Hi everybody!!!
Im new to this so bare with me plz!
My current situation, me and my girlfriend of 6 years soon to be fiancé! have been talking of having a little one soon! We have pushed it off for a while now. The problem which is not a problem more like a speed bump or a pause. Is that i just got my first appointment for t-shots
Which im sooo excited for!  My girlfriend wants me to have our first child because my mother is older and has no grandchildren while her father has tons and counting lol 😂. Ive never felt comfortable with bearing a child but its something I've recently  considered being as it would be way less expensive than my other options. And I love my mother!!! Lol
But me getting pregnant would pause me getting testosterone for a year or more. 🙁 im really tired of being uncomfortable with my body and was sooo excited for this change. After 26 years I just want to finally be Me!

What to do?!! Start T now and save up to do in Vitro or get pregnant now and hold off on T.

I'm not sure I'd recommend this route personally, but I knew a f2m, m2f couple that did just that.
They stopped their form of HRT to have several children during their marriage together, and started back
up when the children were born.  Obviously both were preops as well. (at least bottom surgery).

Personally I would think that would be fairly traumatic to the dysphoria if someone suffers from that in particular.  Apparently they had enough mental fortitude to handle it both ways.

Maybe this story helps, maybe it doesn't.  Honestly I'd be afraid HRT would sterilize many folks after a couple years that becoming pregnant (Or impregnating a loved one) would be difficult to impossible... not to mention the potential side effects to the children from being on hormones.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope you feel comfortable in it   Its your life to live, ultimately, and your choice to make.  All I can do is provide examples and thoughts ^_^ 

I have two kids. I am waiting for my appointment with the gender therapist. I'm pre everything but hysterectomy, that I did 8 years ago.

Dysphoria was not very bad while pregnant. I focused on the human being in my body. It was like a project. Eat right stuff, avoid poisons and chemicals. But dysphoria came back big time when the milk in my chest started to produce after the child was born. I honestly thought my brests would explode. They were like melons!

I breastfed my children for 4 months. Then I could not do it anymore. They got replacement instead. But that is fine too.

That was my story. I say you need to think about what YOU want. What are your options and what do you want?

One thing to remember though. If you have a child, and you are planning to stay together with your gf, see that she adopts your children or they will not be counted as her children. Same thing the other way around.

I have a cousine that is gay. They adopted each other's children to be safe that they count as parents, both of them.

Not sure about the law in your country, but keep that in mind.


Tony

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I am FTM. Follow your heart. No one else can tell you whether pregnancy is right for you.  It could be great or it could be horrible and if you choose to do it, it lasts a long time and is an emotional experience.
I can share my own experiences. I had 2 children before admitting to myself that I was trans. I knew I was a guy, I just didn't admit what that meant. I actually enjoyed being pregnant, at least the first time. It was this amazing thing to grow a human inside of me. The second pregnancy was harder for a variety of reasons but I'm still glad to have done it. Notably, I am done and would never do it again. I also didn't mind breast feeding feeding because that was the whole reason I had kept my breasts. It was their only redeeming value. Notably I have always dissociated from them and treat them like a parasitic being separate from the real me. I never felt like a woman even when I was pregnant and it was the start of the bad social dysphoria because it was when strangers unquestionably started treating me like a woman and when they started acting like it was their right to ignore my bodily autonomy.  Being seen as a mom by society is very dysphoric for me and is much worse than the body dysphoria I felt while pregnant but that is just me. 


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It's your choice. I know a few women that hated pregnancy. If you feel carrying a child is not your thing, don't do it. You are not forced to do it just because your mother wants grandchildren. If your girlfriend gets pregnant, they'll still be your children, and your mother's grandchildren. If you do get pregnant, do it for you, because you want, not for somebody else.

MTF here and well I can't carry a child myself. In you case it's totally how comfortable you are with the whole thing. It you think you can bear having to carry a child in you then do so. I would try and network with other FTM's that have done what you two are talking about. One thing you could do after the kid would be born is have your gf get treatments, so that she can nurse, if she is okay with that. I have heard of other trans couples doing it this way so that you just carry the child and don't have endure the nursing portion too. Ultimately for me I would do a lot of research and see if it is something you indeed want to try. Pregnancy like said is not for everyone. Good luck and happy trails!!!!!

first off all id like to highlight the fact that im m2f but being a parent is is all the same in my eyes. i wanted to store sperm before hormones but after going to a fertility clinic for all the necessary test i found out that i was infertile so unable to have children of my own wether on HRT or not this was a great shock that i had to deal with.

secondly from a biologists point of view i would not start HRT then stop to have children then start again HRT. in a biochemistry way this would be a massive chemical SH*T storm for your body to handle and them mental health side of this would be huge.

do it know if i was you or let your partner carry all the children they would still be you mums grand children