist!

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tgirlamg

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June 28, 2017, 12:24:26 AM
Wow!... Talk about a feel good moment and post!!!... You are truly blessed Alyssa!!! Aaaaaand.... HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY!!! :)!!!!!!
"To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment" ... Ralph Waldo Emerson 🌸

"The individual has always had to struggle from being overwhelmed by the tribe... But, no price is too high for the privilege of owning yourself" ... Rudyard Kipling 🌸

Let go of the things that no longer serve you... Let go of the pretense of the false persona, it is not you... Let go of the armor that you have worn for a lifetime, to serve the expectations of others and, to protect the woman inside... She needs protection no longer.... She is tired of hiding and more courageous than you know... Let her prove that to you....Let her step out of the dark and feel the light upon her face.... amg🌸

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Michelle_P

#9
June 28, 2017, 12:30:14 AM
Oh, that's just... beautiful, wonderful, amazing!

Happy 1st Birthday, Alyssa.
Earth my body, water my blood, air my breath and fire my spirit.

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RobynD

#11
June 28, 2017, 01:25:34 AM
That is true parental love. Fantastic.


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coldHeart

#12
June 28, 2017, 03:05:50 AM
Wow you a set of wonderful parents, happy first birthday. Sara
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Shy

#13
June 28, 2017, 03:13:34 AM
That's beautiful Alyssa :)

Peace and love and all that good stuff,

Sadie
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Violets

#14
June 28, 2017, 04:43:08 AM
Wow, how wonderful is that?!  :)


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LizK

#15
June 28, 2017, 05:05:11 AM
That is so wonderful and It is so great you have such supportive parents!! :D
Transition Begun 25 September 2015
HRT since 17 May 2016,
Fulltime from 8 March 2017,
GCS 4 December 2018
Voice Surgery 01 February 2019
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JillianC

#16
June 28, 2017, 06:58:41 AM
Wow! What amazing parents you have.  That card was beautiful.
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Sarah_P

#17
June 28, 2017, 07:55:34 AM
That's so wonderful!! Happy birthday!!
--Sarah P

There's a world out there, just waiting
If you only let go what's inside
Live every moment, give it your all, enjoy the ride - Stan Bush, The Journey



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Kendra

#18
June 28, 2017, 08:15:14 AM
Incredibly thoughtful, amazing parents.  I am crying a bit reading this - it feels good to know there are people this wonderful out there.  Alyssa, thank you for sharing.
Assigned male at birth 1963.  Decided I wanted to be a girl in 1971.  Laser 2014-16, electrolysis 2015-17, HRT 7/2017, GCS 1/2018, VFS 3/2018, FFS 5/2018, Labiaplasty & BA 7/2018. 
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AlyssaJ

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June 28, 2017, 08:25:30 AM
Quote from: Lady Sarah on June 27, 2017, 10:33:26 PM
Alyssa, you are indeed blessed with great parents. I have seen that a great many here do not have relations with their parents anymore. Some that do, have poor relations. I could feel myself starting to tear up reading what the card said, and I have a great relationship with my mother.  Hold your parents dear, and never let go.

Sadly Sarah, your post is spot on and I am acutely aware of just how fortunate I am to have parents that are so supportive. I'm crushed every time I hear the stories of people becoming estranged from their parents as a result of their transition.  As a parent myself, it is unconscionable to me that any parent would abandon their child over their gender identity.  Yet I've seen it first hand with friends of our family, hell, even my wife's father disowned her over MY gender identity and transition.

So yeah I do hold my parents dear, I don't take their acceptance for granted at all, and it has brought me much closer to them.  I feel for anyone out there who has been rejected by their family members. 
"I want to put myself out there, I want to make connections, I want to learn and if someone can get something out of my experience, I'm OK with that, too." - Laura Jane Grace

What's it like to transition at mid-life?  http://transitionat40.com/
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