Should I celebrate Father's Day or Mother's Day?

Ryuichi13 · June 17, 2018, 02:00:42 PM

I have a question tha's been bothering me since Mother's Day this year.

As a FTM, I'm not sure if I should celebrate Father's Day or Mother's Day.

What does those with children celebrate once you've decided to transition?

Either way, Happy Father's Day everyone, FTM or MTF!

Ryuichi

Northern Star Girl · June 17, 2018, 03:14:19 PM

Quote from: Ryuichi13 on June 17, 2018, 02:00:42 PM
I have a question tha's been bothering me since Mother's Day this year.

As a FTM, I'm not sure if I should celebrate Father's Day or Mother's Day.

What does those with children celebrate once you've decided to transition?

Either way, Happy Father's Day everyone, FTM or MTF!

Ryuichi

@Ryuichi13 Well, since you asked, my careful opinion is that for a transitioined MTF, if there are children that were old enough to know you as a male father figure that you might consider letting them celebrate Fathers Day for you and with you. No matter what happens you are will always be their father.
The opposite of course goes for a FTM, a mother you will always be to your children.

On the other hand, if there are good relations going on with all of your family members,
and especially with very young children involved
you possibly can celebrate one or both days as you and they feel comfortable.
For the MTF.... mommy#1 and mommy#2 ....
and for the FTM daddy#1 and daddy#2

I know, I know, my answer is a non-answer... I can not see how one answer fits all.
Danielle

DawnOday · June 17, 2018, 03:19:20 PM

When I came out to my kids they told me. "You will always be Dad" "You gotta be who you feel comfortable being"

Donna · June 17, 2018, 03:52:54 PM

I did father's day this year don't know what I'll do with next year.
It's a strange thing to figure out my wife did father's day for me with a lighted makeup
Mirror

epvanbeveren · June 17, 2018, 10:59:42 PM

When I came out to my children I told them I will not take their father away from them, however I will be transitioning to a happier me.

So I am female and they call me dad, but in public places, outside the family, they use mostly female pronounces. My youngest daughter calls me momy2.

So yes, father's day for me.

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Should I celebrate Father's Day or Mother's Day?

Ryuichi13

Northern Star Girl

DawnOday

Donna

epvanbeveren