I'll challenge myself to find a way to have a more social life without having those I love try to stop me. No, I don't plan to cheat on the hubby. My own mother wants me around her constantly, since she is aging fast. This makes it difficult to be around friends and acquaintances.

Ahh Lady Sarah you remind me I'd just been talking with my new lesbian friend about just that so adding to the list:

Be more social, spending more time with women, lesbian and otherwise :-) this isn't exactly a chip shot for me being out on the asd spectrum.

Orgasm.

Sell lots of my glass ben wa balls, give away some also.

Helping as many women as possible to reach orgasm in 2018 feels good.

To lose 30 LB ( put 7on over holls,woops) . Not to lose my "temper"  (or get ratty) over simple things , hope the HRT will help with this. Finish my VW panel van so I can "road trip" and to be more DAVINA

Lose 30 pounds and eat kito.

Sadie, how much for your balls, LOL. Seriously, I would like to buy a set of ben wa balls. I have seen your glass bowl and it is beautiful.

I too  need to master eye makeup. I need to add eyeliner; I have mascara and eye shadow down. I need to try adding to my brows too.

April is when I will have my hair cut and colored. The hair dresser I know wants me to let my hair from my second grafts to grow for 3 months prior to color.

Monica, how about I challenge you to get your hair colored by April 30, 2018.

   I really like the mix of challenges to help others and personal improvement challenges. I have a friend who is coming out and I really want to be there for her and her partner. I hate that so many of us still must hide how we feel. After my own experience, it really hurts to see someone bottling up their true self. If I can help anyone with this, I would love it. I would also like to do something to help a significant other. I have challenged myself to help my students at work to be more functional by being more creative in my approach. I want to refocus my efforts.
   As far as transition related things, I want to lessen the limitations I put on myself. In a sense, in order to transition, I allowed myself a safe zone so as not to get overwhelmed by everything. I think it served  me well, but as my confidence grows, I need to spread my wings a bit more. It's funny how I almost have to break down the male model walls that I built up over 60 years. I sometimes go, "Oh yeah, I can do that now." Maybe some of you relate to this. I would love to color my hair like a chestnut brown but don't know how it might effect getting transplants. Also if I am a bit thin up top, does the darker hair highlight the thin areas? Need more answers but love your idea Rachel. I have no excuse but fear for not going to Ultra (?) and learning makeup.  I have fought against my shyness all my life, but it still creeps in as my default. Well, I come on here and preach kicking fear in the teeth. "Do it even though you are afraid." So, I guess I need to step up my game.
   As the OP I appreciate every one of your posts. I won't  mention everyone's, but I am hopeful that we all strive to make things better. Spread the love and, yes orgasm, Sadie! lol
Moni
Oh boy my partner just added, wear a necklace. Yikes!

Okay I'm back. I figured out who I want to challenge from this site. This is not meant to embarrass her by any means. As soon as I finished my post, I read a thread by Julia. It is the one about resolutions for all trans people. I love the post, every word I agree with and it is really a rallying cry for standing up for our dignity as trans people. Julia, you are such an intelligent, caring person and I have a lot of respect for you. I have seen your posts on  how you feel about being trans. I guess I see how much you have stated your hatred for being trans and wonder what that means for you being happy. I guess I would challenge you to think about what you wished for other trans people in your post and apply some of it to yourself. Maybe think about coming closer to being at peace with being trans. I am not immune to hating being trans, I have my days. If I did that every day, I don't know how much happiness I could find being me.
Moni
If I am out of line, I'm sorry. It was not meant to be mean or critical.

Quote from: Allison S on December 31, 2017, 07:30:13 PM
I challenge everyone to drink 1 glass of water a day.

OK, I'm all over that one.  Thanks, spiro.   

Quote from: HappyMoni on January 01, 2018, 09:40:26 AM
Oh boy my partner just added, wear a necklace. Yikes!

Quote from: HappyMoni on December 30, 2017, 06:26:20 PMor changed my original ear studs.

Yes and yes, Moni.  You have to wear dangly earrings and necklaces!  Wearing jewelry is one of the joys of being a woman.  Simple, classy, or gaudy, they are all good! 

I challenge myself (and I invite anyone else to join me) to be less of a wallflower and more outgoing in real life.

Can anyone second this challenge? Rachel, I challenge you to show us a more revealing avatar this year. I am probably one of the few who knows what you look like, well, at least the six month ago version of you. What ya think?

Kathy, I don't know why, but I have never liked jewelry, especially those dangley earrings. It was a battle for me to pierce my ears. Don't  know why, call me weird.

Might have to learn how to face my dancing fears. My son just showed me the engagement ring he just bought. Yippee the family is about to get bigger.
Moni

Ok, I will post an avatar when I have my hair done by April 30th or sooner ( I want it done very soon). It is just that I do not look good and feel pretty self conscious.

I had gone to the hair dresser that works where I work 3 days a week and he said to wait till April. I think he was leery about the transplants. You need to wait 4 to 6 weeks after transplants to color your hair. Transplanted hair falls out after 6 to 8 weeks than 12 to 16 weeks resting then small fine hairs grow and get thicker. So July 25 was the 2nd graph session and I expect hair sprouts December 25th to January 25th. I am still waiting. I want to do a 3rd graft session by June 30, 2018 because my deductible is paid and my cost will be nothing. Maybe a glottoplasty by June 30th and April 4 GCS V2 (can I squeeze a brow lift in April 4th??? please).

Rachel,
You are too hard on yourself. I thought you were cute when I saw you in June.
Moni

I absolutely don't want anyone to accept this challenge unless they are comfortable.

Pay a random person's grocery bill.

You are in the queue at the checkout, someone is hassled and lonely. Reach over and use your credit card, or say, it's OK put that bill on my account.

When the look upset and startled you say. It's OK, I've just won some money and I want to share it. You have a lovely day.

Might as well keep this thread going as we start doing our challenges.  I bought yarn to make the jughead hats.  Two for me, two for cancer patients.  I have no idea how to knit though, so this will be new.  I joined a local knitting meet-up group to help me learn.  I'm on my way for this challenge!

Bari Jo

I challenge myself to keep this trans bus moving forward and not let fear or uncertainty slow me down again.