Well a feminist will likely have a live and let live mindset. Some may see it as a great thing for one to be themselves while others simply couldnt care either way. Many see that the gender spectrum is now being explored and many seem to like that.
The TERF on the other hand isnt much of a feminist in regards to wanting to empower women and be an equal in society. It is, in my opinion a very dangerous political identity. Here is a TERF in a nut shell:
- They like to play victim. Their belief appears to be that anyone who was born with a penis is inherently bad and them must forever feel ashamed about it. They also beleive that if you are born with a vagina and live forever as a cis female you are inherently a victim. Now, it is true sexism exists (ex, imagine if Hillary Clinton had a video of her bragging about grabbing men by the penis because she had money and power, people would lose their minds and she would have been lucky to even carry 3 states) but instead of trying to combat it through education and learning on what to do better they decide to make sob stories about themselves.
-A TERF really does seem to have a selective paranoia that trans-women are there to sexually attack a cis-woman or are trying to somehow destroy the female gender with our privileged... ?......I know it is confusing mindset, but somehow us transitioning to being women on the outside too is hurting cis-women whereas to a TERF a trans-man is not looked at as evil but still looked at in a negative view, that they are transitioning only because society told them too and they are traitors and cowards. Yup, that is really how they think.
-TERFS also tend to have a very funny way of breaking the gender binary. It is ok if you are AMAB and like feminine things and such, however the idea of HRT or look and present in a manner that does not still have your birth gender sticking out is still a big issue for them to lose their collective minds, or to say anything that could allow one to truly identify with the gender they are is thrown out the door. Estrogen is a god sent for me that has worked better for me then any anti-depression or what not. A TERF's opinion is that if I need medication to control dysphoria then it should not be the stuff that does work (hrt) but a host of anti-psychotics or anti-depressants, the stuff that never worked for this. But they do not care or see it that way, instead they would rather me be medicated with pills to make me a zombie male then a happy female all the while telling me all about my ''privilege'' I never asked to have in the first place.
-TERFS tend to be very nasty and at times hyprocritcal. Example one is a lady named Cathy Brennan. She has such a powerful hatred of trans people that she will dox a trans people regardless of age, yes both adults and kids basically to make their lives harder. All in the name of hating while patting herself on the back for, well Idk. I have yet to see her do anything at all to make life great for women, but plenty of awful to make life for trans people miserable. Example 2 is a girl (?) I went to school with years ago. Just less then 2 years ago she told me plans of wanting to transition to living as a male as she felt that way her whole life and ect. Then earilier this year she was calling me and all trans people mental cases and how she is ''comfortable'' living as a female then giving me a lecture that basically summed up the TERF mindset ''If I can find a way to live in birth gender then so can you''. I am unsure if this will last because upon becoming a self described radical TERF she seems more hateful and miserable then ever when we chatted. But granted that is her cross to carry as I could care less if she did become male or if she got ran over by a bus, she means nothing to me now.
To sum it up, a TERF is someone who uses their gender as a card to state that they are and always will be a victim and if we do not adhere to their mindset we are all anti-women. Whereas I think we should do more to empower women and do so by not blaming males for everything. Granted, if a man attacks, , discriminates or sexually over powers a female (like rape, or cat calling) they need to be called out and shamed yes, among other things to happen to them. But in a terfs mind anyone with a penis or born with one is bad. Basically, the TERF mindset is a mindset made of concession and a victim mentality while not doing a damn thing to make equality happen or to break down the binary more so people can find their true-selves.