Hi everyone! Im 13 (so young i know), and im pretty sure in trans (ftm). Im not sure what to do about it. Although when i was a child i didn't exactly show "signs" of being trans, ive still felt this way for a while, it only started when i was 9ish right when puberty hit. I think the first time i had been his thought was in the beginning if 4th grade. it was 9pm and i was tucked in bed, I started crying because i felt i was a boy. Ever since then ive had a strong feeling of being a boy. I cannot stand my name, my clothing, and the changes in undergoing. Anyways, im scared of coming out because when i was younger i was a girly girl, i would dress up, i loved princess movies, and to this day i still love doing my makeup. But i still truly feel I am a boy. Im scared no one will believe me, but i also feel like my life would be so much better and i would not be so incredibly depressed and have panic attacks weekly (neither of these are self diagnosed). Any advice?

Talk to your parents? Try to go to a councilor


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Yup, you are pretty young. Truth be told, many people knew at a much younger age.

Have you tried talking to your parents? It might help. My biggest piece of advice I would give you and them would be to have you start talking to a therapist. They can help guide you through these confusing thoughts. Although many transition in similar ways, all people are different and have an individual experience. The great thing about seeing a therapist is they might help you figure out where you are on the spectrum. Perhaps you are not all of any one thing but leaning more in one direction. Perhaps you are non binary. That is only something you and your therapist can work out.

If your parents are supportive but need to learn more, they can look on the web but they can also come here. We have a significant others section that supports parents, siblings as well as romantic significant others. It is sometimes a useful step for them to read some of our sections and/or ask questions themselves.

The great thing about the age you are hanging is that you probably have started puberty but it has not settled. If you and a therapist were to convince your parents, you could potentially take hormone blockers. They would probably not allow you to start taking testosterone till you are of age (18ish down here in the states although some parents when convinced it is the right course have allowed it around 16). The reason this is so great is if after a few years you decided you did not want to follow through, you stop the blockers and puberty picks up where it left off.

That's a lot of info, I know and I am rambling a bit. My oldest child has a friend who is a trans male whose parents do not support him in this(we have kind of adopted him). However, he is 18 and making his own decisions. My other kids are all involved in the Gay, Straight Alliance at their school(they support trans kids too). I'm just saying this to mention that while I have a lot more years on me than you do, I kind of understand. Truth be told most of us of any age do. In a way because many of us never grew up in the gender we identify as, we have a keen desire to help others to do just that.

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Quote from: Jacqueline on July 25, 2017, 07:07:35 PM
Welcome to the site.

Glad you found this category to post in.

Yup, you are pretty young. Truth be told, many people knew at a much younger age.

Have you tried talking to your parents? It might help. My biggest piece of advice I would give you and them would be to have you start talking to a therapist. They can help guide you through these confusing thoughts. Although many transition in similar ways, all people are different and have an individual experience. The great thing about seeing a therapist is they might help you figure out where you are on the spectrum. Perhaps you are not all of any one thing but leaning more in one direction. Perhaps you are non binary. That is only something you and your therapist can work out.

If your parents are supportive but need to learn more, they can look on the web but they can also come here. We have a significant others section that supports parents, siblings as well as romantic significant others. It is sometimes a useful step for them to read some of our sections and/or ask questions themselves.

The great thing about the age you are hanging is that you probably have started puberty but it has not settled. If you and a therapist were to convince your parents, you could potentially take hormone blockers. They would probably not allow you to start taking testosterone till you are of age (18ish down here in the states although some parents when convinced it is the right course have allowed it around 16). The reason this is so great is if after a few years you decided you did not want to follow through, you stop the blockers and puberty picks up where it left off.

That's a lot of info, I know and I am rambling a bit. My oldest child has a friend who is a trans male whose parents do not support him in this(we have kind of adopted him). However, he is 18 and making his own decisions. My other kids are all involved in the Gay, Straight Alliance at their school(they support trans kids too). I'm just saying this to mention that while I have a lot more years on me than you do, I kind of understand. Truth be told most of us of any age do. In a way because many of us never grew up in the gender we identify as, we have a keen desire to help others to do just that.

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thanks! Im a bit scared to tell my parents as i think anyone my age would be, but i really think it really would help me to see a gender therapist like you said because although im fairly certain im not non binary, they can help guide me to understand what i want and i could go on hormone blockers while i make my decisions so that I dont have to grow more dysphoric as i get older. Thanks and ill definitely try to talk to my parents!