I think I know what you mean.

I was Googling "androgynous" the other day, and most of the hits seemed to refer to women dressing somewhat "masculinely."

I, too, feel quite alone sometimes. I'm bisexual, but very happily married. I've never really felt all that "masculine," but I'm not all that feminine either. Of course, that might just be due to habit at this point.

I remember back in the early 80's reading about a current trend of the time for boys to wear eyeliner. I was insanely jealous of those who had the guts to do this. It never occured to me to just buy some and do it on my own, out of sight of my parents, of course.

Well, that was a long time ago and I haven't made much progress. It seems I've felt that I need to look the part of a man to get and keep a reliable job. In finishing the book "Luna" by Julie Anne Peters this weekend, I've come to believe that I disappoint myself.

So, I tried to find out what other androgynes in positions similar to mine were doing to exhibit their androgyny. And, most of what I've found revolves around women dressing/acting masculine, and little in the way of men dressing/acting feminine.

At this point, I don't have much in the way of cross-dressing tendancies. Although, that's subject to change with or without notice. But, I am thinking I'd like to do something to be a bit more visible about who and what I am.

I think the key to being a happy and content androgyne is to realise who you are and to feel comfortable in it. I think it's a change inside more than outside.

Quote from: Pica Pica on March 04, 2008, 09:46:47 AM
I think the key to being a happy and content androgyne is to realise who you are and to feel comfortable in it. I think it's a change inside more than outside.

I completely agree.

I second that.  And if you do want to change, do small things first.  And don't feel disappointed in yourself.  I also read "Luna" and loved it, but books are ideals.  It's all a matter of what you can be happy with.

Quote from: Jaimey on March 05, 2008, 08:05:58 PM
I second that.  And if you do want to change, do small things first.  And don't feel disappointed in yourself.  I also read "Luna" and loved it, but books are ideals.  It's all a matter of what you can be happy with.

There are times when I think happiness can't be realized until all bigots are removed from the planet Earth. Of course, those thoughts lead me to realize that I'm bigoted against bigots.

I had more TG leanings when I was younger. I might still now, if it weren't for the appalling amount of body hair. I'm deeply introverted and try to be invisible. But, I'm expressive at the same time. As recently as a few years ago, I would still dye my hair red, blue, or purple. Not because I wanted attention or that I wanted my head to be a conversation piece, but because I liked the way it looked. I guess I'm thinking that again now with regards to an androgynous appearance. Right now, I don't conform to my own visual aesthetic. But, I'm not entirely sure what it is.

Quote from: Shades O'Grey on March 05, 2008, 08:35:40 PM

Quote from: Jaimey on March 05, 2008, 08:05:58 PM
I second that.  And if you do want to change, do small things first.  And don't feel disappointed in yourself.  I also read "Luna" and loved it, but books are ideals.  It's all a matter of what you can be happy with.

There are times when I think happiness can't be realized until all bigots are removed from the planet Earth. Of course, those thoughts lead me to realize that I'm bigoted against bigots.

I had more TG leanings when I was younger. I might still now, if it weren't for the appalling amount of body hair. I'm deeply introverted and try to be invisible. But, I'm expressive at the same time. As recently as a few years ago, I would still dye my hair red, blue, or purple. Not because I wanted attention or that I wanted my head to be a conversation piece, but because I liked the way it looked. I guess I'm thinking that again now with regards to an androgynous appearance. Right now, I don't conform to my own visual aesthetic. But, I'm not entirely sure what it is.

Hmm, that sounds kinda like me. I had funny colored hair for many years. Again, not because I wanted attention, but just because I liked the look. It's not that the color was female ore male, or anything else, it was just an otherness.

bigots bring colour in life

Quote from: Pica Pica on March 06, 2008, 06:03:28 PM
bigots bring colour in life

Perhaps.

But when those bigots are also blood relations, I find that they bring colors I'm not too fond of. I understand I can't just bury my head in the sand, so to speak, and pretend they don't exist.

There's that old ridiculous rhyme, "Sticks and stone can break my bones, but names will never hurt me." It seems to me that physical injuries can heal more easily than the invisible ones caused by names. I'm sure that was part of the reason I earned a reputation as a sissy and a wimp.

I went to an all-boys private high school. One could cut the homophobia with a knife, it was so tangible. They didn't add pleasant colors to my life.