So this could be happening!!

My best friend has just invited me out for a drink later. I'm already out to him as bi but not as trans. He took me being bi really, really well and his girlfriend has a transgender cousin who he is on good terms with. In the end this may all come to nothing and I may end up keeping my mouth shut but I've been dying to tell him and I've been feeling massively dysphoric lately so I feel now will be the best time to do so!

Wish me luck!! x

Good luck

I hope things went well for you with your frind. It can be very daunting coming out to friends....Good Luck and let us know how you went

Well guess who chickened out...

Seriously though, I came very close to saying it on a couple of occasions but each time something happened and it shocked me so much it put me off of saying anything. Let me explain:

Firstly we were casually talking about people from our old school, when I mentioned a girl I used to be friends with and he said to me "for some reason I always thought she looked like you in a wig"... at that point my heart literally froze and it was so unexpected I didn't know if that was a good time to say anything or not (For the record, I don't look like her - she is absolutely stunning).

The second time I was getting closer to coming out to him - I had said to him that I wished I was a bit more into men than I am now (he didn't get the hint from that unfortunately) but he mentioned his girlfriend's transgender cousin and said jokingly at one point "maybe you should do what they're doing, become a lesbian"... I just said "yeah maybe" hoping he would pick up on it but he didn't and the chance was gone. His comments just really took me by surprise and now I really wish I had said something.

But if I have gained anything from this conversation it's that I've found out he is almost definitely going to be more accepting and next time I see him I'll be able to talk about it again.

Fingers crossed for that time then!! :'D

Never mind obviously the timing was not right for you but it will be...sometimes being direct is the only way to actually tell people. I am sure you will find the right time..

Good luck gal. From what I've read so far it seems you have the perfect best friend to come out to. Jealous, much!

i came out to my lifelong best friend only a little more than a week ago.  It went very well.  He made me feel much better through his acceptance.  Since we live on opposite sides of the country I did it over the phone, which i think made it easier. 

It sounds like you will get a positive and supportive reaction from your BFF.  Don't worry.  It will be ok.  good luck, you can do it! 

Sounds like a good bet your friend will respond positively. On occasions I've told people over dinner,  I've left it till dessert,  a mix of nerves and hunger [emoji16].

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Quote from: meganjames2 on September 03, 2017, 08:04:43 AM
Sounds like a good bet your friend will respond positively. On occasions I've told people over dinner,  I've left it till dessert,  a mix of nerves and hunger [emoji16].

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For a MTF, surely the best time to come out is in a fancy restaurant, with a male friend, just before the bill arrives.

Quote from: JoanneW on September 03, 2017, 08:15:01 AM
For a MTF, surely the best time to come out is in a fancy restaurant, with a male friend, just before the bill arrives.

Lol Joanne,  indeed!

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I almost wonder if your friend knows you well enough to have some idea already and was trying to give you an opening.  Maybe, maybe not, but it definitely sounds like your friendship is going to survive.  Regardless, I wish for you a wonderful coming out story!  I've yet to come out to my best friend...soon, I keep telling myself...

And you are definitely not chicken!

This is great.  He's just given you a terrific opportunity to bring it up next time you see him.  All you have to do is say, "You remember that time you said I would look great as a woman? Well, guess what . . .."