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Words of encouragement to your pre-transition self

Started by PurpleWolf, December 02, 2017, 01:09:40 PM

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PurpleWolf


What would you like to tell the former you? What kind of message you'd like to make across to your previous self? How has your life improved?

These words might help others too,  :)!

(Btw, ofc it doesn't have to be strictly gender-related!)

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I don't really know what to say to myself since I'm at a point of my life where I'd need that encouragement from my future self  :D!

But I can say this to my kid-self:
You won't believe this but at 13 your new school is going to assume you are a boy. And after that you are going to live out your secret fantasy of being a boy. So - YES - it IS possible!!!


!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Elis

That although life seems to suck atm one day you will be free of the constant feeling of self conscious and wrongness weighing you down. You will get to a point were you feel comfortable within your body. Don't give up just yet; just get through today
They/them pronouns preferred.



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PurpleWolf

Quote from: Elis on December 02, 2017, 03:05:50 PM
That although life seems to suck atm one day you will be free of the constant feeling of self conscious and wrongness weighing you down. You will get to a point were you feel comfortable within your body. Don't give up just yet; just get through today

Damn! You just always put a smile on my face  :D! Like your words were meant for me. Hit home again. Thanx!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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PurpleWolf


Come on... Anyone?

I was hoping this to become a long thread!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Colleen_definitely

"Tell somebody now you coward"

Realistically my parents would have likely shipped me off to some sort of religious conversion therapy camp instead of helping.  :(
As our ashes turn to dust, we shine like stars...
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natalie.ashlyne

Well words that I would tell myself at 18 is,
     Do it as soon as possible as it affects less people in your life and is a little easier,
     Don't care what anyone says dont let people belittle you or talk you out of your true self
     You can do it don't give up,
     Be yourself life will through bumps in your path and you can over come them it may take time but you will
     Be your true self
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PurpleWolf

Quote from: natalie.ashlyne on December 12, 2017, 11:55:35 AM
Well words that I would tell myself at 18 is,
     Do it as soon as possible as it affects less people in your life and is a little easier,
     Don't care what anyone says dont let people belittle you or talk you out of your true self
     You can do it don't give up,
     Be yourself life will through bumps in your path and you can over come them it may take time but you will
     Be your true self

That was beautiful,  :D! Thanks!

And now more replies, please!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Megan.

My favourite and often used line is... "the sky won't fall down".

It took me a looong time to learn that I could be open with people about who I really am,  and that the world would continue to spin just fine.

Sent from my MI 5s using Tapatalk

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PurpleWolf

Quote from: Megan. on December 12, 2017, 12:03:36 PM
My favourite and often used line is... "the sky won't fall down".

It took me a looong time to learn that I could be open with people about who I really am,  and that the world would continue to spin just fine.

Sent from my MI 5s using Tapatalk

Awesome  :D!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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iamthatiam8

Your journey seems endless. I know you are confused. You have no idea who you are nor have you had the time to become something because of your depersonolisation. I know its rough, you will fall into a darkness that only you can get yourself out off. You will feel like your dead like life is meaningless. You will fall and rise out of that pit multiple times yet always remember YOU ARE THE INCARNATION OF VICTORY. NOTHING CAN KNOCK YOU OUT. Oh and do yourself a favor and save alot of money. One day you will find yourself and will be ready for the next step and realize you have no money.😓 But don't worry, life is one big illusion, i know your scared but fear is really useless and defected don't worry about the bull->-bleeped-<- around you focus on your path and on all those who remind you of who you are. Then i would smile like itachi smiling at susuke ' Everything is fine, you may not see it just go into the night sky a blazing sun. Life is waiting. You see her standing on the other side of the bridge, a radiant light around her, shes smiling at you; thats you waiting for youself shes inside nocking at the door to your heart. Saying its alright i'm here waiting for you to accept me, dont turn back behind you the bridge has already collapse. You know me so you must fulfill me.

I would say alot more but then i'll get carried away.
I have traveled through madness to find me.
                                               -Danny Alexander
No matter what darkness has covered over my light i am a descendent of an ape, what can possibly stop me.
                                                                           -ME
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PurpleWolf

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Quote from: iamthatiam8 on December 13, 2017, 03:17:58 AM
Your journey seems endless. I know you are confused. You have no idea who you are nor have you had the time to become something because of your depersonolisation. I know its rough, you will fall into a darkness that only you can get yourself out off. You will feel like your dead like life is meaningless. You will fall and rise out of that pit multiple times yet always remember YOU ARE THE INCARNATION OF VICTORY. NOTHING CAN KNOCK YOU OUT. Oh and do yourself a favor and save alot of money. One day you will find yourself and will be ready for the next step and realize you have no money. But don't worry, life is one big illusion, i know your scared but fear is really useless and defected don't worry about the bull->-bleeped-<- around you focus on your path and on all those who remind you of who you are. Then i would smile like itachi smiling at susuke ' Everything is fine, you may not see it just go into the night sky a blazing sun. Life is waiting. You see her standing on the other side of the bridge, a radiant light around her, shes smiling at you; thats you waiting for youself shes inside nocking at the door to your heart. Saying its alright i'm here waiting for you to accept me, dont turn back behind you the bridge has already collapse. You know me so you must fulfill me.

I would say alot more but then i'll get carried away.

Wow, that was pretty AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Charlie Nicki

Latina :) I speak Spanish, English and a bit of Portuguese.
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HappyMoni

After telling myself what stocks to buy, what, is that cheating? Okay! I would tell my male self that he is just a shadow of the real me. I would tell myself that I will be a much better person as a woman. I would say that 90 % of your worrying of what will go bad is totally unnecessary. I would say that going through the whole transition was over the top worth it. I would pick surgeons who only specialize in one thing. (I made that mistake with FFS.)
Moni
If I ever offend you, let me know. It's not what I am about.
"Never let the dark kill your light!"  (SailorMars)

HRT June 11, 2015. (new birthday) - FFS in late June 2016. (Dr. _____=Ugh!) - Full time June 18, 2016 (Yeah! finally) - GCS June 27, 2017. (McGinn=Yeah!) - Under Eye repair from FFS 8/17/17 - Nose surgery-November 20, 2017 (Dr. Papel=Yeah) - Hair Transplant on June 21, 2018 (Dr. Cooley-yeah) - Breast Augmentation on July 10, 2018 (Dr. Basner in Baltimore) - Removed bad scarring from FFS surgery near ears and hairline in August, 2018 (Dr. Papel) -Sept. 2018, starting a skin regiment on face with Retin A  April 2019 -repairing neck scar from FFS

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Kylo

90% of what you think is worth worrying about isn't when it comes down to it. Especially after T.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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PurpleWolf


Up up up!

Wanna keep this thread alive!!!

More people, please  ;)!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Doreen

Quote from: PurpleWolf on December 02, 2017, 01:09:40 PM
What would you like to tell the former you? What kind of message you'd like to make across to your previous self? How has your life improved?

These words might help others too,  :)!

(Btw, ofc it doesn't have to be strictly gender-related!)

- - -
I don't really know what to say to myself since I'm at a point of my life where I'd need that encouragement from my future self  :D!

But I can say this to my kid-self:
You won't believe this but at 13 your new school is going to assume you are a boy. And after that you are going to live out your secret fantasy of being a boy. So - YES - it IS possible!!!

Do it, do it now.. but don't tell mom. Ever.  That would be my advise.   Oh and.. You make a beautiful tall elegant woman. :)
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Allison S

I'd tell my younger self that no matter what, transition or not, that I'm worthy. Yes, it will take a long time and maybe forever but there is a point to life. Even when it seems too burdensome to live..

Sent from my SM-G930T using Tapatalk

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KathyLauren

The feelings are real.  This is the real you.
Do it.
Save yourself a lot of grief: do it sooner rather than later.
But even if you wait until you are in your sixties, transitioning still will be worth it.
Hang in there.
2015-07-04 Awakening; 2015-11-15 Out to self; 2016-06-22 Out to wife; 2016-10-27 First time presenting in public; 2017-01-20 Started HRT!!; 2017-04-20 Out publicly; 2017-07-10 Legal name change; 2019-02-15 Approval for GRS; 2019-08-02 Official gender change; 2020-03-11 GRS; 2020-09-17 New birth certificate
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PurpleWolf

Quote from: KathyLauren on January 09, 2018, 08:42:01 AM
The feelings are real.  This is the real you.
Do it.
Save yourself a lot of grief: do it sooner rather than later.
But even if you wait until you are in your sixties, transitioning still will be worth it.
Hang in there.

Needed to hear this today   :laugh:!!! Thanks!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Roll

How did I miss this thread before?

I'd tell my 10-12 year old self to be brave and tell people what is in my heart.

I'd tell my 25 year old self to be brave and put on some pants for christ's sake.

(... Okay, so. I typed that. Then it hit me... I'm not wearing pants at 3 in the afternoon. Somethings I suppose are just a pipe dream.)
~ Ellie
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(I made the s lowercase so it didn't look as much like PMS... ;D)

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