I can believe I am going to be the fly in the ointment.
Sweetie, people love, deeply love a train wreck. They crave it. Do for you and f them. There is not a thing wrong with you wearing it but only if you do it for you. Attack life and never ask for approval.
Katherine Hepburn said, "Never complain, never explain." I cannot imagine a better way to live our life. I know that I have complained a lot but I try not to. The thing is the attitude. I read your posts and you look for approval so much. I am not saying you shouldn't, just saying they, we, don't mean squat.
Own it and the world will love you. Don't ask for permission.
Hugs