So it seems I have a stalker.  On Sunday I was walking home from the mall and was confronted by a man in his late 50s or 60s. He approached me on the sidewalk from where is parked car was at the liquor store and asked me where the brew your own wine store was. I told him I'm not sure so maybe ask the normal liquor store where it is. He did and he seemed nice and respectful enough to me. Then a short while later (5 minutes or so) he asked them apparently and they told him where it was and told me.. even tho I was now streets away...Then he wanted to hook up with me and I got this creepy feeling. I chose not to make a scene and told him to meet me at this coffee shop at 7 pm and I could not get in car to hook up as I had an appointment (didn't).He seemed phased by this and kept asking me where I'm going and to hook up so again I told him to meet me at 7 there inside. Now, I didn't go hoping he had no interest to go some place public or  if he did go would  get the hint I'm not interested.

Apparently not. Today I walked out of that same coffee shop around 1130 this morning and he drove pst me going to the liquor mart parking lot. He must of say me as he exited the parking lot and went into 18th street. He couldn't make a direct left turn so he had to merge then pull a U turn. I decided not to go to the superstore as planned and walked , very quickly to city hall. He must of known or saw me walk in that direction as he drove around the block city hall and coffee shop is about 3 times.. after thinking he gave up I walked outside to assess what is going on . On the 4th time he must of saw me as I saw his car and walked back into city hall. On the next lap he pulls over to the parrarell parking lane and gets out of his car to look for me. Naturally I left and found  a back door exit from city hall and walked quickly to this ally that wraps around another government building. I peaked around the corner and I see him getting in his car to drive off. Not wanting to see if he's still on the chase I decided to take short cuts and ally ways back home.. what's this guys issue?

You need to be very careful.
I don't know if you like guys that age and I am guessing from your username, probably not.
You need to make sure if he sees you again and speaks to you he gets the hint and make sure it's in a public place with a lot of people.

If he persists then it's time to call the police

Quote from: CallMeKatie on March 13, 2018, 03:52:10 PM
You need to be very careful.
I don't know if you like guys that age and I am guessing from your username, probably not.
You need to make sure if he sees you again and speaks to you he gets the hint and make sure it's in a public place with a lot of people.

If he persists then it's time to call the police

Nope! Not interested!! In fact I don't really plan to have any real relationship of any type until after surgery. Thanks for advice, I'm not used to this type of thing.

Quote from: SailorMars1994 on March 13, 2018, 03:56:56 PM
Nope! Not interested!! In fact I don't really plan to have any real relationship of any type until after surgery. Thanks for advice, I'm not used to this type of thing.

That's okay
Just remember you are in charge of what you want to do, so don't let people try to pressure you to do things you don't want to do and be safe...or carry Mace

Quote from: SailorMars1994 on March 13, 2018, 03:34:34 PM
So it seems I have a stalker.  On Sunday I was walking home from the mall and was confronted by a man in his late 50s or 60s. He approached me on the sidewalk from where is parked car was at the liquor store and asked me where the brew your own wine store was. I told him I'm not sure so maybe ask the normal liquor store where it is. He did and he seemed nice and respectful enough to me. Then a short while later (5 minutes or so) he asked them apparently and they told him where it was and told me.. even tho I was now streets away...Then he wanted to hook up with me and I got this creepy feeling. I chose not to make a scene and told him to meet me at this coffee shop at 7 pm and I could not get in car to hook up as I had an appointment (didn't).He seemed phased by this and kept asking me where I'm going and to hook up so again I told him to meet me at 7 there inside. Now, I didn't go hoping he had no interest to go some place public or  if he did go would  get the hint I'm not interested.

Apparently not. Today I walked out of that same coffee shop around 1130 this morning and he drove pst me going to the liquor mart parking lot. He must of say me as he exited the parking lot and went into 18th street. He couldn't make a direct left turn so he had to merge then pull a U turn. I decided not to go to the superstore as planned and walked , very quickly to city hall. He must of known or saw me walk in that direction as he drove around the block city hall and coffee shop is about 3 times.. after thinking he gave up I walked outside to assess what is going on . On the 4th time he must of saw me as I saw his car and walked back into city hall. On the next lap he pulls over to the parrarell parking lane and gets out of his car to look for me. Naturally I left and found  a back door exit from city hall and walked quickly to this ally that wraps around another government building. I peaked around the corner and I see him getting in his car to drive off. Not wanting to see if he's still on the chase I decided to take short cuts and ally ways back home.. what's this guys issue?

Big hug!  Be careful.

I think you could have handled this better. The best solution would have been to say "No, thank you."  Guy gets a no, he goes away rejected. End of story.

But you accepted his offer, then stood him up. See the problem?

Next time you don't want to go out with someone, just tell them.

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on March 13, 2018, 04:22:12 PM
Big hug!  Be careful.

I think you could have handled this better. The best solution would have been to say "No, thank you."  Guy gets a no, he goes away rejected. End of story.

But you accepted his offer, then stood him up. See the problem?

Next time you don't want to go out with someone, just tell them.

Hugs, Devlyn

Thank you! And sadly I can not argue. I should have said no. I don't know why I didn't say no, I was feeling real good that day and guess I just didnt want any confrontation for once. But this will be duely noted, lesson learnt!

I haven't had any problems yet, but I picked up some pepper spray that I keep handy any time I'm in public. Better safe than sorry.

Also, if you feel comfortable doing so, I would take pictures of him and his car/license plate and send them out to friends. It's good to have a record.

Consider reporting this guy to the police. If he has a past record and it's likely, the police will want to know if he is active in the area. It's likely they will put enough pressure on him to cause him to stop or go elsewhere. It's also likely that your not the only one he is paying attention to so it's best to report him for the safety of the neighborhood.

Oh girl! Be careful! First off, stay out of back alleys! Always stay in open areas. Next time, don't worry about being nice or polite. You could always tell him you have a boyfriend (maybe that he's a bouncer or cop). Grab a random stranger by the arm and tell them you fear you are in danger (the bigger the better). Mace/pepper spray is always smart to have on hand in case things get out of hand. Stay safe out there ladies!

Good idea girls!! I will check for his plates if I see his car again! Still can't believe it happened

Well, he hasn't given up and is still at it > . <

If you can get a photo of his plates, great.  If not, get a picture of the car anyway.  It will give the cops something to work with.  And, if he sees you taking his picture, he may think twice about continuing to stalk you.

Regardless, tell the cops.  Even a verbal description of the car and/or the guy will help them find him and shut him down.

Think I just may do that later.. he's getting annoying

Yeah definitely get proof and definitely make the police aware of him

Had a weirdo pestering me til I told him I was going to collect my boyfriend from the station as he had weekend leave from the Marines. That got rid of him!