Sorry for posting similar topics in a short space of time, but I guess I can only make so many of these posts!
So I had the big talk with my Mum and on the whole it went very well.
(The following took place over Skype and 9 time zones)
At first she said she was disappointed about the fact she gave birth to a boy that was actually a girl. I'm not entirely sure how to interpret that comment. I didn't know if she was trying to blame herself for what I am (she smoked heavily during my pregnancy, and she's known I was a crossdresser since my early teens) so I tried to assure her that nothing she did or didn't do would have changed what I am and moved the discussion on saying I put no blame at all on her and I simply am what I am. I told that if I ha been born 15 or 20 years later I'd likely have transitioned during or shortly after puberty due to the fact discussion of ->-bleeped-<- is more of an open topic these days. I pointed out how Caitlyn Jenner has helped fuel this discussion in the last 5 years or so and she is going to go away and read up about her.
Many questions followed such as what hormones would do, what my timeline was going to be when returning home, was I seeing a doctor, how would I get medication etc. A lot of welfare related questions. She knows a fair bit already as I kinda came out 6 or 7 years ago and she went and did some research on it. She also mentioned a conversation we had that I can't remember in the slightest where from a couple of years ago where she asked me if I still had these feeling and I replied not at all. Apparently. I can't remember that happening, but I was rather depressed at the time so that may be one reason.
I explained how a lot of what I've done over the years has been against what I felt I wanted to do and instead did it to make my parents happy. She told me that whatever made me happy would make her happy, but she needs time to adjust to what I will become.
Having told her I'd been to a makeover salon she asked me how I looked as a woman and I said I had some pictures if she didn't mind looking. She practically jumped at the chance! Though she didn't have much of a reaction, we got talking about hair colours and which one best suited me (she agreed the light brown/auburn was the best!). We then moved onto talking about the clothes I was wearing, and what my bra band size was and was shocked at how small it was, and then onto shoes and how the ones I had on matched my skirt, and were they boots or tights, how my makeup was very minimal and whether I'd shaved before my visit and then gave me advice on what hair removal methods work.... She even said I looked so much younger and happier in my photos!
It was so refreshing and uplifting!
The next, and possibly final, coming out obstacle is my Dad. Or Step-Dad technically, but I call him Dad because he pretty much raised me in place of my real father. He's quite narrow-minded and a stereotypical 'bloke' (or 'guy' I think is the American term?) with little tolerance for anything different. Due to things happening at home right now, my Mum is going to wait a couple of weeks before telling him herself. Me, her and my Nanna all agree it would likely go better if my Mum talks to him first and then a Skype conversation follows a few days later when he has had time to process it. I'd rather she didn't since it means my Mum fighting my battle for me, but I believe it will give the best outcome.
Onwards and upwards!
