Not going to lie this will be a highly dramatic post. So my question is , is my boss trying to sabotage me? I had an interview a few months ago and i passed. They were accepting of my transness however I got a somewhat off putting feeling one day when I called one of my managers. I called to ask what I should bring then she told me don't worry about x y an z. She seemed eager to get off the phone , and that became apparent when I tried to ask her another question for a background check she didn't stay on the phone and hung up. Anyways, I kinda got over it even if I felt it was unprofessional. I worked there for about a month and got told good things, even made friends as well as "friends". One of these "friends" I made was this one lady who I thought I could trust, even with my deepest secrets and future dreams. I should have saw the red flags though as she blades everyone who works there, gossiping about them and harshly only to be nice to them as soon as they are in front of her. Last month we went shopping and she even invited me to breakfast that same day. A few days later me and this other coworker get into a fight, she had issues with something I did and never said it was an issue before. She only brought it up when she called me a "dude" and I said please don't then she started to throw things at me that were never a problem up till that point, she even said before if she ever had an issue with anyone she lets them know then and there. Upset over that and home situation I decided to see this person, the other lady who I hung out with before. I was back at my place of work and vented (a no no yes but I was so hurt) she played the game alright. I made an indirect post on fb over it not mentioning the person or place of a situation. Only one person knew I was venting, and it was the one who talks about everyone else in a bad light. She not only told my boss but also uploaded my fb on a company computer to show my boss. Since the status has no name or place in it, and only the woman in question assumed what it was about it was easy to figure out who told.
Personally I wouldn't care if this was a regular person, but this woman is friends with my boss and in addition actually talks smack about others. I have seen her rip one girl to pieces behind her back only to have a 20 straight talk on the floor on work hours laughing and joking it up. Snake. Anyways my boss calls me in and takes no account over what the lady I got into a fight with said after telling her once before indont like being called dude. She stuck up for her actually and tried really hard to place all blame onto me. Even things that were not my problem she tried to pin onto me. This should have been another warning sign but I accepted responsibility and promised it never happen again. The next two weeks or so it is the same thing one would expect. Cold shoulder and largely ignores me.
After Xmas we seemed to get back onto talking terms and even had semi good talks and this seeemd to last until About 10 days ago. Just before New Years me and this guy were closing the store and neither of us has a car, it was -50 C out . Lucky a woman was there and stayed later to drive us to drop off the keys and to our houses. The woman who drove us kinda mentioned too to speak to manager about a driving arrangement. So I asked the manager if until spring me and the male co worker could close with others until spring when we won't have cold snaps. I was more worried about him as he is now in his 50s and walks a much longer distance, then I was worried about my self. I can walk it even if I don't want to but for him maybe he should be in a car. She told me " not my problem" and that if I want this then my hours will be reduced. Since then she has given me the cold shoulder, less then idol looks and complaints.
This past week I have had to do extra work as mark down dates keep getting missed and people are not rotating. Produce, dairy, dry food, you name it. I even got rid of things that expired months ago. Since no manager was there and I was off Monday I wrote in the communication book asking to plead remember to rotate. On the Tuesday, did I get a good job for getting rid of all that waste, cleaning extra areas of store or picking up others slack? Nope, she came out onto the floor to tell me that I am "blading "people and that it's not up to me to give performance reviews on the person on before me. I told her that's not what I was doing and there were days being missed so it wasn't not directed at one person who could get singled out. Didn't matter. So, I once again annoyed over busting my rear just to get lectured at swallowed my pride. The following night I got rid of yet another kart or more of things. Things that the other cash should be looking for but doesn't. I got rid of liquids and snacks from many months ago. Not only did I do that, but I also checked the aisles to see what will be expiring soon. I wrote down maoutains of things set to expire this very week and a warning that there was about 20 times being expired the following day. Then next day income to work, not only does she no say anything to me all that stuff set to expire still sat there (she got message). I had to take them off, it wasn't my job that day by the way as I was set up to do other jobs. She knew there was expired product and she just let it sit there for customers to buy. Later, she came into story to get stuff and everything was super formal and down to business.
Other things to note , she was suppose to do a performance review but when I asked her she was "too busy" and never got back to me. She also says I spread gossip for that one incident last month and about the book a week ago. Yet she and 4 other people , 2 other which were not managers were in a room gossiping and nit picking another co worker over her job and what she does. Like legit gossip, not a vent or a ponder, gossip. She seems sometimes even more standoffish when I not just do my job, but go well above and beyond and can help other departments. That's when I especially notice a cold look. I would love to say she is stressed and too busy but yestarday she stood right beside me , while not saying hi or thanks for note, but was chatting with a friends and giggling away as I worked. Indont get it, if I somehow do something that could be not so good I get told about it, even at my till when customers are there. When I go well above and beyond she seems even more passively rattled. Again, I would say she is just a cold mannered boss but she is so warm with others and shows positive expression to them, but for me the harder I work the more cold she gets too. What's going on?
