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Poll: Current trans guy status

Started by PurpleWolf, March 20, 2018, 12:29:09 PM

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Where are you at atm as far as transition goes? (Click on all the options that apply to you!)

Pre-everything
13 (27.1%)
On T
32 (66.7%)
Had top surgery
15 (31.3%)
Had hysterectomy (or similar)
5 (10.4%)
Had genital surgery (meta, phallo etc...)
2 (4.2%)

Total Members Voted: 48

PurpleWolf


Are you on T and/or had any surgeries? What kind of?
What are you planning to have?
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Dex

Quote from: PurpleWolf on March 20, 2018, 12:29:09 PM
Are you on T and/or had any surgeries? What kind of?
What are you planning to have?

Yes - I've been on T 4 years and 4 months.
I have had top surgery + revisions and a hysterectomy with removal of ovaries and Fallopian tubes.

I am scheduled to have a metoidioplasty with vaginectomy and scrotoplasty (no urethral lengthening) on June 15 with Dr Crane. A second stage for scrotal implants and mons resection will happen 6-12 months after that.

Then, I believe I will be "done" [emoji4]
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Peep

On T 4 months, should be getting a date for top surgery in July or August

I'm not planning to have a hysto or any bottom surgery soon if ever :) so after top i'll be ~fully formed~
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Kylo

T 1 year and 5 months
Post top 2 weeks.

Planning the others atm.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Liam_Robin

I've been on T for about nine and a half months, and I just had top surgery with Dr. Bluebond-Langner five weeks ago. I'm not currently planning on having any other surgery.
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invisiblemonsters

been on T for 4 years and had top surgery 3 years ago. no plans for other surgeries right now, if ever.
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SeptagonScars

I'm on T since 5,5 years and had top surgery 4 years ago, and that's it so far. Will be getting hysto and meta for bottom surgery around summer this year. So I don't consider myself to be done transitioning yet. I feel half done/incomplete at this point and it's distressing. Like my lower half doesn't match my upper half. So that lower half of me needs some fixing.

I plan on getting all my internal female stuff gone, including that "hole" and re-arranging the external stuff to appear more male. Full metoidioplasty with scrotoplasty, testicular implants and UL. Surgery will be in two stages. I'm looking forward to it so much! But also am expecting to get at least some complications, and mentally preparing myself for the possibility of a lot of complications. I don't plan on ever getting phallo, for me meta is what I want and feel I'd be satisfied with.

I'm currently on a surgeon's waiting list but exactly when he'll have time is still uncertain. All I know is that back in January I was told "in around 6 months" so I take it that's June-ish. Also cause I'll have the hysto at the same time, the surgeon who will do my meta has to find a date that works for a gyno who will do my hysto. And apparently the gynos at that hospital are very busy these days. The vaginectomy will be done at the second stage, by yet another surgeon. So it will be 3 different surgeons in total working on me.

So meh, here I sit and literally wait for better times! But just knowing it will happen makes the wait and my current parts somewhat tolerable. I'm hanging on.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
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Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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PurpleWolf

Quote from: SeptagonScars on March 20, 2018, 04:23:23 PM
So meh, here I sit and literally wait for better times! But just knowing it will happen makes the wait and my current parts somewhat tolerable. I'm hanging on.
Great! And same  ;D! I'm not even on T yet...!!!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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Ryuichi13

I've been on T for almost 16 months now.  I'm hoping to have top surgery in the autumn or early next year, after my partner has his hip replaced and is completely  healed from that.  I'm also leaning towards having a full phallo done, hopefully within the next five years.

Ryuichi

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BT04

My biggest source of dysphoria came from the possibility of getting pregnant. Just the idea of having an organ whose sole purpose is carrying a baby made my skin crawl. So, I got rid of it back in 2015 under the pretense of advanced endometriosis that would require several ablations over the course of my life. Been a lot happier since then, so the rest is not a huge rush. Though I am eager to start T later this year.
- Seth

Ex-nonbinary trans man, married to a straight guy, still in love. Pre-T, pre-op.
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SeptagonScars

Quote from: PurpleWolf on March 20, 2018, 04:39:10 PM
Great! And same  ;D! I'm not even on T yet...!!!

It's often a lot of trying to balance impatience with anticipation for what's gonna happen next, for me. Whether that's been T, top surgery, bottom surgery, name change, gender marker change or what have you  ;D
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
*
Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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meatwagon

I've been on t for around 4 months now.  no plans yet for surgery since it's so early on, but top surgery will definitely be needed in the future.
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AquaWhatever

Tbh, I feel like I just started and soon coming to a hiatus if that makes sense.

Like, I just started T 6 months ago, and I'm already on to having top surgery
AND my name legally changed.

I think after top surgery my transition will be on hiatus for awhile.
Bottom surgery i feel will get even better in 10 years and I'm willing to wait that long.
If not, (which I doubt) I'll get bottom surgery.

For now I can honestly say I am half way through my transition.
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MeTony

Pre everthing. Waiting for my appointment with the gender therapist at the end of summer.

Planning to do it all. My biggest dysphoria is my chest. I need to fix that asap.
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RainCrow

On T for almost  a month now, and looking evry heavily at Top surgery before the end of the year if my insurance will cooperate.
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falk

I'm "pre-everything". I have an appointment for an endocrinologist in May but who knows how that will go.

I choose a really poor time to decide to transition too [homeless] so I can't even update my wardrobe or try binding out. I cut my hair short but I've always done that so I'm not sure if anyone quite sees that as male. And the new name I chose is technically unisex but feminized in use so I'm not sure how people are taking that either. I have various plans to treat my dysphoria but it's all quite up in the air, so to speak.
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PurpleWolf

Quote from: falk on March 26, 2018, 07:04:32 PM
I choose a really poor time to decide to transition too [homeless] so I can't even update my wardrobe or try binding out.
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that  :'(
Great you are here!!! You will get support from here at least!
Do you live in a shelter, with family/friends or practically on the street? Do you need help? Do you have support? Are you doing okay?

I'm sure things will start looking great for you too!!! Just DON'T GIVE UP!!!

HUUUUUUGE ENCOURAGEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just gave useful links to threads on this site to someone else, here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233012.0.html
You might wanna check them out!

I especially liked this:
Words of encouragement to your pre-transition self
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,231252.0.html

These words have given me hope (by Elis):
That although life seems to suck atm one day you will be free of the constant feeling of self conscious and wrongness weighing you down. You will get to a point were you feel comfortable within your body. Don't give up just yet; just get through today

And this:
To those who are in pain by November Fox
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233611.msg2083828.html#msg2083828

Especially liked this, by Kylo:
The only room we cannot escape from is the human condition. All other dark rooms we find ourselves in and feel trapped in had a door into them and most likely have a door out of them as well. The pain of the moment lies in having sight too short to see the door and thinking this room will be the rest of your life. But the door is there somewhere. You just have to get up from the corner you're in and feel around for it.
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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falk

Quote from: PurpleWolf on March 26, 2018, 07:54:25 PM
Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that  :'(
Great you are here!!! You will get support from here at least!
Do you live in a shelter, with family/friends or practically on the street? Do you need help? Do you have support? Are you doing okay?

I'm sure things will start looking great for you too!!! Just DON'T GIVE UP!!!

HUUUUUUGE ENCOURAGEMENT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just gave useful links to threads on this site to someone else, here:
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233012.0.html
You might wanna check them out!

I especially liked this:
Words of encouragement to your pre-transition self
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,231252.0.html

These words have given me hope (by Elis):
That although life seems to suck atm one day you will be free of the constant feeling of self conscious and wrongness weighing you down. You will get to a point were you feel comfortable within your body. Don't give up just yet; just get through today

And this:
To those who are in pain by November Fox
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,233611.msg2083828.html#msg2083828

Especially liked this, by Kylo:
The only room we cannot escape from is the human condition. All other dark rooms we find ourselves in and feel trapped in had a door into them and most likely have a door out of them as well. The pain of the moment lies in having sight too short to see the door and thinking this room will be the rest of your life. But the door is there somewhere. You just have to get up from the corner you're in and feel around for it.

I'm legally seen as female so I find it hard to stay at the local shelter so I keep going in and leaving really quickly. I mostly live in my car and I don't have assistance aside from the government [food stamps, medical insurance] and my tribe [income].  I see a psychiatrist, have a doctor [he's the one who gave me the referral], I dropped a therapist and probably going to try to pick up a different one. I don't really have support and I'm doing better than I have ever in my life, so I guess I see it more as...well. I'm mostly fine, just have a lot of problems. But who doesn't?

Thank you for the response and encouragement. I appreciate it. I'll read the links.
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PurpleWolf

Quote from: falk on March 28, 2018, 12:39:06 PM
I'm legally seen as female so I find it hard to stay at the local shelter so I keep going in and leaving really quickly. I mostly live in my car and I don't have assistance aside from the government [food stamps, medical insurance] and my tribe [income].  I see a psychiatrist, have a doctor [he's the one who gave me the referral], I dropped a therapist and probably going to try to pick up a different one. I don't really have support and I'm doing better than I have ever in my life, so I guess I see it more as...well. I'm mostly fine, just have a lot of problems. But who doesn't?

Thank you for the response and encouragement. I appreciate it. I'll read the links.

Things will get better for you I'm sure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I've seen a few other of your posts and see you are really having a tough time atm  :-\
Just hang in there...!!! Okay?
It may not seem like it. But in a year, or 2 or 5 you'll be in a completely new situation I'm sure!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It feels good to hear you're fighting for a better life on all levels!!! Just don't try to do that alone. Find people who can help you out! Find new friends and support, okay? You deserve it!!! Find whatever help you can get.

This is also a book that has helped me tremendously:
https://www.amazon.com/You-Your-Gender-Identity-Discovery/dp/1510723056/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1522298837&sr=8-1&keywords=dara+hoffmanfox
If you can have access to it, I highly recommend!!!
It's not a read. It contains therapy exercises! So it's like gender therapy in a book! It also contains advice on battling negative thoughts etc. It had dramatic effect on my mental health!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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PurpleWolf


Know that you are needed and cared about!
I do care about you.
And I believe in you.
You can do this!
Your life has been tough so far - but that does not mean it can't get better!!! It WILL get better, always. It will - if you just don't give up.
I found huge support on this site myself  :) and forever grateful for that!
It's great that you are here and looking for support.

Don't let your past define your future!!!
!!!REBIRTH=legal name change on Feb 16th 2018!!!
This is where life begins for me. It's a miracle I finally got it done.


My body is the home of my soul; not the other way around.

I'm more than anything an individual; I'm too complex to be put in any box.

- A social butterfly not living in social isolation anymore  ;D -
(Highly approachable but difficult to grasp)


The past is overrated - why stick with it when you are able to recreate yourself every day
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