I did hear from one of my sisters about another matter. It is tangentially related to the coming out letter. If I had not just sent the letter out to her, I would not give it a second thought.
In an email she relates that she has a granddaughter with some health issues. The doctors are struggling, it seems, to determine what the source of the problem is. She wrote the email to me and my other sisters and brother asking for medical histories. On the the surface it seems reasonable to get some family member health history.
If it was the typical general questions about occurrences of cancer, heart disease and the like I would not get too upset about it. Medical forms ask those kind of questions all the time. Her request was for great detail. Life-long details. Dates and medications. Operations. Details that I would expect from my doctor about my health history but I have never had a doctor get that specific about a close relative's health history.
On my coming out letter I told them all that I have satisfied my doctor and the various government agencies that I had received "appropriate clinical treatment" and I am now female. I explicitly told them that the nature and extent of my physical changers was a private matter among me, my wife, my doctors and my therapist.
Now, for my paranoia. Is this sister mining for information about my transition and the alterations I have done to my body and the hormones I am taking? The amount of detail she is looking for, the type of things she wants to know and the timing of the request all give me cause for suspicion. To fully provide the information she purports to need, I would have to tell her about my HRT medications and any transition related surgeries I may have had. I hate to think she is being that duplicitous and disrespectful. But, this does not feel right.
To add to the unsettling nature of the email, she made no mention of the letter I sent. Nothing to let me know she had received it. No indication she was giving it any consideration. It's as though I never sent it to her. If she really has not received the letter then I do not know how to sign any reply I might send out.
All of this has me in a real quandary as to how to handle it. If my sister's granddaughter really needs the information, I would not withhold it for even a second. But, if this is some ploy to get information my sister has no right to, or need of, I am really ticked off. I just don't know what to do.
Stevi