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Transmen ONLY poll

Started by KarlMars, January 28, 2018, 12:12:15 AM

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Which gender do you date?

Male
16 (30.8%)
Female
17 (32.7%)
Both
8 (15.4%)
Neither
3 (5.8%)
Other (please explain below)
8 (15.4%)

Total Members Voted: 52

Berserk

Very much only into women, and especially feminine women/femmes
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Degenderate

Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...


Quote from: BT04 on April 04, 2018, 12:02:52 AM
However, I could see myself fooling around with a woman in a strict BDSM/kink sense - I probably wouldn't be attracted to her physically, and definitely not romantically, but she could be fun to play with for a scene if we had the mental chemistry.

I could see this being true to me as well. I'm not really attracted to the female body, but I think it's very elegant and pretty - if she had some cool costume on that covered up the scary parts, I would certainly be down to try. I can't imagine I'd be a lot of fun, though.    ;D
Adrian - 28 - FtM
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SeptagonScars

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

I get that guilty feeling. Although I am transitioning, I too can't imagine myself with a non-transitioning trans guy. I'm fine with female genitals, but then that is the only female trait that I am fine with... so I feel guilty about having "requirements" of other trans guys' medical transitions to be attracted to them.

That feels like I'm shallow and have a checklist for what's "approved" or something. As though that's insensitive. But then I also can't really help what I'm attracted to and what I'm not. I think for me, that's a big reason I tend to prefer aiming for cis guys while just being open to other trans guys, if that would just so happen.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
*
Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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Kylo

A non-transitioning FTM would need to look/sound quite androgynous at the least, although I'm not particularly attracted to gigantic bears and tend to prefer cis men with a slight hint of androgyny to them (except in the face). But there are some undeniable male features that do have to be there for all that to "work". Otherwise it would probably seem close to dating a butch lesbian and I have reservations there. Yeah I think they'd probably have to be transitioning properly.
"If the freedom of speech is taken away, then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."
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Degenderate

Haha, that's a relief. Glad I'm not the only one!    :P
Adrian - 28 - FtM
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BT04

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

Not non-transitioning, but I'll never have bottom surgery. And yeah, this. I don't think I could go near an exposed vagina without feeling like it was gross, which would be HELLA unfair to everyone involved. I don't see anything to feel guilty about, preferences and triggers are exactly what it says on the tin.

QuoteI could see this being true to me as well. I'm not really attracted to the female body, but I think it's very elegant and pretty - if she had some cool costume on that covered up the scary parts, I would certainly be down to try. I can't imagine I'd be a lot of fun, though.    ;D

A lot of people, especially trans people, seem to be into elegance and all that stuff... I don't really get it. I wanna bang in the back of a muddy truck. I like brute force, dirt, sweat, the subtle threat of violence from both parties. And that usually means meeeennnn lol.
- Seth

Ex-nonbinary trans man, married to a straight guy, still in love. Pre-T, pre-op.
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Corax

Quote from: Degenderate on April 10, 2018, 05:24:26 PM
Just...so gay. I'm A-OK with cis dudes, and I think trans guys are hot as hell, but I would have a really tough time being with a non-transitioning trans dude, purely because female genitals freak me right out. Makes me feel guilty, since I am a non-transitioning trans dude. But that dysphoria, man...

Quote from: SeptagonScars on April 11, 2018, 12:10:26 PM
I get that guilty feeling. Although I am transitioning, I too can't imagine myself with a non-transitioning trans guy. I'm fine with female genitals, but then that is the only female trait that I am fine with... so I feel guilty about having "requirements" of other trans guys' medical transitions to be attracted to them.

That feels like I'm shallow and have a checklist for what's "approved" or something. As though that's insensitive. But then I also can't really help what I'm attracted to and what I'm not. I think for me, that's a big reason I tend to prefer aiming for cis guys while just being open to other trans guys, if that would just so happen.

I would not be able to be with a non-transitioning transman either and I don't feel guilty about it at all and I don't think that anyone should have to feel guilty about not being attracted to certain sex characteristics.
I am attracted to the male physique and I find the female body unaesthetic, I find tits gross and vaginas outright repulsive, plus I don't even like high-pitched voices at all. So of course I only feel attraction towards men who possess a male appearance what includes male body parts whether biological or surgically reconstructed.

That has nothing to do with me being shallow or judgemental or insensitive or whatever, it's just me being gay and only attracted to male parts. 
And I honestly would get quite unpleasant if someone ever accused me of being shallow or insensitive or a lot of worse stuff  I am not, solely because of my natural sexual orientation and because I don't ever want to get anywhere near tits and vaginas because I am repulsed by those parts. 
Unfortunately there are people of certain political ideologies screaming bigot and transphobe in order to guilt trip people if they aren't attracted to and not willing to be in a sexual relationship with people regardless of genitalia and sex characteristics. And for those people to place such a judgement onto others due to an aspect they can't change (sexual orientation/attraction) or chose or do anything about is actual bigotry in my book. 

Aside from all of that, hypothetically speaking, who would it help if I dated a non-transitioning transman? And why would he want to be with someone like me who was not attracted to his body in the first place? I think he wouldn't want that!
It wouldn't work. It would have the potential to worsen his dysphoria and everyone would lose big time.
Plus, I personally think that the person deserved to be with someone who found him attractive that way and I couldn't provide that. 
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SeptagonScars

Quote from: Corax on April 12, 2018, 05:04:56 PM
I would not be able to be with a non-transitioning transman either and I don't feel guilty about it at all and I don't think that anyone should have to feel guilty about not being attracted to certain sex characteristics.
I am attracted to the male physique and I find the female body unaesthetic, I find tits gross and vaginas outright repulsive, plus I don't even like high-pitched voices at all. So of course I only feel attraction towards men who possess a male appearance what includes male body parts whether biological or surgically reconstructed.

That has nothing to do with me being shallow or judgemental or insensitive or whatever, it's just me being gay and only attracted to male parts. 
And I honestly would get quite unpleasant if someone ever accused me of being shallow or insensitive or a lot of worse stuff  I am not, solely because of my natural sexual orientation and because I don't ever want to get anywhere near tits and vaginas because I am repulsed by those parts. 
Unfortunately there are people of certain political ideologies screaming bigot and transphobe in order to guilt trip people if they aren't attracted to and not willing to be in a sexual relationship with people regardless of genitalia and sex characteristics. And for those people to place such a judgement onto others due to an aspect they can't change (sexual orientation/attraction) or chose or do anything about is actual bigotry in my book. 

Aside from all of that, hypothetically speaking, who would it help if I dated a non-transitioning transman? And why would he want to be with someone like me who was not attracted to his body in the first place? I think he wouldn't want that!
It wouldn't work. It would have the potential to worsen his dysphoria and everyone would lose big time.
Plus, I personally think that the person deserved to be with someone who found him attractive that way and I couldn't provide that.

I don't think I should feel guilty or shallow over it, cause I know I'm not doing anything wrong with who/what I'm attracted to. But I feel that way despite what I logically think about it. I'm grossed out by tits too, and not into high-pitched voices or curvy bodies in general either, especially not in combination with tits.

I don't really care about what people with certain political ideologies or agendas might think of my sexuality/attraction (cause I wouldn't date them anyhow), but more so about the feelings of the individual people I may or may not date based on my attraction or lack thereof. But then maybe I'm unnecessarily paranoid about that.
Mar. 2009 - came out as ftm
Nov. 2009 - changed my name to John
Mar. 2010 - diagnosed with GID
Aug. 2010 - started T, then stopped after 1 year
Aug. 2013 - started T again, kept taking it since
Mar. 2014 - top surgery
Dec. 2014 - legal gender marker changed to male
*
Jul. 2018 - came out as cis woman and began detransition
Sep. 2018 - stopped taking T and changed my name to Laura
Oct. 2018 - got new ID-card

Medical Detransition plans: breast reconstruction surgery, change legal gender back to female.
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Degenderate

Quote from: SeptagonScars on April 14, 2018, 11:17:12 PM
I don't think I should feel guilty or shallow over it, cause I know I'm not doing anything wrong with who/what I'm attracted to. But I feel that way despite what I logically think about it. I'm grossed out by tits too, and not into high-pitched voices or curvy bodies in general either, especially not in combination with tits.

Yes, it's basically this. To be honest, I don't really hold myself to the same standard as I do with other people, I'll feel guilty about things that logically aren't my fault. From anyone else, I think feeling that way is super reasonable.

I do feel like it's a shame, though. I aesthetically enjoy the look of transmen who retain some of the androgeny/less typically hyper-masculine appearance.
Adrian - 28 - FtM
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Laurie

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April 13, 2019 switched to estradiol valerate
December 20, 2018    Referral sent to OHSU Dr Dugi  for vaginoplasty consult
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November 15, 2018    First letter from VA therapist
May 11, 2018 I am Laurie Jeanette Wickwire
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Jun  26, 2017 Last day in male attire That's full time I guess
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Sethie The Tenor

I am currently not dating anyone, I would like to date another guy, I want a boyfriend badly, so then I will have someone to be gay with that is all mine lol
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Adrian26

I don't pay attention to the body or gender when looking for a partner. I usually get to know them as a person first and it usually goes through like friends to lovers kinda thing
Love who you love, do what you want, and live life to the fullest. They're gonna talk about you anyways so might as well make their conversation interesting. Live as yourself, not someone everyone else wants you to be.
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darksou

I'm into people of all/most genders. My current partner is a man and I love him a lot, but I also had some crushes on women and nonbinary people in the past.