Quote from: Beyond on March 01, 2008, 05:34:06 AM
Can we stop the "I'm more authentic than you" crap please?
That seems like very good advice.
WE are as authentic as we allow ourselves to be. If it requires a comparison to others on a consistent basis, then I think that perhaps the confidence becomes a matter of talk and not an active part of one's life.
It matters not the way one's picture looks in comparison to others: that tends to be entirely subjective depending on one's mood, time of day and personal preferences anyway.
It matters not what life experiences, or lack thereof, one has had. What is known by any of us is simply what one knows: about herself and about others.
No one gets extra points for 'being ahead' simply because individual lives don't work that way. NO one has the same set of life-experiences that another has. Are Bill Gates, Paul Allen or Steve Jobs 'better' than other men simply because they have more money readily available to themselves than do other men?
Are Claudia Schiffer, Kiera Knightly or Candis Cane 'better' than other women, or more female than other women, because they look better to some than do other women?
If one's confidence and value are always based on 'how I compare myself to everyone else in the category I randomly chose' I suggest that confidence and value are actually nil for that person.
There are no yardsticks that measure how meaningful and valid a human being is in comparison to another human being.
So, it would be nice to stop making that activity a habit. And I suspect that whomever that admonishment I wrote above applies to will understand it applies to them. So, whomever it applies to: please stop.
Nichole
