Quote from: V M on May 03, 2018, 02:23:52 PM
Strangely enough,  we're still friends and he still comes around to see me and has me over, gives me rides to the store, makes suggestive remarks, but then he also says rather rude things that make me feel bad and even kinda pisses me off sometimes 

I don't know what to think

What does he say?

It's kinda hard for me to describe, just odd guy stuff I guess about having a big penis and so forth - He is a nice guy and he'll compliment me with somewhat flattering comments but then sometimes I feel like he's making fun of me

Probably I've just been out of the dating loop too long and haven't really dealt with these things from a woman's perspective before

It's all pretty new for me but I'm learning

Oh wow I think he's coming onto you. I mean talking about his penis? Guy friends don't just do that unless they want to be upgraded to at least a friend with benefits

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good luck

Invite him over to watch a movie.  Have some booze to loosen things up.  Wear a tank top.  Sit close. Flirt.  Drink. Flirt. Put your hand on his thigh like Danielle says.   If necessary, move higher.   Q(I feel like I'm writing erotica,lol).   This should get you to the goal.  Sometimes with men, despite their testosterone, they lack the ability to seal the deal.   

He stopped by yesterday and I just happen to be wearing a tank top because it was a warm day - That did seem to perk his interest though

But later in the evening he referred to me as sir

I think I'm over it

sorry

Quote from: V M on May 05, 2018, 04:31:57 PM
He stopped by yesterday and I just happen to be wearing a tank top because it was a warm day - That did seem to perk his interest though

But later in the evening he referred to me as sir

I think I'm over it

What a jerk.

Not worth it then. Next

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Ugh! I really wanted a happy-kissy ending to this one but that last bit is pretty much a deal-breaker. It also seems like (and I may be way off base) he is attracted to you but does not know how to process it because of the trans element? Like....he feels the urge to be with you but he can't get past his own insecurities or prejudices. If that's the case, then you are def better off without. Not worth another second.

Quote from: Alyssa Bree on May 06, 2018, 05:39:40 PM
Ugh! I really wanted a happy-kissy ending to this one but that last bit is pretty much a deal-breaker. It also seems like (and I may be way off base) he is attracted to you but does not know how to process it because of the trans element? Like....he feels the urge to be with you but he can't get past his own insecurities or prejudices. If that's the case, then you are def better off without. Not worth another second.

Yep, that's pretty much the vibe I'm pickin' up - I'll continue to stay friends with him but I'm not going to let myself get too worked on it

Good for you hon!


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Alyssa

"Sir"?  Yeah, I agree with everyone else.  It sounds like he is attracted to you and is dealing with some issues.  I'd be careful around him-these conflicted ones can sometimes become dangerous.