You know, there's a lot of "my life was more sh*t than yours" around here sometimes, but I want to say something now: No matter how old you are, this crap is not easy. Younger transitioners may be slightly more accepted by society and have access to better care, but they go through things many of the older generation cannot even fathom: abuse, abandonment, worse things I can't even think about right now. On the other hand, the older generation gives up and loses things that are more precious than life itself sometimes: children, partners, an entire lifetime.

Who's to say which life is harder?

I've read some of the saddest things I've ever come across in my entire life here today, and I'm sitting here at work choking back my tears because I CANNOT afford questions.

We need each other people. Please, we can disagree and argue and debate, that's what families do, but please, just be there for each other when it's needed.

My gods, I hope none of my posts came across that way.

I openly acknowledge that I've been through far less sh!t than many others on this board. If I've led anyone to thing otherwise, that was not my intention and all I can say is that I'm sorry.

Please Shades, I wasn't pointing any fingers at anybody. If you feel it doesn't apply to you then you are very likely right (YOU are right, by the way )

I just cannot understand sometimes how there can be so much suffering and sadness in our community and for us to still remain sane, and it hurts and horrifies me when we turn on each other over stupid things. There are enough a**eholes out there that would gladly burn us or stone us if the laws of your country and mine and those of all the other people on here didn't restrain them from doing so. Go to some places in this sad, sh*t world, and you WILL get put to death. We need each other. We really do.

In my senior year in high school, I was a peer counsellor for a day shelter for runaway and abused youths. There were those who would brag about who had the worst home life. I never quite understood it. I'd written it off to the imaturity of youth, which was really rather ageist of me.

But, it's not just angst-ridden teenagers who do this, I'd find out later. It seems to be a human thing. I'm not defending it. It sucks. But, it's there.

You're right: we need to stick together and support each other. There will always be those who have suffered more and less than any of us. Even if they've suffered less, they've still suffered.

I think there is a natural tendency to 'be the best' - if you can't be the best at being the best, then you can be the best at having it the worst.

I know it was a landmark in my life when I got a chance to be part of 'the best' - it drove all that other stuff away.  I guess that's the whole finding your bliss stuff.

Quote from: lady amarant on March 18, 2008, 09:48:12 AM
Please Shades, I wasn't pointing any fingers at anybody. If you feel it doesn't apply to you then you are very likely right (YOU are right, by the way )

I just cannot understand sometimes how there can be so much suffering and sadness in our community and for us to still remain sane, and it hurts and horrifies me when we turn on each other over stupid things. There are enough a**eholes out there that would gladly burn us or stone us if the laws of your country and mine and those of all the other people on here didn't restrain them from doing so. Go to some places in this sad, sh*t world, and you WILL get put to death. We need each other. We really do.

Dear Lady, I cannot understand why we who are TS turn on each other for any reason.  There are very few of us in this world and it should be rather easy for us to have our differences yet be there as dependable support for one another. 

I suppose that pride has a lot to do with such falling-out.  It seems to be the root cause.

Think about it.  One root cause.

Let us be nice and deferent to one another, giving each other all of the leeway that we can short of being berated or otherwise abused.  We all have our own special piece of this puzzle to share and we are all a part of one another.

If I fail to live-up to what I have written, please take me aside and say so.

Thank you for hearing me out.

Wing Walker

Quote from: tekla on March 18, 2008, 11:47:20 AM
I think there is a natural tendency to 'be the best' - if you can't be the best at being the best, then you can be the best at having it the worst.

Too funny!

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I know it was a landmark in my life when I got a chance to be part of 'the best' - it drove all that other stuff away.  I guess that's the whole finding your bliss stuff.

All my life I tried so hard to be the best at something... anything.  I finally found something a few years ago and I have been very proud of the reputation I earned. The thing that is so cool is that people have been able to take the things I have made and us THEM as bragging rights.  You know you've achieved something when that happens.  I'm not bragging.....  I'M BRAGGING! (I'm humble too!) 

Cindi 

Oh my dear sweet lady Amarant, what has got you so upset?

I know, I go through enough threads here in one day that I certainly can't respond to them all but I do look for those who need support and ask them if the wish to share. If they do that's fine, and if they don't, well, I asked and that's fine as well.

I myself have been living a life among the general population in the out there for the past 8 years. I have have had some very wonderful discoveries in my new role as female. I would not give it up for anything. I love who I am but, then, I also human and as such I go through different moods and sometimes my emotions get away on me. I came back here because I got lonely after being pensioned off two years ago. So when I found this place I was happy to return and in what ever capacity that I may best help others.

As for the kids on this board, I think they're probably the greatest kids I have ever had the pleasure and honor of meeting.  I could only wish that our generation had got to know these young-uns. They have guts, resiliency, and persevrence.  They are strong, weak, happy, and not happy; they are wonderful young people and I find myself privilaged to share my ideas and feelings and sometimes even my silly humor with them.

Cindy 

Personally I think 'our' problem is as we transition we are real 'inbitweenies' neither male or frmale, so we still have a bit of the aggression of men together with the bitchiness women can have. In general though the girls I have met on line are certainly some of the nicest people I have ever met!!!

Strangely enough I had just posted the following blog entry before reading this post:

QuoteAll of a sudden all my best friends are girls!!
By which I don't mean they were born and raised as females, they have all reached different stages on the long agonizing road to correct the horrendous trick nature played on them. So kind, so helpful, and oh so special in every way, they really are unique.

If I was a full blooded heterosexual male I could well question why on earth any man would want to be a woman, if I was I would want to know how could anyone be so misguided. Why go through all the pain, heartache and naked aggression from others, when you are already by far the best example of life on this or any other planet??? THE HUMAN MALE!!

In the previous paragraph I was simply remembering how many men think, thankfully it is not something I will be doing ever again, thinking like a man! Again if you are a heterosexual male, you are probably thinking how could someone turn his back on his mates and drinking buddies to do something so ... er ... well ... wet ... as becoming a woman. Before you know it they'll be liking pink, weepy movies and wearing make up!!! Well, I do, I do and I do!! And no I wouldn't marry a philistine like that! Thankfully, every good decision does have a positive result and getting to know my new girl friends, but which I mean friends who are girls, is one of the best things ever to happen to me.

So if you are a new girl, or thinking you may be transsexual don't just sit there and watch, get involved! The best women in the world are there to help – all you have to do is ask. Each of us have got our own unique life stories about how we reached the point in our lives when we could no longer live the lie and had to step out to become the women we are or will be. You can learn from all these stories, and who knows? You could even find yourself a proper girlfriend or two like I did.