Sounds complicated.  I think you're lucky your dad is supporting you in so many ways. I envy that.  At the same time it seems he's very strict and it doesn't sound like an ideal living situation for anyone who wants to be independent.  I would talk to him and see what he says.

Quote from: Julia1996 on July 12, 2017, 03:57:37 PM
Hi everyone. My dad is really getting on my nerves.

Search and seizure for speeding?? Sounds bit over the top for me. Always exhibit greatest respect for cops when stopped but in this case agree to disagree? Have two 'kids' 18 - 19, boy and girl, and first & foremost I always respect their privacy. What have you done in the past to warrant such late night interrogation?  Knowing your easy, lighthearted posting attitude(s) I suspect nothing serious . . .

My dad always tried to be strict with me but I was always a 'sensible, good girl' too. Hey!! How 'bout a 'lil credit plz??

Got stopped the other day for a 'CVM SEATBELT VIOLATION' in 'Policetree City' girl was I pissed!! Funny thing is cop approached  'the suspect vehicle' as if ready to shoot, defend himself you dad has a tough job (don't envy him) people are dying everyday over stupid things.

Remember the GA Tech shooting of "Scout" few weeks ago? Had a co-worker die last week very same 'MO' (death by cop). When finished with ticket (only $15) told cop "I hate this town I hope you don't live here too"

Cheers

I wrote this back in July.  My dad has eased up a little since then thankfully. Lol. It wasn't search and seizure. The cop asked if she could look in my friend's purse and like a total dummy she let her. That's how the cop found the xanex. For those here in the USA , if you didn't know already, unless you are being arrested or they have a warrant, a cop can't search your purse or car without your permission.  You CAN say no. The only exception is if they pull you over and you have an open container or drugs or paraphernalia in plain site. And anyone that stupid deserves to go to jail. Lol

Xanax is a controlled substance, and is illegal without a prescription. In that sense, I support your father's decision. You could lose your car and your freedom, if such a drug is found in your car.

Juliia ultimately you are asking us parents our opinions on his parenting. There is no manual for parenting unfortunately. Everyone's parenting style is different and unique to how they grew up and experiences. His is being a cop and seeing how people mess up their lives. I think as a parent he his overstepping some. I would never drug test my kids unless warranted, and curfew is great if you are not to be trusted, can he back off some and show some trust to his daughter? Yes, for teens as parents we have to afford them some liberties so they can further develop into adults that can fend for their own. I understand where he is coming from but, at your age it is for me a give and take since you aren't an adult but, still live in my home. So I give you trust and a larger leash but, you have to maintain your grades or some trade-off. This way it becomes a 2 way street where my needs as a parent get fulfilled but, you get freedom. As to how you approach him with this prospect is a whole other issue. In anyway you would have to be delicate with it and approach on eggshells or you can just ride it out until you are on your own. I know that seems cruel maybe but, it is better than fighting him. You can always discuss it years from now and be like "dad you remember when?" Don't worry you don't have long to wait. Good luck!!!!!!