Im out and open. I dont volunteer that im trans, but will answer polight questions, either with the info or a "none of your business"

I planned on being total stealth, even moving, had it all planned buuuuut yea no. I am out everywhere 'cept at work (5 hours a day, 5 days a week) even though I maintain a non disruptive attitude (that means I cuss and yell at men when men are being men and talking crap like 12 year olds) I know they all know, it is just something not talked about yet, which is cool too.
So I am out and proud and a semi clandestine not so much covert stealth at work till FFS.

I've been living full time for over 20 years, so I better not be stealth.

I couldn't answer in the formfill radiobutton things. I'm out and proud in political contexts and at protests and at support groups. I'm proudly trans on tv somewhat often. I speak in newspaper interviews.

I am totally stealth to most of my neighbors. I can be laughably feminine and I don't lie, but the only people who notice I'm trans are the ones who know enough to be respectful. Most of my neighbors just think I'm a stupid young white kid who has a kid. They're all nice. The ones who are liberal usually clock me and move along.

The ones who read me as gay either call me a ->-bleeped-<- or come up with elaborate ways to show me they know without saying they know. Even my hard-right neighbors make a comment to display that they accept me before they go back to being bigoted toward others. I'm "one of the good ones."

All that said, I usually feel like whether I'm out or stealth isn't my decision to make.

I don't tell unless they ask. I only say I'm trans to those close to me, which would be mi family, mi only friend and my partner. Of course, people who knew me before know, but they never say a world about it. Some of my classmates still refer to me as a male and use my old name, but I never had time to engage in a serious conversation to come out to them. THere are a few classmates that play at the orchestr with me. They must have noticed the name change in the programe. They all treat me as a girl, never had any problem with that.

My answer would be proud, but not necesarily loud. I found out this way that a lot of people take this things as something natural. Like "He is a she now, let's have a girls talk".

Going with loud and proud. I live , work, eat and breath as female. Its just feels natural. Cant wait for FFS next year.

Huggs Niki

Stealth!
With the exception of my family and those few friends I still have who already knew me before I transitioned.